Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 03:39     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Letting your special snowflake shop around to every club at their leisure is not helpful to anyone.


When I spend on a high ticket item, I like to see the different options before making a decision. If something goes away, I can live with that more than making a haste decision and later regretting that I didn't vet everything out before making that decision.

Do you buy that house or car because the sales person says, "You better but it now or someone else will have taken it by the time you decide this is what you want." I'll take my chances.

Go to as many tryouts as you and your child desires. Make the decision after you've see all the options. If a coach/club says you no longer have that spot, there's plenty of other places to play in my opinion and I wouldn't like to spend the next year knowing I was high pressured into buying into something I wasn't comfortable doing.
Anonymous
Post 05/03/2024 03:30     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
If you've waited until tryouts before evaluating a prospective club and team, you're already behind in the process. You should have done this with the teams your child wants to play for already. You're supposed to already be on the offer list even if you don't go to the official tryouts.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 23:42     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
If I was a player on that team, I would be very upset. Your commitment to your current team for the remainder of the season should be top priority.  If we had a game and tryouts on the same day, we would go to the game and contact the club hosting the tryout and let them know if we can attend a practice.


 
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have players who have accepted an offer for another team. They continue to practice with us and also practicing with their new team once a week.

We have players that will be joining our team next season. The player continues to come to our practices.

I personally think players should stay with their current club till the end of the season. But this is what happens when tryouts are held so early and offers are given.


One team in our club had to forfeit a game last weekend because players were at another club's tryout instead. This in season tryout cycle is problematic.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 23:39     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Yes. You have to remember many of the teams will have returning players and therefore the chances of securing a top team spot are very limited.


Anonymous wrote:Is it fair to assume that if your dc doesn't get an offer pretty much the day after tryouts end, that she wasn't a first choice for the team?
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 23:38     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Ok, here’s a different etiquette question: do you all ask parents of teammates whether their kids plan to stay or leave? The kids on my child’s team are openly talking to each other about which tryouts they have gone to and what offers they have received. It’s hard to tell whether people are seriously considering leaving, or just testing the waters. This is probably the first year most of them have gone around to different tryouts. My child’s interest in staying vs. leaving depends heavily on whether their teammates are sticking around. I too worry that the team will be depleted next year and they will struggle. It feels like the conversations among parents are hush hush. I’d rather get it all out in the open. Based on what the kids are saying, most are not competing with one another for spots. The other offers have all been from different clubs.


Depends on the families and how close you are with them. I wouldn't open a group chat and start asking who's staying and leaving; but it's fine to do so at practice or on the sidelines with parents you know if you're comfortable asking, especially with the understanding you're trying to decide if staying is worth it if everyone else's or not.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 21:03     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Is it fair to assume that if your dc doesn't get an offer pretty much the day after tryouts end, that she wasn't a first choice for the team?


Yes, if a player doesn't receive an offer the following day the player was not their first choice. However, at the end the goal is to get on the team. Who cares if the player wasn't the club's first choice. There are teams that take over a week to send out offers because players decline them.


if my kid was one of the last few choice i would be worried about play time
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 21:00     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have players who have accepted an offer for another team. They continue to practice with us and also practicing with their new team once a week.

We have players that will be joining our team next season. The player continues to come to our practices.

I personally think players should stay with their current club till the end of the season. But this is what happens when tryouts are held so early and offers are given.


One team in our club had to forfeit a game last weekend because players were at another club's tryout instead. This in season tryout cycle is problematic.


Who had tryouts on a weekend?


VYS
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 20:54     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:Is it fair to assume that if your dc doesn't get an offer pretty much the day after tryouts end, that she wasn't a first choice for the team?


Yes, if a player doesn't receive an offer the following day the player was not their first choice. However, at the end the goal is to get on the team. Who cares if the player wasn't the club's first choice. There are teams that take over a week to send out offers because players decline them.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 20:49     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Is it fair to assume that if your dc doesn't get an offer pretty much the day after tryouts end, that she wasn't a first choice for the team?
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 20:48     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Ok, here’s a different etiquette question: do you all ask parents of teammates whether their kids plan to stay or leave? The kids on my child’s team are openly talking to each other about which tryouts they have gone to and what offers they have received. It’s hard to tell whether people are seriously considering leaving, or just testing the waters. This is probably the first year most of them have gone around to different tryouts. My child’s interest in staying vs. leaving depends heavily on whether their teammates are sticking around. I too worry that the team will be depleted next year and they will struggle. It feels like the conversations among parents are hush hush. I’d rather get it all out in the open. Based on what the kids are saying, most are not competing with one another for spots. The other offers have all been from different clubs.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 20:24     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Timing of tryouts and offers is suboptimal for teams. We have two seasons in a row that offers came one day before a big tournament. No need to say that there were a few kids very upset with the offers, and tinted the atmosphere at the tournament.

For clubs, I understand it is a first move advantage. Fully agree it messes up the spring season, but players-customers-families unfortunately have little say if they want to play for a specific club.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 19:11     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We have players who have accepted an offer for another team. They continue to practice with us and also practicing with their new team once a week.

We have players that will be joining our team next season. The player continues to come to our practices.

I personally think players should stay with their current club till the end of the season. But this is what happens when tryouts are held so early and offers are given.


One team in our club had to forfeit a game last weekend because players were at another club's tryout instead. This in season tryout cycle is problematic.


Who had tryouts on a weekend?
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 18:46     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
I really hate tryouts this early. It makes the whole spring season weird. My DC is staying with the team (as is most of the team), but it still feels really weird.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 18:15     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
Anonymous wrote:We have players who have accepted an offer for another team. They continue to practice with us and also practicing with their new team once a week.

We have players that will be joining our team next season. The player continues to come to our practices.

I personally think players should stay with their current club till the end of the season. But this is what happens when tryouts are held so early and offers are given.


One team in our club had to forfeit a game last weekend because players were at another club's tryout instead. This in season tryout cycle is problematic.
Anonymous
Post 05/02/2024 18:06     Subject: Offer/Tryouts Etiquette
We have players who have accepted an offer for another team. They continue to practice with us and also practicing with their new team once a week.

We have players that will be joining our team next season. The player continues to come to our practices.

I personally think players should stay with their current club till the end of the season. But this is what happens when tryouts are held so early and offers are given.