OP: seems to be a consensus that the pregnancy test (among other things) are red flags. Still deciding what to do honestly, I really love spending time with him.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Honestly, given your trust issues and history of being cheated on, you should not be having sex -especially unprotected sex! with anyone. This guy doesn't respect you and is very selfish. You don't respect yourself. You are allowed to insist on condoms. This is your health, it is worth safe guarding. I would rather use condoms than rely on plan b...from what I've heard, the effects are not pleasant.

OP here, I am on Birth control now.

Anonymous wrote:Did you both get STI testing before rawdogging it? Why are using plan B as birth control? That's not what its for. Both of you need your head checked and he sounds like he's actively trying to get any female pregnant like he has a pregnancy fetish.

I used it once, while waiting for my pills to be sent to me. (Had to wait for an appointment as well). I wouldnt use it again, it was a terrible experience. I felt sick

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Anonymous wrote:He’s annoying. I don’t want to hear anything else about this relationship. Please end it

Actually I do need one additional piece of information….OP please confirm for us that he is broke and the level of brokenness. are we talking works at Taco Bell or what we talking?

OP here. He makes very good money and is a hard worker, always looking to move up. Kind of the opposite of me tbh.

Run away from this guy. Stop having sex with him!!!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Ok, these are the real red flags. And stand up for yourself. He has been fine with unprotected sex!? Of course he has! But why were you? As Dan Savage says, DTMFA. (You should also work on your trust issues, though.)

Get out now. He does not respect you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. He also said he doesn't know if he wants to be with someone who would go through his stuff like that and not trust him. He said it's making him question my morals. My ex cheated on me and I told him from the start that I have trust issues. This isn't the first thing I haven't trusted. He's getting tired of it.

Gaslighting. He’s gaslighting you to make you feel like the bad person and question your sanity.

Yes. Suspicious on his part.

DUMP him now!!! and be more careful and selective in the future. I think we all agree this guy SUCKS!!!

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t stay with someone who went through my stuff like that, or with someone who I didn’t trust like you clearly don’t trust him.

The fact that you have trust issues due to having been cheated on doesn't give you license to snoop and go through someone's drawers. Your trust issues are YOUR issues to work on.

OP, what is your SES?

Did you both get STI testing before rawdogging it? Why are using plan B as birth control? That's not what its for. Both of you need your head checked and he sounds like he's actively trying to get any female pregnant like he has a pregnancy fetish.

GASLIGHTER RUN!!!!!

Your instinct to check his drawers is smart. It is not immoral and don't let that tool gaslight you. He's been inside your vagina. There is nothing wrong with looking inside a bathroom drawer when you're a guest in his bedroom and use his bathroom.

But your instincts for self-protection are not NEARLY strong enough. You should never, never have trusted a guy you barely met with unprotected sex!

You do not need therapy because of lack of trust. You need therapy to realize why you trust TOO MUCH. You need therapy to value your life and health more than some stranger's pleasure.

You had good instincts to write here. You k who something is wrong. Please dump this dude. You are worth so much more.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I should add he doesn't like condoms and I wasn't on BC when we met. He has been fine with unprotected sex and doesn't like pulling out. I had to take plan b and now I started the pill even though I hate the hormones. I said if I got pregnant that I would want an abortion since it's so early, he says he would be happy with me having his baby.
Just makes me more suspicious that he could be careless like this with another woman, since he seems to want a baby and doesn't care about waiting too much first. That's why it wouldn't surprise me if he needed the test for another woman.

Whoa you are both super crazy