Is combined finances the primary reason you both divorced?

I am assuming there were more issues at play and unless you both receive counseling for those issues then it is best to live apart even though you share two kids together.

Anonymous wrote:But without combined finances
I’d have to move and change jobs to be where he is
We have two kids one 8th grade one 6th grade doing okay in local public
I’d still be working FT since no combined finances

Go for it Op, well done!

What a cool way for him to avoid paying child supports get free childcare, and not actually divorce right now.

Get the needy ex to move states, bring the prop kids, have her shut up and shlog along.

Anonymous wrote:Adding, says he loves me I have mixed feelings as we separated for a reason. No infidelity.

So you’re still legally married? Never did the final paperwork or divorce process?

You’d have to be a real sucker to quit your job, relocate with middle school aged kids, go over by him and THEN get served divorce papers after 6 months.

That’s the most likely outcome. His lawyer told you to get the kids over there. And this is how to do it, if you’re truly that dumb.

No way in hell.

Is this a troll joke?

Some idiot calls you up and tells you to move and you ask DCUM?

Anonymous wrote:But without combined finances
I’d have to move and change jobs to be where he is
We have two kids one 8th grade one 6th grade doing okay in local public
I’d still be working FT since no combined finances

So what.

What do you want?

Anonymous wrote:Listen he misses your p***y and if you miss his d***k you guys can just become friends with benefits and call it the day.

Do you really think they're going to be FWB long distance, PP? You didn't really read the thread with much attention.

Listen he misses your p***y and if you miss his d***k you guys can just become friends with benefits and call it the day.

Anonymous wrote:OP. There’s no romantic relationship right now but he wants one.

He’s realized he doesn’t like taking care of himself, can’t get a girlfriend, and wants you to move and take care of him.

Why are you even asking us this question? You know what’s happening. Face it and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:If he wants back he should come to you, not you move there and disrupt the kids lives. I’m quite sure he will say he can’t relocate.

Already suggested and correct. He can’t relocate bc of job that he says “supports the family” but again, finances are actually separate and he pays 10% or less of actual earnings towards child support/expenses.

No. He just wants to stop paying child support. Once you are there he will bully you for 50/50 on everything while you do all the parenting. I am betting you make less than he does.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. If I move he will pay for private, summer camp, vacations, housing. But I’m on my own for retirement.

My perspective is how do we make joint decision without joint future interest. To me looks like he’s in it until college at the latest. His perspective is even so I’d be better off than I am now.

Wtf does that even mean? Is he saying he’s planning to divorce again in retirement? If not, how does he envision retirement playing out?

Means I’m responsible for my own retirement savings and if I don’t like his plan for housing/location/circumstances am on my own.

Sounds like you were lucky to get rid of him the first time...

Have some self respect, OP.

So you can cook, clean, bring his kids back to him, work full time and still have sex with him BUT you can't touch his money and you have to move across the country?

Do you really hear yourself?

That's a hard no.