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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all so much for your suggestions and links and opinions! I am getting rid of every tshirt that I had in high school and everything I got with my mom (save for one tie dye sweatshirt) and about half my flannel pjs.

I'm getting this white top from Zara: https://www.zara.com/us/en/front-bows-top-p02866536.html?v1=345830676
This mock turtleneck from Reformation: https://www.thereformation.com/products/maylee-knit-dress/1313862BLK.html?dwvar_1313862BLK_color=BLK
This Aritizia dress (will go try it on to see if I want the pearl. navy or black: https://www.aritzia.com/us/en/product/spectre-dress/107246.html?dwvar_107246_color=30751

A well-dressed coworker I'm friendly with has agreed to go to Aritzia with me. I'm going to find a plain black t-shirt and a white one, and then will go to Aerie for a couple of new bras and underwear, though I don't really understand the difference between thong and cheeky, but figure as long as it's black that's a step in the right direction. I'm very excited to dress like a 25 yr old and get a couple of really nice things for date nights!

OP, be sure you're doing this because you would like to get of these clothes and not because your BF would like you to get rid of these clothes.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all so much for your suggestions and links and opinions! I am getting rid of every tshirt that I had in high school and everything I got with my mom (save for one tie dye sweatshirt) and about half my flannel pjs.

I'm getting this white top from Zara: https://www.zara.com/us/en/front-bows-top-p02866536.html?v1=345830676
This mock turtleneck from Reformation: https://www.thereformation.com/products/maylee-knit-dress/1313862BLK.html?dwvar_1313862BLK_color=BLK
This Aritizia dress (will go try it on to see if I want the pearl. navy or black: https://www.aritzia.com/us/en/product/spectre-dress/107246.html?dwvar_107246_color=30751

A well-dressed coworker I'm friendly with has agreed to go to Aritzia with me. I'm going to find a plain black t-shirt and a white one, and then will go to Aerie for a couple of new bras and underwear, though I don't really understand the difference between thong and cheeky, but figure as long as it's black that's a step in the right direction. I'm very excited to dress like a 25 yr old and get a couple of really nice things for date nights!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all so much for your suggestions and links and opinions! I am getting rid of every tshirt that I had in high school and everything I got with my mom (save for one tie dye sweatshirt) and about half my flannel pjs.

I'm getting this white top from Zara: https://www.zara.com/us/en/front-bows-top-p02866536.html?v1=345830676
This mock turtleneck from Reformation: https://www.thereformation.com/products/maylee-knit-dress/1313862BLK.html?dwvar_1313862BLK_color=BLK
This Aritizia dress (will go try it on to see if I want the pearl. navy or black: https://www.aritzia.com/us/en/product/spectre-dress/107246.html?dwvar_107246_color=30751

A well-dressed coworker I'm friendly with has agreed to go to Aritzia with me. I'm going to find a plain black t-shirt and a white one, and then will go to Aerie for a couple of new bras and underwear, though I don't really understand the difference between thong and cheeky, but figure as long as it's black that's a step in the right direction. I'm very excited to dress like a 25 yr old and get a couple of really nice things for date nights!

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all so much for your suggestions and links and opinions! I am getting rid of every tshirt that I had in high school and everything I got with my mom (save for one tie dye sweatshirt) and about half my flannel pjs.

I'm getting this white top from Zara: https://www.zara.com/us/en/front-bows-top-p02866536.html?v1=345830676
This mock turtleneck from Reformation: https://www.thereformation.com/products/maylee-knit-dress/1313862BLK.html?dwvar_1313862BLK_color=BLK
This Aritizia dress (will go try it on to see if I want the pearl. navy or black: https://www.aritzia.com/us/en/product/spectre-dress/107246.html?dwvar_107246_color=30751

A well-dressed coworker I'm friendly with has agreed to go to Aritzia with me. I'm going to find a plain black t-shirt and a white one, and then will go to Aerie for a couple of new bras and underwear, though I don't really understand the difference between thong and cheeky, but figure as long as it's black that's a step in the right direction. I'm very excited to dress like a 25 yr old and get a couple of really nice things for date nights!

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Anonymous wrote:https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=854782012&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=3&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&cvar=25411&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

This would be sexy if you have a great body, which it sounds like you do

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=404556002&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=11&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

And this is cute.

https://www.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=431154012&cid=13658&pcid=13658&vid=1&nav=hamnav%3AWomen%3ACategories%3ADresses&cpos=15&cexp=2859&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D13658&cvar=25411&ctype=Listing&cpid=res24031405824799505446478&ccam=31678#pdp-page-content

Both cute and sexy. Opinions of a middle aged woman.

None of these are sexy at ALL. The last one might be a little cute.

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Anonymous wrote:Gotta say, I had one boyfriend say this to me in my early 30s. I think I was feeling particularly vulnerable as this was the first relationship after my divorce that was riddled with infidelity. So, I tried it and subsequently felt so demeaned that I tossed the clothes and the guy.

Went back to the way I prefer to dress and do my hair & nails, and a couple of years later met the man of my dreams who -- 20 years later -- still loves me the way I am.

OP, I'd dump this guy if I were you.

Women don’t understand how much men derive status from flaunting a hot girlfriend. If OPs man just wanted her to look sexy for him, he would have asked her to dress up for him in the bedroom or asked her to wear specific items. But he wants to show off his GFs hot bod for other people, not just his own enjoyment.

Anonymous wrote:Gotta say, I had one boyfriend say this to me in my early 30s. I think I was feeling particularly vulnerable as this was the first relationship after my divorce that was riddled with infidelity. So, I tried it and subsequently felt so demeaned that I tossed the clothes and the guy.

Went back to the way I prefer to dress and do my hair & nails, and a couple of years later met the man of my dreams who -- 20 years later -- still loves me the way I am.

OP, I'd dump this guy if I were you.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you all so much for your suggestions and links and opinions! I am getting rid of every tshirt that I had in high school and everything I got with my mom (save for one tie dye sweatshirt) and about half my flannel pjs.

I'm getting this white top from Zara: https://www.zara.com/us/en/front-bows-top-p02866536.html?v1=345830676
This mock turtleneck from Reformation: https://www.thereformation.com/products/maylee-knit-dress/1313862BLK.html?dwvar_1313862BLK_color=BLK
This Aritizia dress (will go try it on to see if I want the pearl. navy or black: https://www.aritzia.com/us/en/product/spectre-dress/107246.html?dwvar_107246_color=30751

A well-dressed coworker I'm friendly with has agreed to go to Aritzia with me. I'm going to find a plain black t-shirt and a white one, and then will go to Aerie for a couple of new bras and underwear, though I don't really understand the difference between thong and cheeky, but figure as long as it's black that's a step in the right direction. I'm very excited to dress like a 25 yr old and get a couple of really nice things for date nights!

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Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

Where do you wear this kind of dress? I'll be honest and say my teenagers wear dresses like this everywhere in the summer, but I don't see adult women wearing them out.

PP, my sun dresses aren’t this short but I like the basic look. I’ll wear it to a casual party or to a nice lunch during the summer. I’m pretty trim, tall and fit so I can make it work.

I'm the one who asked the question because of the length of the dress. Where do you find sundresses that are a bit longer?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I would look through all the tops and dresses on Reformation. They are tasteful, form-fitting but not slutty.

Some of those dresses would definitely look slutty on most people.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I would look through all the tops and dresses on Reformation. They are tasteful, form-fitting but not slutty.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d wear this with sandals

https://www.thereformation.com/products/valencio-dress/1314996DCY.html?dwvar_1314996DCY_color=DCY

I’m the 10:23 and I love this, it’s just the kind of dress I switched to.

Where do you wear this kind of dress? I'll be honest and say my teenagers wear dresses like this everywhere in the summer, but I don't see adult women wearing them out.

PP, my sun dresses aren’t this short but I like the basic look. I’ll wear it to a casual party or to a nice lunch during the summer. I’m pretty trim, tall and fit so I can make it work.

I'm the one who asked the question because of the length of the dress. Where do you find sundresses that are a bit longer?