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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

You are a horrible parent.

Why don't they socialize with their peers?
Mine straight A students did. Clearly time mangement not a skill you teach your kids?

They do, just only on weekends you twat.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

NP. You seem really invested in this. You have posted literally the same thing on this thread 5x - that kids who don’t go to weekday social events are giant losers. Yes, they are giant losers who will never amount to anything in life. Are you happy now? Will you STFU now?

+1 but now we know OP is a complete and utter troll.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Really? Weren’t you saying something about how your kid would sneak out at night in the middle of the week? He sounds like a juvenile delinquent quite frankly.

Anonymous wrote:Growing up in the early 2000s with a far less hectic schedule than the kids nowadays, I still never went out on weekdays. Weekdays were for homework, sports, activities. Weekends were for socializing.

For private school kids like the ones in our school with busy schedules and large workloads, I doubt they have any free time on weekdays. My kids are still young but I don’t plan to restrict their weekend socialization other than curfew. I want them to have fun.

I have gone to midweek basketball games where STA and Sidwell play and there are lots of students.

Not sure why there is this weird misperception. We aren’t talking midweek parties here.

I also don’t get why parents are fine with their kids missing out on pretty normal HS experiences.

No rule against weekday socializing in our house, but it rarely happens for 15 year old daughter - she has dance 3 nights a week, and usually uses the other night to catch up on homework etc. She also goes to a magnet school so afterschool hangouts aren't super convenient. She sometimes will go to a school related event on a weekday if she can fit it in (school play or sports game for example).

She loves dancing and is friends with her teammates, so I don't think she sees it as a sacrifice. She does socialize on weekends around her dance schedule.

My son is 13 and his sports schedule usually keeps him busy 1-2 weeknights a week - and we live next door to his best friend. They hang out almost every day that they are both free - usually right after school. I'm very happy with this, they usually do something active (road hockey, shooting hoops etc). He still has time to do homework - we will see what happens when they start high school next year.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

Actually it says nothing about my background. It says I support my child’s interests. Mine choose to do it. It’s not my interest at all. You clearly push only your interests.

I don’t need my kids to work and earn money during the school year. Why would you do that to them. I highly doubt what you are saying is true but ok.

Again, too clubs mean nothing. Most do very little and it’s name only.

My kid is not going to the same schools as yours. Mine doesn’t care about status and we’d rather pay for college and grad school at a school we can afford. You don’t need a degree from a so called ivy to do well in tech. And mine want a dual major so not all schools have both.

And, no, there is no time. There are often several activities a day and some things are missed or we have a delicate balancing act of leaving one to go to another and returning.

DP…why do you keep saying school clubs do very little? Robotics, debate, the school newspaper at many schools and numerous other clubs are very involved and compete in tournaments and competitions.

Stop making sweeping nonsense statements.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know if some of you aren’t aware, but social skills and networking skills are often half of what makes people successful. Not letting your kid practice that and develop those seems like a huge mistake. A lot of perfectionist academic kids burn out.

Also if your kid is only successful bc their parents force them to stay home and do work, that’s not usually sustainable once they go off to college.

The other probable reality is that most of the kids here whose parents say they are “too busy” might not be getting any invites.

And finally - this kind of strict “family only” policy is actually really common in 1st generation immigrant families.

Uh oh….watch out for the racist police.

I don’t know if some of you aren’t aware, but social skills and networking skills are often half of what makes people successful. Not letting your kid practice that and develop those seems like a huge mistake. A lot of perfectionist academic kids burn out.

Also if your kid is only successful bc their parents force them to stay home and do work, that’s not usually sustainable once they go off to college.

The other probable reality is that most of the kids here whose parents say they are “too busy” might not be getting any invites.

And finally - this kind of strict “family only” policy is actually really common in 1st generation immigrant families.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

Ah, and you’re a racist to boot? Honey, shhh. Your inferiority complex is showing.

Take all the potshots you want…but all the holier than thou “my kids don’t have time to socialize at all midweek” is complete BS.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

NP. Wow, are you pathetic.

You have a kid that also is incapable of attending a midweek event?

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

Actually it says nothing about my background. It says I support my child’s interests. Mine choose to do it. It’s not my interest at all. You clearly push only your interests.

I don’t need my kids to work and earn money during the school year. Why would you do that to them. I highly doubt what you are saying is true but ok.

Again, too clubs mean nothing. Most do very little and it’s name only.

My kid is not going to the same schools as yours. Mine doesn’t care about status and we’d rather pay for college and grad school at a school we can afford. You don’t need a degree from a so called ivy to do well in tech. And mine want a dual major so not all schools have both.

And, no, there is no time. There are often several activities a day and some things are missed or we have a delicate balancing act of leaving one to go to another and returning.

My kid loves the stuff they do…that’s why they are able to handle it while yours can’t.

Don’t give me that BS that your kid wanted to be in the orchestra…you foisted that on them starting at a young age.

Sorry…your BS just isn’t holding up.

Maybe the whiskey finally knocked her out. Ding dong the witch is dead.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

Ah, and you’re a racist to boot? Honey, shhh. Your inferiority complex is showing.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

NP. Wow, are you pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

Actually it says nothing about my background. It says I support my child’s interests. Mine choose to do it. It’s not my interest at all. You clearly push only your interests.

I don’t need my kids to work and earn money during the school year. Why would you do that to them. I highly doubt what you are saying is true but ok.

Again, too clubs mean nothing. Most do very little and it’s name only.

My kid is not going to the same schools as yours. Mine doesn’t care about status and we’d rather pay for college and grad school at a school we can afford. You don’t need a degree from a so called ivy to do well in tech. And mine want a dual major so not all schools have both.

And, no, there is no time. There are often several activities a day and some things are missed or we have a delicate balancing act of leaving one to go to another and returning.