Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thanks for everyone's thoughts. The person who told me about drinking is my husband. We vary greatly on our thoughts of alcohol. He doesn't usually drink while at home besides maybe a beer or two a few times a year. But he believes if you are socializing, you need to drink to have fun. He's an introvert himself so the alcohol lets his inhibitions down so he can let loose. After being together for 31 years, he still thinks I should drink even though he has seen me have fun and socialize without alcohol.

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I drink alcohol and sometimes I don’t. It has little to do with my company and more to do with my schedule and workload.

If someone is bothered that you aren’t drinking alcohol in a social situation, it says more about their relationship with alcohol than it does about you.

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Anonymous wrote:Most of us have friends who don’t drink, are former alcoholics, are pregnant at time, on WW, etc and don’t drink and there is no issue.

But you do seem from the way you write that you have a chip on your shoulder about drinking .

If it came off as I have a chip on my shoulder I don't. I'm still very annoyed by the discussion last night. I'm fine with anyone drinking as long as they don't feel the need to push there you should drink opinions on me. Then I'll push back with why do you feel the need to drink.

Your husband is telling you that you are annoying and boring AF which is how you're coming across here too. Next time he should just leave you at home.

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Anonymous wrote:I rarely drink. I'll enjoy a drink (one single drink) every now and then, like maybe 5-15 drinks over the course of an entire year. But I absolutely don't need it.

Admittedly, I do judge people who feel the need to drink at social events - they're masking something, or using alcohol as a crutch to get them through, and I think that's harmful.

An occasional celebratory drink is one thing. Normalizing it every time you get together or have an event, is indicative of a problem. And if you need more than one drink to get a buzz, then you definitely have a problem because your tolerance is completely muted.

This is all just your opinion, not fact.

It's a fact. There are a lot of people who are in incredible denial about their alcohol dependency, as a normal thing to order every time they go out or get together with others.

No, it is not a fact. You saying so does not make it so. Everyone who likes to have a drink in a social event is not “alcohol dependent,” and not getting a buzz from one drink is a sign of nothing.

If you need more than one drink to get a solid buzz, then you either:

1) are just completely immune to the effects of alcohol altogether
2) weigh 400lbs
3) have build up a tolerance due to excessive drinking

I love how non-drinkers come on here and are the experts on alcohol. I take your admonishments about as seriously as I would a vegetarian's advice on the best cuts of steak.

I'm not a non-drinker. I drink occasionally - maybe about 10x a year. You have built up a big tolerance due to excessive drinking, if 1 drink does virtually nothing for you.