My most beautiful, gorgeous friend was unceremoniously dumped by her husband of 10 years, and not even for another woman. He was just sick of living with her. She is tall, beautiful, stylish, has great job, and I think would be perfectly happy to never see another man ever again.

I can’t say I was truly gorgeous but early in my career I made a point of “dressing down” to keep my looks from being either an advantage or a disadvantage. No make up, hair always in a pony tail and formless business attire. I think I looked attractive, professional and probably boring. My now husband worked at the same company and we were friends for over a year before he asked me out. For our first date I glammed up and when I opened the door he was very surprised in a WTF is going on manner. I’m the same way 15 years later as I have my work look, my mom look and then my wife look.

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Anonymous wrote:The post about marrying for money got me thinking about this.

Everyone seems to think that beautiful women just have the pick of every man, career, and thing they want in life because people fall all over themselves because of their beauty.

The few truly stunning women I have known in my life don’t have it any easier than others. They had their fair share of heartbreaks and passovers for promotions and mean, gossipy women they’ve had to deal with.

I think it’s just a good reminder that we are all just people trying to make it in the world and we shouldn’t assume anyone has it easier because of their looks.

Every single pretty girl I kew from college and after college are married. None of them are poor or not in a stable family. Most of their husbands are well off. One girl who was a 12/10 went to ESPN after college working in marketing. A director at ESPN ended up dating her and they got married. Easy life. Another very pretty girl 10/10 went to work at a design firm and a executive started dating her. They got married and moved to NC. They live on 10 acres of land in a 10,000sqft mansion. She still works as a designer part time but overall she can easy stay home and do nothing. But, she loves to work.

I don't know a single very attractive girl who isn't taken by early 30s UNLESS there is something wrong with their personality.

Don't say pretty girls don't have it easy. They 100% do.

You obviously don’t know any pretty girls who live in NYC or LA. There are loads of single beautiful women who are not married by 30 in both cities. Your acquaintance group sounds provincial, tbh.

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Anonymous wrote:The post about marrying for money got me thinking about this.

Everyone seems to think that beautiful women just have the pick of every man, career, and thing they want in life because people fall all over themselves because of their beauty.

The few truly stunning women I have known in my life don’t have it any easier than others. They had their fair share of heartbreaks and passovers for promotions and mean, gossipy women they’ve had to deal with.

I think it’s just a good reminder that we are all just people trying to make it in the world and we shouldn’t assume anyone has it easier because of their looks.

Every single pretty girl I kew from college and after college are married. None of them are poor or not in a stable family. Most of their husbands are well off. One girl who was a 12/10 went to ESPN after college working in marketing. A director at ESPN ended up dating her and they got married. Easy life. Another very pretty girl 10/10 went to work at a design firm and a executive started dating her. They got married and moved to NC. They live on 10 acres of land in a 10,000sqft mansion. She still works as a designer part time but overall she can easy stay home and do nothing. But, she loves to work.

I don't know a single very attractive girl who isn't taken by early 30s UNLESS there is something wrong with their personality.

Don't say pretty girls don't have it easy. They 100% do.

That would be statistically incorrect to say that beautiful women don’t get cheated on or don’t divorce. So they could be living in a mansion but then get their portion of s..t from husbands. There will be always a new younger version available to these executive level men .

I did notice from reserve search that most beautiful 45+ women on OLD are grey divorces. The women who were never married are usually much less attractive.

Show me a beautiful women and I’ll show you a man who is bored of f…g her

Anonymous wrote:The post about marrying for money got me thinking about this.

Everyone seems to think that beautiful women just have the pick of every man, career, and thing they want in life because people fall all over themselves because of their beauty.

The few truly stunning women I have known in my life don’t have it any easier than others. They had their fair share of heartbreaks and passovers for promotions and mean, gossipy women they’ve had to deal with.

I think it’s just a good reminder that we are all just people trying to make it in the world and we shouldn’t assume anyone has it easier because of their looks.

Every single pretty girl I kew from college and after college are married. None of them are poor or not in a stable family. Most of their husbands are well off. One girl who was a 12/10 went to ESPN after college working in marketing. A director at ESPN ended up dating her and they got married. Easy life. Another very pretty girl 10/10 went to work at a design firm and a executive started dating her. They got married and moved to NC. They live on 10 acres of land in a 10,000sqft mansion. She still works as a designer part time but overall she can easy stay home and do nothing. But, she loves to work.

I don't know a single very attractive girl who isn't taken by early 30s UNLESS there is something wrong with their personality.

Don't say pretty girls don't have it easy. They 100% do.

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Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

I hate to break it to you, but not everyone loses their beauty. I’m in my 30s and I do yoga with several gorgeous 70 something women. Obviously, 20 something men don’t see them as sex goddesses, but they are still very, very attractive. They haven’t been devastated by anything because they still turn the heads of men their age. Sorry!

My mother looks like she’s early 50s at 71 and she’s gorgeous - Maye Musk type. I’m 45 and my problem is that men who approach me in RL are too young:35-40. They think I’m mid 30s. I’m trying to find an older partner on OLD but there are very few good looking men over age 45 who still have hair, are over 5’10 and are fit.

The true tragedy is how horrible men look around that age. There is no reason for them to let themselves go like that.

Yes, I had dozens of dates so can tell now from own experience. Most were very decent professional men. But in 1.5 years on OLD I’ve only met 4 men aged 45-59 who would be sexually attractive for me enough to sleep with them. The rest were nice guys but I wouldn’t have sex with them for all the money in the world ! I never considered myself gorgeous like my mom was at same age. But all men tell me I’m a beauty. Of course it’s a matter of where you stand relative general population in your age group.

Sexy means no feminine features like big bellies, big butts or fat necks, maintains clean scalp (not all hair present is ok - I get it men have little power over this); regularly exercising, smells nice, good dental hygiene. I dated 2 out of these 4 decent looking guys. #3 had a lot of performance anxiety and couldn’t get it up (in his early 50s!) and #4 lied about his single status , so I ended up not sleeping with them

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

I hate to break it to you, but not everyone loses their beauty. I’m in my 30s and I do yoga with several gorgeous 70 something women. Obviously, 20 something men don’t see them as sex goddesses, but they are still very, very attractive. They haven’t been devastated by anything because they still turn the heads of men their age. Sorry!

My mother looks like she’s early 50s at 71 and she’s gorgeous - Maye Musk type. I’m 45 and my problem is that men who approach me in RL are too young:35-40. They think I’m mid 30s. I’m trying to find an older partner on OLD but there are very few good looking men over age 45 who still have hair, are over 5’10 and are fit.

The true tragedy is how horrible men look around that age. There is no reason for them to let themselves go like that.

Anonymous wrote:Here’s something else to keep in mind: the higher they are, the harder they fall.

We all age, go thru menopause, and lose our beauty. No, being beautiful is not the panacea to a perfect life, but it DOES afford one more opportunities and, let’s face it, the world is just *nicer* to you. It’s almost like being a minor celebrity, always being admired and complimented - the dopamine hits never stop. Until they do.

Then what? There are many former beauties that cannot accept this. They are grieving hard for what they have lost. It’s truly devastating for some.

And yet … they still look a lot better than overweight people with mediocre faces who age not too well. If I could choose I’d rather be a good looking older person than an overweight ugly older person.

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Anonymous wrote:Being gorgeous helps with men not with work. As a woman you can make more money by marrying than you can in a lifetime or working and there in lies the problem. Some women do both though and most of my friends are gorgeous AND make $250K—$500K a year. These women were 8-10/10 in their youth/up to age 40 but were also very substantive people.

I’ve been called gorgeous repeatedly throughout my life. Believe me it doesn’t help with men. It just means lots of jerks hit on me. Store clerks are nicer and strangers smile more. No one takes me seriously at work, except for other attractive women. The worst part is knowing how fleeting and superficial it is, but at the same time, I like being attractive. Weird, right?

It helps to attract super wealthy jerk. There is a class of women -beautiful professional wives of wealthy guys who coast from one husband to the next one. You would be surprised that this type continues coasting and finding what they want well into 60s. Really beautiful women age gracefully, and sometimes even look better in their 50s like a good wine

Anonymous wrote:Being gorgeous helps with men not with work. As a woman you can make more money by marrying than you can in a lifetime or working and there in lies the problem. Some women do both though and most of my friends are gorgeous AND make $250K—$500K a year. These women were 8-10/10 in their youth/up to age 40 but were also very substantive people.

I’ve been called gorgeous repeatedly throughout my life. Believe me it doesn’t help with men. It just means lots of jerks hit on me. Store clerks are nicer and strangers smile more. No one takes me seriously at work, except for other attractive women. The worst part is knowing how fleeting and superficial it is, but at the same time, I like being attractive. Weird, right?

Being gorgeous helps with men not with work. As a woman you can make more money by marrying than you can in a lifetime or working and there in lies the problem. Some women do both though and most of my friends are gorgeous AND make $250K—$500K a year. These women were 8-10/10 in their youth/up to age 40 but were also very substantive people.

Anonymous wrote:I sold my looks to an older workaholic jerk for a $5mm divorce settlement.

This is how it works.

In my extended family there are three or four young(ish) women who are very attractive and yet can't seem to get their shit together to save their lives. They can't seem to manage a simple, functional relationship with a guy or hold a job or have children within the confines of a solid relationship. It's very puzzling, but their looks don't seem to have helped them in life at all.

It gets late and the anonymous forum starts to get ugly.

I think of women like Marilyn Monroe, Anna Nicole smith and Whitney Houston. All gorgeous and they had hard lives. Gone before their time.