Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 13:00     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:Guys who’ve dealt with this - does it happen with certain partners or with all partners?


Are you asking because you want to justify divorce to solve this?
Anonymous
Post 02/01/2026 12:32     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
OP here. It wasn’t me.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 10:49     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:My partner is 46 and he from time to time has issues. I just always assumed it was based on age. Never experienced ED issues with younger partners.


Is he on blood pressure meds? Alcohol can also affect performance so watch out for that. My husband won’t drink if he knows we are going to have sex.
Anonymous
Post 03/11/2024 10:33     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:My partner is 46 and he from time to time has issues. I just always assumed it was based on age. Never experienced ED issues with younger partners.


I had issues from time to time when I was 22! Especially when I drank. I still can do it many times a week almost 40 years later. I still have issues from time to time. It's worse if I don't have good chemistry with the woman, which happens from time to time with women I think are super hot and happens a lot more than that with women who don't get me going for whatever reason. (It's not always youthful/older, thin/fat, or anything like that.)
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 20:19     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
My partner is 46 and he from time to time has issues. I just always assumed it was based on age. Never experienced ED issues with younger partners.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 15:20     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Porn addiction, being overweight and having high blood pressure are also huge issues. He needs to see a dr.


DCUM is, if nothing else, very predictable. If a guy can’t get it up, it’s because he’s an unhealthy fatty who watches too much porn.


Exactly. It never ceases to amaze me how many women make it to middle age thinking that men are mindless erection vending machines. It's ironic that this view owes a lot to the porn that women despise.

Look: of course the woman's attractiveness and enthusiasm/skill matter. My wife and I have been together for 10+ years, and I still get it up for her because she's hot and because she's fun in bed. If I had been with the same boring frump for over a decade, would I be having erection issues at this point? It's quite possible.

And "hot" isn't about genetic good looks, either. It means staying in shape and wearing clothes that flatter your body type. I get it, we're all busy, but if you *never* put on a cute outfit for your husband, how much room do you really have to complain if he can't get it up? Sometimes (many times, I bet) the way to fix ED is for the woman to take some ownership.


Do you take ownership of all the things you ask of her? And why does she need to be responsible for your erections? Plenty of men can get it up w/o any of what you describe. So maybe the issue is you?
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 15:16     Subject: Re:Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:With my husband I know that if I’m not really into it he can have a problem. The solution has been agreeing in the morning that we will have fun that night and that gives me the chance to get get psyched up. When my mind is in the right place my body really follows. If I’m “energetic” he never has a problem.


This truth would put some pharma companies out-of-business. This simple idea would save quite a few relationships.


The "simple" idea that the woman has to take the laboring oar of not only her own pleasure but the man's as well, now?
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 11:19     Subject: Re:Erectile dysfunction question
My husband is 64 and he used viagra for the first time two days ago. Prior to that he’d have a problem about half the time and it was weighing on him. The viagra really worked and we were both very pleased with the result. He was so pleased he wanted a round 2 but I’m too old for that. He’s in good health and he had no underlying issues except he’s 64.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 10:00     Subject: Re:Erectile dysfunction question
My ex had this in his 30s and it was due to steroids and drinking from what I could tell.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2024 09:53     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hate to say it, but I have more problems with my current GF (late 50s) than any of my prior GFs (late 30s, 40s, and 50s). I thought that maybe my time for ED had arrived at the same time my current relationship started. After all, if you're going to get ED, there's going to be a year where you start out with things working pretty well and you end up with problems. Unortunately, that's not really what happened. A phone call from an ex GF who's in her 40s made it obvious that my ED is woman specific. The ex GF and I weren't having phone sex or anything like that. We just had a regular conversation and I got wood. It happens almost every time I talk to her on the phone.


Dude, break up with your GF. She deserves better.


I took this advice. I'm relieved but also very sad. She was wonderful, except for the fact that she didn't turn me on very much. I didn't mention our chemistry issues when we broke up. Those were really only my chemistry issues since she was horny all the time, was quite responsive despite being post menopausal, and she was having lots of Os. (She'd even wake me up in the middle of the night .) I didn't want to hurt her, and I think she's better off thinking that my inconsistent performance was due to my age. Maybe it was to some extent. So I just said I wasn't ready for such a serious relationship. I don't miss sex with her much, since it sometimes felt like a chore, but I really miss talking with her and being with her. I'll find a better sex partner but I won't find a better companion.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 17:14     Subject: Re:Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Bf has ED. I know he’s attracted to me and calls me sexy all the time. I think his is either porn related or some lingering attachment/love for his ex wife.


If his right forearm is like Popeye’s, he might be taking things into his own hand. That desensitizes things.


True.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 16:24     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:Sildenafil works wonders. Saved my marriage.


Mine too. He was struggling and he’d get a decent erection maybe a third of the time no matter how much help I gave him. His first experience with viagra was pretty amazing and his firmness was back to what it was in his 30s. He stays firm a long time so we can take our time.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 14:28     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Anonymous wrote:Sildenafil works wonders. Saved my marriage.


+1. Easy to purchase online.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 10:59     Subject: Erectile dysfunction question
Sildenafil works wonders. Saved my marriage.
Anonymous
Post 03/02/2024 08:42     Subject: Re:Erectile dysfunction question
Taking antidepressants can also cause issues, but it seems the other meds can help with that.