Anonymous wrote:and then the kids become teens and want to go to NYC but it's too far. life doesn't end with club soccer.
Isn’t that a feature, not a bug?
I’d move, and shorten your commute. Take the number of hours you’re save each week on commuting, multiply it by the number of hours you work each year, and then multiply it by 10ish. That’s how many hours of your kids’ childhood you’re giving up to stay in the beach community. If you had to move to a terrible town, the calculus might be different, but you say the inland town is nice with good schools. Move.