Anonymous
02/21/2024 07:28
Subject: How long is the honeymoon period of 3 generation household?
Anonymous wrote:I would hate it, but I want to make my own lunch and need my own space.
This. My honeymoon period would be the weekend.
But we are different. If you are more social and relaxed you could keep this up a few years. My parents were active and helpful and we enjoyed short vacations with them in their 60s. Things are drastically different when sudden health situations happen and the aftermath. Now in their 70s they are not easygoing at all and do not have the same tolerance or understanding for my teens. We never stay together now. Everyone needs space more than ever.
Anonymous
02/19/2024 12:53
Subject: How long is the honeymoon period of 3 generation household?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are they paying rent? If so, they should not be expected to be your housekeeper, childcare, cook, maid, which is what they are now.
Neither of us view it like that. It's a mutually beneficial relationship. Wouldn't work if they didn't like being part of the family.
Like I said, we are all easygoing
It worked really well for us for the first three-ish months of Covid. Like you, we are all easygoing and they helped a ton with the kids. Then we all sort of mutually wanted our own spaces again, so they went back home to another state. A year later they actually moved over near us and we’ve been very happy with that. They take the kids for the weekend once or twice a month, and usually come over here for a weeknight dinner so DH and I can work late or workout. Personally I think it works best when everyone can have their own independent home to go back to, even if those homes are near each other and you see each other frequently.
This^. If you must live in same house, there should be some privacy, like a different floor, a backyard guest house, a garage apartment, a full MIL suit with bed, bath, kitchen, porch and living and car.
Anonymous
02/19/2024 12:44
Subject: How long is the honeymoon period of 3 generation household?
It will be never last. Too much is expected of the grandparents and it won't be long before there is anger and grudges.