Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 10:10     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because my car died today, I met a very well-spoken and personable young AAA truck driver today. He was college aged and quite intelligent. I'm not sure what drove his decision, but his career choices (and those of others like him) are not helping the college dating scene for our daughters!

It's also impacting the experience of girls who are applying to college. Because there are so many more girls than boys applying to schools, and admissions folks try to "balance" gender by accepting a higher percentage of male applicants, admissions are much, much more competitive for girls at many popular schools such as Brown, Vassar etc.
I guess if you want to meet boys, go to trade school!


The issue is not lifting up women.

The issue is that over the past decade, there has been a coordinated effort to push down males and to discourage them from achieving. Most of the qualities that create good men, strong husbands, positive fathers and prociders have been branded as evil in the name of "toxic masculinity"

I have all sons. They are great kids who I have been raising to be good husbands, fathers and providers. They have had multiple teachers over the years openly disparage men, including regularly slamming "privileged white men" Is is any wonder that many of the young men, growing up in an environment where they and things that make quality adult men are openly disparaged in their schools and media, are now not seeking to achieve?


I’m sure those teachers graded your boys fairly just like they graded the girls…
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 10:10     Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
I totally agree with you, we need to stop with the "toxic masculinity" comments as this is the main reason men today are not stepping up to the plate, we have totally castrated todays men.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 10:01     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Because my car died today, I met a very well-spoken and personable young AAA truck driver today. He was college aged and quite intelligent. I'm not sure what drove his decision, but his career choices (and those of others like him) are not helping the college dating scene for our daughters!

It's also impacting the experience of girls who are applying to college. Because there are so many more girls than boys applying to schools, and admissions folks try to "balance" gender by accepting a higher percentage of male applicants, admissions are much, much more competitive for girls at many popular schools such as Brown, Vassar etc.
I guess if you want to meet boys, go to trade school!


The issue is not lifting up women.

The issue is that over the past decade, there has been a coordinated effort to push down males and to discourage them from achieving. Most of the qualities that create good men, strong husbands, positive fathers and prociders have been branded as evil in the name of "toxic masculinity"

I have all sons. They are great kids who I have been raising to be good husbands, fathers and providers. They have had multiple teachers over the years openly disparage men, including regularly slamming "privileged white men" Is is any wonder that many of the young men, growing up in an environment where they and things that make quality adult men are openly disparaged in their schools and media, are now not seeking to achieve?
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:58     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the problem. I thought men are gross losers who women put up with out of financial necessity. If women are going to college and getting financially independent, why do they care about dating classmates?


Awwww, bless your heart. Are you a #boymom?
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:58     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:one of the reasons why dd didn't select W&M...


W&M ratio is fairly gender-balanced in the scope of Virginia public schools and among liberal arts colleges.
W&M ratio is 58% women, 42% male--same as JMU's.
UVA's ratio is close to that-- 56% women, 44% male
GMU is closely balanced at 52% women, 48% male.
VCU is one of the more tilted among popular in-state publics 64% women, 36% male, as is UMW at 63% women, 37% men.
VT is reversed at 57% male, 43% female.

Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:52     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:I think 60/40 is probably fine but wouldn’t like 70/30.


I grew up with a bunch of sisters and only 2 brothers.

I think as close to 50/50 as possible is ideal, followed by a school that skews slightly more male.

A majority female school (more than 55% female) sounds like a nightmare.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:49     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:An interesting recent read for you:
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/08/magazine/men-college-enrollment.html

My kid's friends who are freshmen at Tulane say it has a big impact for girls who'd like to date boys. Smaller pool of available options, more competition for "the good ones".


With so many girls now lesbians, I would think the dating pool would be huge for straight girls in high school and college.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:43     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
one of the reasons why dd didn't select W&M...
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:35     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Because my car died today, I met a very well-spoken and personable young AAA truck driver today. He was college aged and quite intelligent. I'm not sure what drove his decision, but his career choices (and those of others like him) are not helping the college dating scene for our daughters!


I know a number of men in the trades. Good jobs, good pay, and usually pretty low stress too. I envy that when their workday ends, it's really over for the day.

But based on reading other DCUM threads, these men are not worthy of dating because they do not meet the standards of many women, lacking a college degree and all.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:30     Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:men who went to college before were middle class, now men who go to college think they are "it", much harder for women to find quality men


its really unfair, no matter what happens guy end up with the advantage--before in jobs and maybe even now, but definitely now in dating


Wait, wtf? Guys clearly do not have an advantage in applying to college (that’s why they’re in the minority) which automatically means a disadvantage in applying to quality jobs but you’re moaning that men have all the advantages? 🙄


They're in the minority because fewer are applying. They're opting to not go to college. They're generally getting in at higher rates.


Yes, but keep in mind that the admission rates are relatively close. At one school, it might be 10% admission rate for girls and 12% admission rate for boys. At another, it might be 53% admission for girls and 56% admission for boys. It is not drastically different, by any means.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:26     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
I don't understand the problem. I thought men are gross losers who women put up with out of financial necessity. If women are going to college and getting financially independent, why do they care about dating classmates?
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:24     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:An interesting recent read for you:
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/08/magazine/men-college-enrollment.html

My kid's friends who are freshmen at Tulane say it has a big impact for girls who'd like to date boys. Smaller pool of available options, more competition for "the good ones".


Better be one of the "good ones" to match then.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:24     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just have her major in electrical engineering. She will have her pick of men in most of her classes, school doesn’t matter.


The odds are good, but the goofs are odd.


I'm keeping it.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:23     Subject: does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Just have her major in electrical engineering. She will have her pick of men in most of her classes, school doesn’t matter.


The odds are good, but the goofs are odd.
Anonymous
Post 04/24/2024 09:22     Subject: Re:does the female>male ratio at schools impact the experience for girls?
Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately K-12 is taught by majority female and boys struggle more. Because of this, they burn out and aren’t interested in college. The problem needs to be fixed at that level. Make it more enjoyable for boys, not just sit all day and take notes.


If they don't like free school, why would you make it your goal to trick them to go to expensive school instead? Let them do something better with their time than school.