Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:55
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
The support system should be the father.
Surely, you can comprehend that there are other support systems for raising children like grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc.? And that likewise, not all husbands function well as either support systems or fathers? Why do you think so many people get divorced?
You’re suggesting that because some fathers may not function well, op doesn’t need one.
Btw, some mothers don’t function well.
You’re already putting the child at a disadvantage because of other “fathers and husbands.”
No, I’m not suggesting that at all. OP didn’t find a great man and she’s 37 and she earns enough money and wants to be a mom. It’s basically now or never. I’m suggesting that OP should go ahead and make her dream to be a mom come true and that she doesn’t need a man to do it. Would it be better to have a great husband on this road to parenthood? Of course! But that didn’t happen yet and she doesn’t have much time to waste looking for one. Maybe she can give it another year or two, but chances are she’ll just get desperate and choose a not so great guy because of it. She’s much better off doing it alone.
What I don’t think she should do is accept your ridiculous view that she must have a man to be a mom and that because she doesn’t have one, should resign her life to being a spinster with cats or dogs or whatever it is you think people unlucky in love must do instead of having children.
And I also think she’s far more likely to find a decent man down the road when she’s not desperate.
What you are suggesting is not what is best for a child.
The derogatory name you call single women is so sexist and offensive. Not all “spinsters” have lives revolves around having cats or dogs.
What a way to put women down! Sexist ass
Ireland just enacted legislation redefining the notion of a family. Kids adapt and no, it’s not a big deal to grow up with one excellent parent who cares. I had a much better life growing up with my single mom than my poor child who was torn after divorce between two houses
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:48
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
The support system should be the father.
Surely, you can comprehend that there are other support systems for raising children like grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc.? And that likewise, not all husbands function well as either support systems or fathers? Why do you think so many people get divorced?
You’re suggesting that because some fathers may not function well, op doesn’t need one.
Btw, some mothers don’t function well.
You’re already putting the child at a disadvantage because of other “fathers and husbands.”
No, I’m not suggesting that at all. OP didn’t find a great man and she’s 37 and she earns enough money and wants to be a mom. It’s basically now or never. I’m suggesting that OP should go ahead and make her dream to be a mom come true and that she doesn’t need a man to do it. Would it be better to have a great husband on this road to parenthood? Of course! But that didn’t happen yet and she doesn’t have much time to waste looking for one. Maybe she can give it another year or two, but chances are she’ll just get desperate and choose a not so great guy because of it. She’s much better off doing it alone.
What I don’t think she should do is accept your ridiculous view that she must have a man to be a mom and that because she doesn’t have one, should resign her life to being a spinster with cats or dogs or whatever it is you think people unlucky in love must do instead of having children.
And I also think she’s far more likely to find a decent man down the road when she’s not desperate.
DP. Thanks, but I am a single woman who doesn’t appreciate being called a spinster, nor do I have dogs or cats as you paint us spinsters as.
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:46
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
The support system should be the father.
Surely, you can comprehend that there are other support systems for raising children like grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc.? And that likewise, not all husbands function well as either support systems or fathers? Why do you think so many people get divorced?
You’re suggesting that because some fathers may not function well, op doesn’t need one.
Btw, some mothers don’t function well.
You’re already putting the child at a disadvantage because of other “fathers and husbands.”
No, I’m not suggesting that at all. OP didn’t find a great man and she’s 37 and she earns enough money and wants to be a mom. It’s basically now or never. I’m suggesting that OP should go ahead and make her dream to be a mom come true and that she doesn’t need a man to do it. Would it be better to have a great husband on this road to parenthood? Of course! But that didn’t happen yet and she doesn’t have much time to waste looking for one. Maybe she can give it another year or two, but chances are she’ll just get desperate and choose a not so great guy because of it. She’s much better off doing it alone.
What I don’t think she should do is accept your ridiculous view that she must have a man to be a mom and that because she doesn’t have one, should resign her life to being a spinster with cats or dogs or whatever it is you think people unlucky in love must do instead of having children.
And I also think she’s far more likely to find a decent man down the road when she’s not desperate.
What you are suggesting is not what is best for a child.
The derogatory name you call single women is so sexist and offensive. Not all “spinsters” have lives revolves around having cats or dogs.
What a way to put women down! Sexist ass
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:44
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am single, newly 37, want kids, never married. What advice would you give me?
Enjoy life, save for retirement and eldercare, get a puppy, foster children.
I concur
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:42
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Until there is a generation of men raised to treat women as equals in the home and workplace and to participate equally in all aspects of child-rearing and home management, many women won't have a choice but to set out on their own.
Yep more of this sexist drivel
Women still expect men to be the main breadwinners but also be half parent while they dont work
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:40
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
The support system should be the father.
Surely, you can comprehend that there are other support systems for raising children like grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc.? And that likewise, not all husbands function well as either support systems or fathers? Why do you think so many people get divorced?
You’re suggesting that because some fathers may not function well, op doesn’t need one.
Btw, some mothers don’t function well.
You’re already putting the child at a disadvantage because of other “fathers and husbands.”
No, I’m not suggesting that at all. OP didn’t find a great man and she’s 37 and she earns enough money and wants to be a mom. It’s basically now or never. I’m suggesting that OP should go ahead and make her dream to be a mom come true and that she doesn’t need a man to do it. Would it be better to have a great husband on this road to parenthood? Of course! But that didn’t happen yet and she doesn’t have much time to waste looking for one. Maybe she can give it another year or two, but chances are she’ll just get desperate and choose a not so great guy because of it. She’s much better off doing it alone.
What I don’t think she should do is accept your ridiculous view that she must have a man to be a mom and that because she doesn’t have one, should resign her life to being a spinster with cats or dogs or whatever it is you think people unlucky in love must do instead of having children.
And I also think she’s far more likely to find a decent man down the road when she’s not desperate.
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:34
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Until there is a generation of men raised to treat women as equals in the home and workplace and to participate equally in all aspects of child-rearing and home management, many women won't have a choice but to set out on their own.
Maybe OP is just a witch and no equal man wants her.
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:32
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Until there is a generation of men raised to treat women as equals in the home and workplace and to participate equally in all aspects of child-rearing and home management, many women won't have a choice but to set out on their own.
Yet, you need something from the man to make a baby.
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:31
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
The support system should be the father.
Surely, you can comprehend that there are other support systems for raising children like grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc.? And that likewise, not all husbands function well as either support systems or fathers? Why do you think so many people get divorced?
You’re suggesting that because some fathers may not function well, op doesn’t need one.
Btw, some mothers don’t function well.
You’re already putting the child at a disadvantage because of other “fathers and husbands.”
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:30
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Until there is a generation of men raised to treat women as equals in the home and workplace and to participate equally in all aspects of child-rearing and home management, many women won't have a choice but to set out on their own.
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:27
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
The support system should be the father.
Surely, you can comprehend that there are other support systems for raising children like grandparents and aunts and uncles, etc.? And that likewise, not all husbands function well as either support systems or fathers? Why do you think so many people get divorced?
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:23
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
The support system should be the father.
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:22
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Can you afford childcare? Do you have a support system in place to help? Do you have adequate leave banked at work so that you can take off when the child is sick?
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:19
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am single, newly 37, want kids, never married. What advice would you give me?
Irresponsible to have a child without a committed partner and it is grossly unfair to a child.
This is the only correct answer.
No it’s not. Not every kid has every single advantage in life. Sure it would be great if every women who wanted kids met their perfect partner at 25 and married at 29 and then had great high paying jobs with a home and settled down at 30 but life isn’t perfect and you deal with the hand you are dealt. I’d rather her a child alone then to never have a child. If OP is a committed mom, she’ll be fine and her child will be fine. Perfection is not the goal.
NP-You’d rather what she wants than what’s best for the child. There is no such thing as perfection so you can stop pretending that anyone suggested to that to OP.
Anonymous
03/12/2024 08:16
Subject: 37 single, want a baby, make about 95k a year
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am single, newly 37, want kids, never married. What advice would you give me?
Irresponsible to have a child without a committed partner and it is grossly unfair to a child.
This is the only correct answer.
No it’s not. Not every kid has every single advantage in life. Sure it would be great if every women who wanted kids met their perfect partner at 25 and married at 29 and then had great high paying jobs with a home and settled down at 30 but life isn’t perfect and you deal with the hand you are dealt. I’d rather her a child alone then to never have a child. If OP is a committed mom, she’ll be fine and her child will be fine. Perfection is not the goal.
You’re wrong and no one suggested perfection as the goal and no one said that a kid with a dad has every single advantage except you.