Anonymous wrote:So for the people who said they married for money, does that they didn’t marry for love? I didn’t “marry for money” though DH is well educated and reasonably successful. We met in college and, well, love each other a lot! We love hanging out together, get along great, support each other and make each other happy. The idea that some of you just want the money your spouse provides seems, uh, sad?
But if you saying you truly love your spouse and they happen to be loaded, then great. You win!
Anonymous wrote:This is why most UMC parents care about sending their kids to an 'elite' college. The SES vetting is handled by admissions and there are higher chances for meeting and mating with the 'right' kind of partner.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At 25 few people are wealthy unless born into it. You marry someone for many reasons including the potential to have a good career. We have plenty of wealthy friends and none of them were born into it. At the same time plenty of people never achieve their potential.
This. Most people are meeting their spouses in their 20s. They aren't rich yet. They may be in law school or med school, junior bankers, etc. and have potential. But plenty of junior biglaw associates never make the big bucks as partner.
I am mid 40s. Most people I know met their spouses in their 30s. NOT their 20s.
I can only think of one couple I know that met in their 30s. Certainly many got married in 30s, but they were together since 20s.
I don’t know any of those.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At 25 few people are wealthy unless born into it. You marry someone for many reasons including the potential to have a good career. We have plenty of wealthy friends and none of them were born into it. At the same time plenty of people never achieve their potential.
This. Most people are meeting their spouses in their 20s. They aren't rich yet. They may be in law school or med school, junior bankers, etc. and have potential. But plenty of junior biglaw associates never make the big bucks as partner.
I am mid 40s. Most people I know met their spouses in their 30s. NOT their 20s.
I can only think of one couple I know that met in their 30s. Certainly many got married in 30s, but they were together since 20s.
Anonymous wrote:I didn't marry for money but definitely encouraging my DD to consider it when getting hitched.
Anonymous wrote:“To be born poor is nothing to be ashamed of. To marry poor is just plain stupidity.”
—my dad 🙄
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:At 25 few people are wealthy unless born into it. You marry someone for many reasons including the potential to have a good career. We have plenty of wealthy friends and none of them were born into it. At the same time plenty of people never achieve their potential.
This. Most people are meeting their spouses in their 20s. They aren't rich yet. They may be in law school or med school, junior bankers, etc. and have potential. But plenty of junior biglaw associates never make the big bucks as partner.
I am mid 40s. Most people I know met their spouses in their 30s. NOT their 20s.
2nd spouses?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This is why most UMC parents care about sending their kids to an 'elite' college. The SES vetting is handled by admissions and there are higher chances for meeting and mating with the 'right' kind of partner.
I disagree with your statement. The parents have more confidence in their own kids. The hope for social mobility isn't in marrying well. It isn't even close to the top of the list as to why UMC parents want their kids to go to a top 5 type of college.