Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find it perversely humorous how many people are absolutely convinced this is a case of sexism based on available facts. The only fact that supports this notion is the poster is a woman and pregnant. There are ample facts, provided by the poster, that indicate it’s because she’s an underperformer who was looking for another job.
Yet, people are CONVINCED it’s sexism.
Conformation bias is a powerful force.
This exactly. OP is an under performer. Period
She happens to be pregnant, and its been public for maybe a couple of months (assuming she didn’t disclose before the start of her 2nd trimester)
Op should def not sue LOL But it doesn’t matter, because OP was leaving anyway and already has another job. (And should she start that job by taking time to focus on her lawsuit?) And the $ difference in the bonus probably isn’t even worth the hassle and the future backlash or ding on her reputation. And they’re a law firm; they’ve got their bases covered. I’m sure they made sure that there is at least One other low performing MALE who Likely was sent the “message” as well. there’s a slim chance of her prevailing.
Op, I suggest you leave with your head held high. In fact, most of your fellow associates may think you got the full bonus, and still left. But If it makes you feel better, say something passive aggressive on the way out.
You’re an angry angry person who isn’t advising this associate in her best interest
DP. PP isn't an angry person, they're being honest. Anyone who counsels differently simply hasn't worked in biglaw.
PP’s advice is ridiculously aggressive, especially in light of OP’s most recent update.
OP - when they asked you to stay longer, did you bring up the bonus structure or did they offer any additional compensation for you to stay on?
OP here: nope bubkas. They just want 4-6 weeks of extra work. Keep in mind that I am an increasingly pregnant lady. I’ll get maternity leave at my new job, but they don’t know that. I do not get health insurance through the firm.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find it perversely humorous how many people are absolutely convinced this is a case of sexism based on available facts. The only fact that supports this notion is the poster is a woman and pregnant. There are ample facts, provided by the poster, that indicate it’s because she’s an underperformer who was looking for another job.
Yet, people are CONVINCED it’s sexism.
Conformation bias is a powerful force.
This exactly. OP is an under performer. Period
She happens to be pregnant, and its been public for maybe a couple of months (assuming she didn’t disclose before the start of her 2nd trimester)
Op should def not sue LOL But it doesn’t matter, because OP was leaving anyway and already has another job. (And should she start that job by taking time to focus on her lawsuit?) And the $ difference in the bonus probably isn’t even worth the hassle and the future backlash or ding on her reputation. And they’re a law firm; they’ve got their bases covered. I’m sure they made sure that there is at least One other low performing MALE who Likely was sent the “message” as well. there’s a slim chance of her prevailing.
Op, I suggest you leave with your head held high. In fact, most of your fellow associates may think you got the full bonus, and still left. But If it makes you feel better, say something passive aggressive on the way out.
You’re an angry angry person who isn’t advising this associate in her best interest
DP. PP isn't an angry person, they're being honest. Anyone who counsels differently simply hasn't worked in biglaw.
PP’s advice is ridiculously aggressive, especially in light of OP’s most recent update.
OP - when they asked you to stay longer, did you bring up the bonus structure or did they offer any additional compensation for you to stay on?
Anonymous wrote:OP here following up after giving notice: the partners reacted with shock and asked if I could push back the start date of my new job. One partner even told me I had to put my ethical duties to clients above my personal career plans.
I provided the notice period suggested in the firm handbook. Even if shameless flattering myself, I’m not irreplaceable on any of my matters. Can any partners here comment on this weird reception to my departure? This is a v50 firm. Is it normal to be guilted about leaving for greener pastures after being stiffed on a bonus??? This was not my expectation after seeing many people come and go over the years.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find it perversely humorous how many people are absolutely convinced this is a case of sexism based on available facts. The only fact that supports this notion is the poster is a woman and pregnant. There are ample facts, provided by the poster, that indicate it’s because she’s an underperformer who was looking for another job.
Yet, people are CONVINCED it’s sexism.
Conformation bias is a powerful force.
This exactly. OP is an under performer. Period
She happens to be pregnant, and its been public for maybe a couple of months (assuming she didn’t disclose before the start of her 2nd trimester)
Op should def not sue LOL But it doesn’t matter, because OP was leaving anyway and already has another job. (And should she start that job by taking time to focus on her lawsuit?) And the $ difference in the bonus probably isn’t even worth the hassle and the future backlash or ding on her reputation. And they’re a law firm; they’ve got their bases covered. I’m sure they made sure that there is at least One other low performing MALE who Likely was sent the “message” as well. there’s a slim chance of her prevailing.
Op, I suggest you leave with your head held high. In fact, most of your fellow associates may think you got the full bonus, and still left. But If it makes you feel better, say something passive aggressive on the way out.
You’re an angry angry person who isn’t advising this associate in her best interest
DP. PP isn't an angry person, they're being honest. Anyone who counsels differently simply hasn't worked in biglaw.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find it perversely humorous how many people are absolutely convinced this is a case of sexism based on available facts. The only fact that supports this notion is the poster is a woman and pregnant. There are ample facts, provided by the poster, that indicate it’s because she’s an underperformer who was looking for another job.
Yet, people are CONVINCED it’s sexism.
Conformation bias is a powerful force.
This exactly. OP is an under performer. Period
She happens to be pregnant, and its been public for maybe a couple of months (assuming she didn’t disclose before the start of her 2nd trimester)
Op should def not sue LOL But it doesn’t matter, because OP was leaving anyway and already has another job. (And should she start that job by taking time to focus on her lawsuit?) And the $ difference in the bonus probably isn’t even worth the hassle and the future backlash or ding on her reputation. And they’re a law firm; they’ve got their bases covered. I’m sure they made sure that there is at least One other low performing MALE who Likely was sent the “message” as well. there’s a slim chance of her prevailing.
Op, I suggest you leave with your head held high. In fact, most of your fellow associates may think you got the full bonus, and still left. But If it makes you feel better, say something passive aggressive on the way out.
You’re an angry angry person who isn’t advising this associate in her best interest
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I find it perversely humorous how many people are absolutely convinced this is a case of sexism based on available facts. The only fact that supports this notion is the poster is a woman and pregnant. There are ample facts, provided by the poster, that indicate it’s because she’s an underperformer who was looking for another job.
Yet, people are CONVINCED it’s sexism.
Conformation bias is a powerful force.
This exactly. OP is an under performer. Period
She happens to be pregnant, and its been public for maybe a couple of months (assuming she didn’t disclose before the start of her 2nd trimester)
Op should def not sue LOL But it doesn’t matter, because OP was leaving anyway and already has another job. (And should she start that job by taking time to focus on her lawsuit?) And the $ difference in the bonus probably isn’t even worth the hassle and the future backlash or ding on her reputation. And they’re a law firm; they’ve got their bases covered. I’m sure they made sure that there is at least One other low performing MALE who Likely was sent the “message” as well. there’s a slim chance of her prevailing.
Op, I suggest you leave with your head held high. In fact, most of your fellow associates may think you got the full bonus, and still left. But If it makes you feel better, say something passive aggressive on the way out.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here following up after giving notice: the partners reacted with shock and asked if I could push back the start date of my new job. One partner even told me I had to put my ethical duties to clients above my personal career plans.
I provided the notice period suggested in the firm handbook. Even if shameless flattering myself, I’m not irreplaceable on any of my matters. Can any partners here comment on this weird reception to my departure? This is a v50 firm. Is it normal to be guilted about leaving for greener pastures after being stiffed on a bonus??? This was not my expectation after seeing many people come and go over the years.
Personal service firms will always push back on the date because they need to transition the work and that is always a pain. But, if you are staying for the handbook period you are fine. And the partner who said put ethical duties before personal career goals is a sanctimonious idiot.
Anonymous wrote:I find it perversely humorous how many people are absolutely convinced this is a case of sexism based on available facts. The only fact that supports this notion is the poster is a woman and pregnant. There are ample facts, provided by the poster, that indicate it’s because she’s an underperformer who was looking for another job.
Yet, people are CONVINCED it’s sexism.
Conformation bias is a powerful force.