Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Op here. To respond to a few questions, the siblings are G/B. Setting is a townhouse community. Various neighbors are out walking or walking their dogs 24/7 as you can imagine in close quarters. 13yo has a cell phone and 8yo is highly risk averse. This would be one occasion and the home does have an alarm system.
I recall being home alone as a teen too as some have shared. I was torn on a sitter or not. This would be approx 9am-3/4pm.
I did something similar to attend a funeral, except kids were 14, 12 and 10 and we were 3.5 hours away. I notified our neighbors that we'd be gone so they knew to be on the lookout. I told DCs they weren't allowed to play outside (I didn't want anyone wrecking their bike) and logged into Door Dash on the 14 yo phone so they could order dinner, which could be dropped off so they didn't need to open the door. We always have the neighbors phone numbers listed in the kitchen for emergencies.
OP - you should teach the 8 yo how to unlock the 13 yo's phone, or set up Alexa to be able to call you. That way if anything happens to the 13 yo, the 8 yo can still call.
Anonymous wrote:Op here. To respond to a few questions, the siblings are G/B. Setting is a townhouse community. Various neighbors are out walking or walking their dogs 24/7 as you can imagine in close quarters. 13yo has a cell phone and 8yo is highly risk averse. This would be one occasion and the home does have an alarm system.
I recall being home alone as a teen too as some have shared. I was torn on a sitter or not. This would be approx 9am-3/4pm.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would 100% incentivize the 13yo to be with the 9yo.
That means:
- watching a movie together that the 9yo picks
- craft making together (obviously something simple, like a bead bracelet)
- board game together
- video games together
All will be good if the 13yo understands their responsibility here.
And I would not make it public to the 9yo that the 13yo is getting paid or getting a reward.
HAHAHA. You don't have boys, that one thing is certain.
And no, the 13 year doesn't have to cater to the whims of younger sibling. The 9 year old can learn to share and negotiate what they watch and is equally responsible as appropriate for their age level.
But I would be fine with it if there were neighbors or friends close by that they could call if needed.
I do have a boy. Almost the exact same age. 14yo boy. 10yo girl.
And my boy is a wonderful older brother who would happily spend time with his little sister. And we would thank him for be responsible and caring to his younger sister with a small reward afterwards
You’re horrible!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would 100% incentivize the 13yo to be with the 9yo.
That means:
- watching a movie together that the 9yo picks
- craft making together (obviously something simple, like a bead bracelet)
- board game together
- video games together
All will be good if the 13yo understands their responsibility here.
And I would not make it public to the 9yo that the 13yo is getting paid or getting a reward.
HAHAHA. You don't have boys, that one thing is certain.
And no, the 13 year doesn't have to cater to the whims of younger sibling. The 9 year old can learn to share and negotiate what they watch and is equally responsible as appropriate for their age level.
But I would be fine with it if there were neighbors or friends close by that they could call if needed.
I do have a boy. Almost the exact same age. 14yo boy. 10yo girl.
And my boy is a wonderful older brother who would happily spend time with his little sister. And we would thank him for be responsible and caring to his younger sister with a small reward afterwards
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No.
7 hours is long.
2 hours away is far.
Can't you get a sitter or other responsible adult (or call in a favor with a friend for a one-time hangout?)
+1. Dh and I have gone to dinner nearby and left our kids that age home alone, but it was for 2 hours max, and we were literally a 5 minute drive away. I wouldn’t do that long or that far.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would 100% incentivize the 13yo to be with the 9yo.
That means:
- watching a movie together that the 9yo picks
- craft making together (obviously something simple, like a bead bracelet)
- board game together
- video games together
All will be good if the 13yo understands their responsibility here.
And I would not make it public to the 9yo that the 13yo is getting paid or getting a reward.
HAHAHA. You don't have boys, that one thing is certain.
And no, the 13 year doesn't have to cater to the whims of younger sibling. The 9 year old can learn to share and negotiate what they watch and is equally responsible as appropriate for their age level.
But I would be fine with it if there were neighbors or friends close by that they could call if needed.
I do have a boy. Almost the exact same age. 14yo boy. 10yo girl.
And my boy is a wonderful older brother who would happily spend time with his little sister. And we would thank him for be responsible and caring to his younger sister with a small reward afterwards
Anonymous wrote:gender is important here. two girls might be fine in most households. two boys no way. boy and a girl could go either way, i see more neglect happening with opposite gender sibs if they don't normally play together, like the older one will not notice if the younger one has gotten themselves in a situation.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yep, I’d do it and not think twice. I was 12 years old and babysitting an 8 year old, 4 year old, and 2 year old. No cell phones, no immediate way to reach parents. Lay the ground rules, let a neighbor or friend know what’s up, and go.
My DD is almost 12 and is nowhere near responsible enough to do this. I’d be ok with. Her being a mother’s helper but not babysitting. It’s great you did it and everyone survived but that doesn’t mean it should be the norm.
OP I would only do this if I had a trusted neighbor/friend/family member close by. 2 hours away is too far.
There’s also a big difference between 11 (the age of your kid) and 13 (the age of OPs oldest). You’re basically comparing a rising 6th grader to a rising 8th grader, when your 6th grader starts MS next year you will understand the gap between those ages better.
Op here. My 13yo is actually rising 9th grade. Which I know seems a little old for a babysitter so I am reading all replies. 9yo is rising 5th in our home.
Is it too old to have a baby sitter for the day going into 9th? Encourage independence or have someone over? Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would 100% incentivize the 13yo to be with the 9yo.
That means:
- watching a movie together that the 9yo picks
- craft making together (obviously something simple, like a bead bracelet)
- board game together
- video games together
All will be good if the 13yo understands their responsibility here.
And I would not make it public to the 9yo that the 13yo is getting paid or getting a reward.
⬆️ Troll trying to trigger grown older siblings.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yep, I’d do it and not think twice. I was 12 years old and babysitting an 8 year old, 4 year old, and 2 year old. No cell phones, no immediate way to reach parents. Lay the ground rules, let a neighbor or friend know what’s up, and go.
My DD is almost 12 and is nowhere near responsible enough to do this. I’d be ok with. Her being a mother’s helper but not babysitting. It’s great you did it and everyone survived but that doesn’t mean it should be the norm.
OP I would only do this if I had a trusted neighbor/friend/family member close by. 2 hours away is too far.
There’s also a big difference between 11 (the age of your kid) and 13 (the age of OPs oldest). You’re basically comparing a rising 6th grader to a rising 8th grader, when your 6th grader starts MS next year you will understand the gap between those ages better.
Op here. My 13yo is actually rising 9th grade. Which I know seems a little old for a babysitter so I am reading all replies. 9yo is rising 5th in our home.
Is it too old to have a baby sitter for the day going into 9th? Encourage independence or have someone over? Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yep, I’d do it and not think twice. I was 12 years old and babysitting an 8 year old, 4 year old, and 2 year old. No cell phones, no immediate way to reach parents. Lay the ground rules, let a neighbor or friend know what’s up, and go.
My DD is almost 12 and is nowhere near responsible enough to do this. I’d be ok with. Her being a mother’s helper but not babysitting. It’s great you did it and everyone survived but that doesn’t mean it should be the norm.
OP I would only do this if I had a trusted neighbor/friend/family member close by. 2 hours away is too far.
There’s also a big difference between 11 (the age of your kid) and 13 (the age of OPs oldest). You’re basically comparing a rising 6th grader to a rising 8th grader, when your 6th grader starts MS next year you will understand the gap between those ages better.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'd get a sitter.
Many 13 years olds are sitters. I would be comfortable with this.
Anonymous wrote:https://www.montgomerycountymd.gov/mcfrs-info/Resources/Files/Home%20Alone/homealone.pdf
That is a long time, and you will be far away if something happens. I'd probably get a sitter, OP.