Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 23:06     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
My husbands vasectomy was a condition of my agreeing to a second pregnancy. No way does one partners body become joint property while the other reaps only benefits. That this is somehow controversial shows how badly we’re coddling men in this country.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 23:03     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:Ugh I think it’s so creepy how many men feel entitled to push women to go on hormonal birth control so that the sex could be better and more convenient for them. In college being on the pill was such a norm for everyone, but it was supposed to be about women having more control over their lives, not a new norm for men to expect of women.


Excellent point
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 23:02     Subject: Re:Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:If you don't want to be pregnant again, go get your tube's tied. You can't tell him what to do. But, you can eaaily make that choice for yourself.


Most common complication of tubal ligation is ectopic pregnancy. Which is life threatening.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 21:26     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
My husband was the same way. It made me so angry that he was unwilling to get a V. He had a lot of toxic masculinity reasons to not do it (though he is not like that in other aspects of life.).

Then I went in to get another IUD and the doctor failed to place it. It was a truly painful experience and at the end, I was in tears because all that pain was for nothing.

When he saw me crying, he finally agreed to the vasectomy. And it was totally smooth and fine and now he’s happy he got it done. But he needed to see me in tears before it got through to him that I’d been through enough.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 21:25     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:Vasectomy is so easy. Guys who don’t get it are idiots. I give them major side eye because they are low-key indicating that they might want to have another kid. And likely not with you. They are keeping their options open.

-Man with a Vasectomy


They’re mostly just scared or uninformed about the procedure.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 21:20     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Husband did it after two kids. Easy, but he said he was sore longer than the doctor said he would be--but that's like two days instead of one and sitting all day at a desk job. It was no big deal and we were forever after able to have sex without worrying about anything. Highly recommend.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 21:15     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Ugh I think it’s so creepy how many men feel entitled to push women to go on hormonal birth control so that the sex could be better and more convenient for them. In college being on the pill was such a norm for everyone, but it was supposed to be about women having more control over their lives, not a new norm for men to expect of women.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 21:09     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Another man here who got snipped - it really was easy. Had the procedure on a Friday, spent the weekend watching TV and was back at work on Monday.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 21:07     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Vasectomy is so easy. Guys who don’t get it are idiots. I give them major side eye because they are low-key indicating that they might want to have another kid. And likely not with you. They are keeping their options open.

-Man with a Vasectomy

OP, if I were you, I would confront DH with this - see what he says.


He's 53! I mean, I guess that might still be a possibility!
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 20:23     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Use Natural Family Planning (track your cycle) in combo with Pull and Pray. That's what we do! Works well as long as he's not a premature ejaculator.


No...this is how I ended up with my second unplanned pregnancy.


How’d you end up with your first unplanned pregnancy?

Sounds like a user error issue.


He forced it. I was off the pill for two days in my mid 30s (was sick and had just gotten home from the hospital and taking the pill was the last thing on my mind). Years later had sex once more. I was tracking once just in case because I was not going back on any pill for a no action situation and it was not a good marriage. We never had sex again. Divorced years later. We agreed no kids before getting married. He “changed his mind” but not have a conversation about it because he knew I would say no. He took matters into his own hands. I got pregnant from one time sex twice—years apart—in my 30s. I really wasn’t expecting to have sex again, but it had been years and I did track the natural planning thing. It turns out that I ovulate on a different timeline than most women.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 20:20     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
It’s more than reasonable OP. Any responsible man should step up without complaint or keep it covered.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 20:16     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
When my wife was prepping for her C section, her longtime ob-gym said: “So while I have you cut open, I can tie your tubes. It’s a bit dicey as it involves more blood loss, so we need to see how it’s going before we start that second surgery.”

At which point I chimed up and said “No worries, we already chatted and I’m getting a vasectomy. Seems way easier.”

The ob-gym then said to my wife: “That’s the response I want to hear. Most husbands are not offering to do that, so I always need to ask the woman giving birth.”

So yeah, lots of guys out there who won’t consider a vasectomy.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 19:48     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:Tubal ligation is done under general anesthesia! General anesthesia, laparoscopic surgery and even outpatient visits to a hospital come with risks of infection, strokes, neurological damage and exposing yourself to errors, plus I think it’s contraindicated if the patient has ever had a history of endometriosis.

Vasectomy is performed under local anesthesia, takes around 12 minutes and full recovery soreness at the surgical site are typically fully resolved within three days, sexual function can resume within 10 days in most cases.

When I had a vasectomy the doctor gave me a prescription for single Valium that I forgot to take, I drove myself to and from surgery and spent the rest of the day watching TV.
I was back at my very physically demanding job the following day. My recovery was complete and I was back in action within a week, the only sort of scary thing that happened was my first “issue“ was kinda bloody, that possibility was in the pamphlet but I didn’t bother reading that far down.

My wife had two natural child births and a C-section, two 1/4” incisions and a 12 minute surgery was the least I could do.

Your husband is being a lightweight and I’m sorry.

+1, except we have 3 kids and I believe the vasectomy took less than 5 minutes, including a quick shave of the boys.
A vasectomy ain't nothin' compared to a woman getting her tubes tied + it can be reversed!
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 19:47     Subject: Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:Vasectomy is so easy. Guys who don’t get it are idiots. I give them major side eye because they are low-key indicating that they might want to have another kid. And likely not with you. They are keeping their options open.

-Man with a Vasectomy

OP, if I were you, I would confront DH with this - see what he says.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2024 19:46     Subject: Re:Making my husband get a vasectomy
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you don't want to be pregnant again, go get your tube's tied. You can't tell him what to do. But, you can eaaily make that choice for yourself.


Again she’s offered condoms and abstinence. Why do men discount every option that’s less than ideal for *them*

+1
Rawdog or nothing for these AHs