Anonymous wrote:ExDH used to spit on the ground, be overly involved in girl gossip, and wore too small t-shirts in public regularly. He was also really insecure about not having the same educational background as my family and friends and would constantly defensively harp on it in front of them.

I might have known this guy- RD? He spits, and calls college "Four Year Degrees". Cringe

Watches tik toc which includes young women dancing. Burps and farts a lot. Terrible communicator. Has a hard time conveying his thoughts when telling a story.

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Anonymous wrote:Emotional dysregulation - it doesn't take much to set DH off. Other people have witnessed his outbursts at the pool, school events, etc. I'm so embarrassed about this. Main reason I want to move out of the area when the children finish high school.

Has poor executive functioning and asks the same questions over and over again.

Often tells people that I am smart, organized, can keep track of details, have better job than he does. Not sure why this information is necessary to bring up frequently. It is supposed to be complimentary but comes across as patronizing.

It's been a difficult journey.

+1

This is mine too. Emotional dysregulation in general. It is very stressful and can be embarrassing at times. Mine has untreated anxiety I think- but won’t seek help, denies there is a problem.

+1 same. ASD, Bipolar II, Anxiety and Depression. Doesn't deny there's a problem, but blames it on others or me.

Won't do any more therapy, wouldn't do the steps the previous Phd Therapist advised, won't see psychiatrist and pretends his 20mgs of Lexapro from his GP is helping his temper tantrums. They're not.
He also won't leave a terrible match up job and profession for his invisible disabilties. Thing consulting or banking with demanding clients and people, schedules, emails to manage not in emergency mode 24/7.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has really smelly farts all the time. Drives me crazy and awkward with guests. Tried to tell him to get it checked out, but he refuses.

He has divertulosis. When he reaches 50 and has his first colonoscopy, this will be confirmed.

There is no treatment. Probiotics do not affect the flatulence.

Anonymous wrote:She's fat.

How does that embarrass you? That’s a reflection on her. You didn’t make her fat.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is an immigrant and still doesn’t know where or what Massachusetts is. I just find it galling that someone could live in a country for 15+ years and be so uninterested in where they live that they don’t have a grasp of major regions. Yes, I showed him a map. Yes I told him that’s where Harvard is. It bothers me that Massachusetts has come up several times in conversation with outside people and he is still so, so confused. He gets this panicked blank look that only I understand. He is similarly disinterested in a lot of things about America including basics about politics and it still bugs me. But otherwise he is a good husband and pretty intelligent.

😂😂

I would not worry about this unless you live in a neighboring state where it comes up often.

I am from the Great Lakes / Upper Midwest and the percentage of native born US citizens who do not know the difference between Indiana and Illinois or Minnesota and Wisconsin are staggeringly high. My spouse is from NJ and the coastline of NJ and how all the Eastern states like NJ/PA/DE/MD have Eastern borders that split peninsulas defies my spatial reasoning and I cannot for the life of me add that new information to my brain in adulthood. I am from a region where state borders are straight lines or rivers!

Are you saying you cannot fill out a blank map of the United States?

I love my DH dearly but he has this thing where he ONLY talks about work. His best friend works at the same place just in a different area, and my husband can only talk about things that happened at work. It has taken MONTHS for his friend to wear him down and remind him he doesn’t have to talk shop all the time. Sunday at church meets new people who also are in the same field, bam. Back to shop talk about work.

My husband has so many different hobbies and is a really interesting person, I just wish he would talk about other things.
I honestly think he is on the spectrum, and he can only talk about certain activities with certain people. If he is at a hobby related store or event he only talks about the hobby and others are just shooting the moon.

I get embarrassed when he loses his temper, with the kids. I also get embarrassed when he gets really defensive and starts doing his thing where he puts people down and makes them feel stupid, as payback.

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Anonymous wrote:All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

OK, but please do not ignore the research proving:

- the overwhelming majority of women here are mentally ill.

Please cite your sources

You did not know this fact? Really??

Women in the DC area are well-over 90% democrats.

https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/over-50-percent-white-liberal-women-under-30-mental-health-condition

Thank you for introducing me to this crazy magazine! I love bonkers stuff like this

The study was conducted by Pew Research.

Do you think they are “bonkers” too?

Anonymous wrote:Emotional dysregulation - it doesn't take much to set DH off. Other people have witnessed his outbursts at the pool, school events, etc. I'm so embarrassed about this. Main reason I want to move out of the area when the children finish high school.

Has poor executive functioning and asks the same questions over and over again.

Often tells people that I am smart, organized, can keep track of details, have better job than he does. Not sure why this information is necessary to bring up frequently. It is supposed to be complimentary but comes across as patronizing.

It's been a difficult journey.

+1

This is mine too. Emotional dysregulation in general. It is very stressful and can be embarrassing at times. Mine has untreated anxiety I think- but won’t seek help, denies there is a problem.

Humans aren't perfect, all spouses are human. Be assured he also finds few things about you rather embarrassing. You two need to accept each other as is or help improve fixable flaws, not judge or get embarrassed by.

Emotional dysregulation - it doesn't take much to set DH off. Other people have witnessed his outbursts at the pool, school events, etc. I'm so embarrassed about this. Main reason I want to move out of the area when the children finish high school.

Has poor executive functioning and asks the same questions over and over again.

Often tells people that I am smart, organized, can keep track of details, have better job than he does. Not sure why this information is necessary to bring up frequently. It is supposed to be complimentary but comes across as patronizing.

It's been a difficult journey.

DH is kind of limited when it comes to table manners. For example, he does not know how to use a knife and usually cuts his food with the side of his fork, which is okay in casual situations, but then it gets embarrassing when he's chasing his food all around the plate with just a fork when a knife would come in handy.

It's perplexing because my MIL is very prim and proper and definitely taught them proper manners.

Anyway it's not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things and I don't say anything about it.

He talks loud everywhere.
He makes angry- bird like faces.
At restaurants, he usually stares at female waiters and make comments (to me) about their ages. He’s 51 and stares at young women that could be his daughters.

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Anonymous wrote:All of these DH have untreated mental illnesses. Don't know if it's anxiety or depression or what but these folks need help

OK, but please do not ignore the research proving:

- the overwhelming majority of women here are mentally ill.

Please cite your sources

Np. Reading dcum is proof to show women r crazy. Don’t need any additional research