Anonymous wrote:I only buy bike short or skort for my DD.

+1

I only buy bike short or skort for my DD.

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Anonymous wrote:WHy is there no middle ground between burqas and having your childs ass hanging out in these discussions

This may sound weird but the shorter athletic shorts (hottie hots and the athleta run free 2.5) don’t bother me. My 12 year old’s ass isn’t hanging out of them (she is only 5 feet tall) and she actually also wears them when she runs, not just with a tank top or a t shirt that makes it look like she’s not wearing shorts. Ass hanging out is where I draw the line, the shorts otherwise being short though isn’t something I’m stressing over.

I'm 5'0" and all torso. 2.5" inseam shorts never looked short on me, even in an era when short-shorts were popular.

My 12 year old is 5'4" and all legs. Same inseam looks very different on her. Rear is still not hanging out and I would probably be fine with it, but she prefers a longer inseam so that's what we do.

My problem is the width of the shorts. They're so wide!

Yes, the width is kind of crazy. My DD prefers still wearing the size 9/10 instead of the 12 because the 12 is too wide. Since she’s not super tall she can get away with the 9/10 not looking too short.

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Anonymous wrote:WHy is there no middle ground between burqas and having your childs ass hanging out in these discussions

This may sound weird but the shorter athletic shorts (hottie hots and the athleta run free 2.5) don’t bother me. My 12 year old’s ass isn’t hanging out of them (she is only 5 feet tall) and she actually also wears them when she runs, not just with a tank top or a t shirt that makes it look like she’s not wearing shorts. Ass hanging out is where I draw the line, the shorts otherwise being short though isn’t something I’m stressing over.

I'm 5'0" and all torso. 2.5" inseam shorts never looked short on me, even in an era when short-shorts were popular.

My 12 year old is 5'4" and all legs. Same inseam looks very different on her. Rear is still not hanging out and I would probably be fine with it, but she prefers a longer inseam so that's what we do.

My problem is the width of the shorts. They're so wide!

Anonymous wrote:WHy is there no middle ground between burqas and having your childs ass hanging out in these discussions

This may sound weird but the shorter athletic shorts (hottie hots and the athleta run free 2.5) don’t bother me. My 12 year old’s ass isn’t hanging out of them (she is only 5 feet tall) and she actually also wears them when she runs, not just with a tank top or a t shirt that makes it look like she’s not wearing shorts. Ass hanging out is where I draw the line, the shorts otherwise being short though isn’t something I’m stressing over.

Anonymous wrote:WHy is there no middle ground between burqas and having your childs ass hanging out in these discussions

+1

WHy is there no middle ground between burqas and having your childs ass hanging out in these discussions

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly no. I gave up on that one.

I drew a harder line on tops (I don’t allow anything that shows stomach at all or is low cut etc at this age).

I don’t think there is a right answer (and I don’t judge other parents by what they allow- it is hard) but IME you do have to pick your battles with things like this.

What is wrong with short tops or shorts? Teen boys like that look, and that’s totally normal.

Are we raising a generation of puritans?

So? My DD is not a prostitute.

-DP

OK so she IS a puritan. Make her dress head to toe with no skin at all exposed.

Or just send her to the convent now and get it over with.

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Anonymous wrote:Honestly no. I gave up on that one.

I drew a harder line on tops (I don’t allow anything that shows stomach at all or is low cut etc at this age).

I don’t think there is a right answer (and I don’t judge other parents by what they allow- it is hard) but IME you do have to pick your battles with things like this.

What is wrong with short tops or shorts? Teen boys like that look, and that’s totally normal.

Are we raising a generation of puritans?

So? My DD is not a prostitute.

-DP

OK so she IS a puritan. Make her dress head to toe with no skin at all exposed.

We haven't had this issue; maybe we're defining "really short" differently? But we've always found plenty of options among the too short ones.

For more of a structured style, DD (12) likes American Eagle - the "Midi" style is a good in between, IMO. I don't think I could ever convince her to wear full on bermudas.

https://www.ae.com/us/en/p/women/low-rise-shorts/low-rise-midi-shorts/ae-next-level-low-rise-denim-midi-short/1332_7777_970?menu=cat4840004

https://www.ae.com/us/en/p/women/high-waisted-shorts/high-waisted-baggy-relaxed-shorts/ae-strigid-4-perfect-denim-short/0547_7702_540?nvid=plp%3Acat380159&prevPageGroupId=cat1820001&menu=cat4840004

And for those that care about brand names (and my dd is increasingly in that category, so not a statement of judgment), Lululemon has plenty of options. I agree that the shortest Hotty Hot shorts are darn short, but I don't see what's inappropriate about something like this: https://shop.lululemon.com/p/women-shorts/Track-That-HR-Lined-Short-5/_/prod11130485?color=38470

or this:
https://shop.lululemon.com/p/women-shorts/Softstreme-HR-Short-4/_/prod11020341?color=64244

or this:
https://shop.lululemon.com/p/women-shorts/Track-That-HR-Lined-Short-5-MD/_/prod11270133?color=34668

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Anonymous wrote:The division should be middle school and high school. The tween label could mean anything to people.

This. A 9 year old is definitely not a tween, my kid turned 9 in the 2nd half of 3rd grade! Although as a parent of a tween (12) I like perusing the threads here that are specific to teens to get a sense of what lies ahead.

9 year olds (especially younger sibs) are definitely wearing Lulu hottie hots and carrying Stanley’s where I live. Lord help us all.

That doesn’t make them a tween. That honestly makes them the kids of parents who want to call their 9 year olds tweens because they think it’s cute. My kid would not have been able to fit into Lulu hottie hots when she was 9, and I sure as hell wasn’t buying my 9 year old 70 dollar shorts!

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Anonymous wrote:The division should be middle school and high school. The tween label could mean anything to people.

This. A 9 year old is definitely not a tween, my kid turned 9 in the 2nd half of 3rd grade! Although as a parent of a tween (12) I like perusing the threads here that are specific to teens to get a sense of what lies ahead.

9 year olds (especially younger sibs) are definitely wearing Lulu hottie hots and carrying Stanley’s where I live. Lord help us all.

Anonymous wrote:The division should be middle school and high school. The tween label could mean anything to people.

This. A 9 year old is definitely not a tween, my kid turned 9 in the 2nd half of 3rd grade! Although as a parent of a tween (12) I like perusing the threads here that are specific to teens to get a sense of what lies ahead.

The division should be middle school and high school. The tween label could mean anything to people.

Wait we are calling 9yr old tweens now lol

Let them be kids. Jesus