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Anonymous wrote:The only thing you could do is play music that they don’t like all day long. Experiment with different genres.

NP that is a jerk move as you are being deliberately, a jerk. The person talking on his phone is minding his own business. He just happens to be bothering the original poster.

The only thing you could do is play music that they don’t like all day long. Experiment with different genres.

I would not say anything. However, I would manage my own space to mitigate the noise. Whether it's using headphones, a white noise, machine, heavier, curtains, or blinds or moving my office. It sounds like he's doing nothing wrong. It's just unfortunate that his voice carries. Maybe he's hard of hearing.

I'm very lucky that noise does not bother me. I grew up in a boisterous, loud family, and I can easily tune out when I need to. My husband teases me because when I'm focused on some thing, I don't hear him if he comes up to my office door and just starts talking without saying excuse me, or getting my attention first. That said I can also be a nosy goose and listen to others conversations when I'm not focused on something.

As long as it occurs during reasonable hours during the daytime - I wouldn’t approach him w/this issue OP.

Reason being is that it likely will create a lot of awkwardness w/your next-door neighbor & would possibly make living so close super uncomfortable too.

Plus I do not think your neighbor is actually doing anything wrong here.

I would move my home office if things seem unbearable for you.

Good luck!

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Anonymous wrote:No one, regardless of proximity, has the right to disturb another. Sorry y’all, but I’m with the OP here. I totally support the OP’s right to peace and quiet inside their own home. Neighbor needs to STFU.

So is your view that kids can’t play outside, no one can do yard work or have other work done on their home because you might hear it from your house? People here constantly talk about how important it is to have density yet complain about the noise that comes with it. You can’t have it both ways.

Density exacerbates the issue, but noise is not inherently a density problem. People are. They are not respectful of others. The neighbor is simply too loud on the phone and doesn’t recognize how his voice bounces. Parents allow their children to shriek at the top of their lungs. Pet owners don’t realize their dog barks incessantly when left alone. The list goes on and on. People just don’t realize and/or don’t care how their actions negatively impact others.

Someone in an adjacent HOA to me tried to get something going on their FB group to ban non-electric leaf blowers (in the fall in a neighborhood with tons of trees) or at least allowed only during non-business hours (i.e., force everyone to do their yardwork in the early evening or weekends) when she was not working. She got shouted down pretty quickly. Neighborhoods with lots of houses close to each other have their pluses but if you want those you have to live with all the sounds that people make. If you can't deal, find yourself a place with a lot of land rather than trying to get the world to conform to your needs and your schedule.

Karen, RTO pronto.

Your neighbor commuted for years. Let her enjoy the now.

Anonymous wrote:It's asking a lot for complete silence when you have close neighbors. Either wear earplugs or learn to live with it. Talking outside is completely reasonable.

Yep you need headphones or earplugs or to move your office. You’re being unreasonable.

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Anonymous wrote:No one, regardless of proximity, has the right to disturb another. Sorry y’all, but I’m with the OP here. I totally support the OP’s right to peace and quiet inside their own home. Neighbor needs to STFU.

So is your view that kids can’t play outside, no one can do yard work or have other work done on their home because you might hear it from your house? People here constantly talk about how important it is to have density yet complain about the noise that comes with it. You can’t have it both ways.

Density exacerbates the issue, but noise is not inherently a density problem. People are. They are not respectful of others. The neighbor is simply too loud on the phone and doesn’t recognize how his voice bounces. Parents allow their children to shriek at the top of their lungs. Pet owners don’t realize their dog barks incessantly when left alone. The list goes on and on. People just don’t realize and/or don’t care how their actions negatively impact others.

Anonymous wrote:No one, regardless of proximity, has the right to disturb another. Sorry y’all, but I’m with the OP here. I totally support the OP’s right to peace and quiet inside their own home. Neighbor needs to STFU.

So is your view that kids can’t play outside, no one can do yard work or have other work done on their home because you might hear it from your house? People here constantly talk about how important it is to have density yet complain about the noise that comes with it. You can’t have it both ways.