Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:44     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
This is why you're single.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:43     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tito's is a great, neutral vodka at a moderate price. It's my go-to vodka when making limoncello.


Fine value vodka for at home and throwing parties. Is it worth name dropping in public, on a first date no less? No.


Specifying what brand you want is not “name-dropping”. Jfc
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:42     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:I kind of feel this. When I was dating, I would not have found it very hot for a man to order a vodka cocktail. It’s a little girly and for people who don’t like the taste of alcohol. Gin and tonic, okay. Whiskey would be better.

I don’t go around saying these things, of course.


I don’t know how widespread this belief is but many of my girlfriends are convinced gin & tonic is something only gay men drink. I am not kidding.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:41     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is perfectly fine to want a partner who sends signals that they conform to gender norms. If you're on a date and the man is effeminate it's valid to be turned off by it.


So do you only drink really fruity feminine drinks to be sure men know how feminine you are? Wouldn’t want to show how masculine you are by having a beer and turning him off completely.


I don't go out of my way to do things I don't want to do. If I can wanted a beer and a guy was turned off by that in a first date that's his right to feel that way and find someone else.


Absolutely, I think Mr. Tito and Soda should date someone other than OP.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:39     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is perfectly fine to want a partner who sends signals that they conform to gender norms. If you're on a date and the man is effeminate it's valid to be turned off by it.


So do you only drink really fruity feminine drinks to be sure men know how feminine you are? Wouldn’t want to show how masculine you are by having a beer and turning him off completely.


I don't go out of my way to do things I don't want to do. If I can wanted a beer and a guy was turned off by that in a first date that's his right to feel that way and find someone else.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:39     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
When my DH and I were dating his drink of choice was vodka red bull. He rarely drinks now but if he does it's typically grey goose or similar on the rocks. A double. Which I guess makes it double feminine.

Weird comment on a totally normal drink. Is it the lemon wedge? A lemon wedge screams gay to you? (I say this because we all know what "feminine" means."

Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:37     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tito’s & soda is super common. (Bartender here.) I guess I get it if you want a “unique” guy, but if he treats you well & seems fun/into your interests, I would not rule him out.


Vodka soda is super common amongst women (counting their calories). It is a girlie drink choice and you know it.

And specifying Tito’s, a bargain/value vodka, at a nice place looks prole if nothing else. If you’re trying to make a good first impression on a date and prefer a vodka cocktail, at least make it Ketel One or Grey Goose. If you consume two drinks, that’s an insignificant sum of money.


I thought Russian men drink vodka. Are they girlie? (By the way, it was actually a Russian friend who put me on to Tito’s years ago).
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:36     Subject: Re:Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:Anyone over 45 remember the Girl Drink Drunk sketch from Kids in the Hall?


Yes!! He was blending margs in the closet at work! So funny
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:36     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tito’s & soda is super common. (Bartender here.) I guess I get it if you want a “unique” guy, but if he treats you well & seems fun/into your interests, I would not rule him out.


Vodka soda is super common amongst women (counting their calories). It is a girlie drink choice and you know it.

And specifying Tito’s, a bargain/value vodka, at a nice place looks prole if nothing else. If you’re trying to make a good first impression on a date and prefer a vodka cocktail, at least make it Ketel One or Grey Goose. If you consume two drinks, that’s an insignificant sum of money.


Personally I think threads and responses like this are very valuable to see who is giving advice on much more serious topics. Chances are the poster above who looks down on someone’s drink choices as prole and girlie isn’t a person shares my values in other things too.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:35     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:It is perfectly fine to want a partner who sends signals that they conform to gender norms. If you're on a date and the man is effeminate it's valid to be turned off by it.


So do you only drink really fruity feminine drinks to be sure men know how feminine you are? Wouldn’t want to show how masculine you are by having a beer and turning him off completely.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:34     Subject: Re:Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anyone over 45 remember the Girl Drink Drunk sketch from Kids in the Hall?
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:31     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
I love how people have established poison as top shelf and impressionable.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:30     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tito’s & soda is super common. (Bartender here.) I guess I get it if you want a “unique” guy, but if he treats you well & seems fun/into your interests, I would not rule him out.


Vodka soda is super common amongst women (counting their calories). It is a girlie drink choice and you know it.

And specifying Tito’s, a bargain/value vodka, at a nice place looks prole if nothing else. If you’re trying to make a good first impression on a date and prefer a vodka cocktail, at least make it Ketel One or Grey Goose. If you consume two drinks, that’s an insignificant sum of money.


If you think a drink order indicates a good or bad first impression, your judgement is out of whack. I'd much prefer a man who knows what he wants/enjoys instead of one trying to be someone he's not in the name of impressing a first date.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:30     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
The idea of anyone thinking any vodka is a top shelf anything other than just getting price scammed is hilarious.
Anonymous
Post 04/21/2024 08:28     Subject: Getting the ick from date’s drink order?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Tito's is a great, neutral vodka at a moderate price. It's my go-to vodka when making limoncello.


Fine value vodka for at home and throwing parties. Is it worth name dropping in public, on a first date no less? No.


It’s not a name drop, can you order vodka they always ask you what you want and you never mix a top shelf anything.