Anonymous
02/18/2024 08:50
Subject: Daughter and dad are getting really close these days and it's quietly bothering me...
There are two things going on here. One, it’s totally natural for 10 year old girls to start pulling away from their mothers. Two, the dad is one of those crazy sports parents living vicariously through their daughter. Hanging around every practice is odd AF. Hopefully he won’t put too much pressure on her as she gets older, but if he does she’ll gravitate right back towards mom and do her work for her.
As for the posters suggesting that OP get a job, you all just sound jealous and miserable.
As for the posters suggesting that OP get a job, you all just sound jealous and miserable.
Anonymous
02/18/2024 08:29
Subject: Daughter and dad are getting really close these days and it's quietly bothering me...
Attacking the writer is easy. This has more to do with a family dynamic. Girls gravitate toward fathers. Some say it’s a more important relationship than the mother. It’s got to hurt. She wanted to hear from others with similar feelings
Anonymous
02/18/2024 00:24
Subject: Daughter and dad are getting really close these days and it's quietly bothering me...
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for all the feedback. No, this isn't a troll post. Not sure how it is. Yes, I'm still a SAHM because thankfully my husband is very successful so I don't need to work.
It does sadden me after all these years of my daughter being attached to me that she's starting to lean more toward her dad. I'm not upset or angry. It's just a feeling of 'awe, she used to do that with me' that's all. You spent almost ten years with your child everyday...you get attached.
To reply to some of the posts: He does stay for every single practice and game. He likes it. I asked him why and for him it's a break from work (he doesn't even play with his phone). He just enjoys watching her play. He was a serious athlete back in the day. Almost made the Olympics in the late 90s. He also likes to watch so he can help her with things she's struggling with during practice. As for me, I thought about going back to work but it's too hard for me after being out of the marketplace for a decade. Everyone has more experience than me, etc.
I was just wondering if this was normal for kids. I know kids always lean toward one parent and me only have one kid I don't see it if I had more. But, it does make me a little sad because she used to be so attached to me. I've also heard about the high school years. Some moms say it's going to be bad, some say not so much. We'll find out. Still have several years to go!
Women don't just work because our husbands are too poor 🙄 it also helps prevent boredom and using are children as substitutions for peer relationships.
You should use some of this time to get a hobby there's got to be something you have wanted to learn or try over the years. Start now. Soon she'll not be spending much time with either of you as she'll prefer friends etc.
Yep that bolded line told me everything I need to know about this OP who is driving her whole self worth fr being the preferred parent of her 10yo.
Anonymous
02/17/2024 22:59
Subject: Daughter and dad are getting really close these days and it's quietly bothering me...
Beautifully put. An elevated idea.
Anonymous
02/08/2024 00:21
Subject: Daughter and dad are getting really close these days and it's quietly bothering me...
Anonymous wrote:What a horribly narcissistic post.
Disagree.
OP is laying bare her vulnerability. She knows she shouldn’t be envious or feeling left out but kind of can’t help it.
OP, I’ve been there and I will share with you something I read that really helped—-a daughter’s relationship with her dad is the single most pivotal relationship that will guide her in choosing a mate. Assuming your DH is an all-around great guy, you should consciously do everything you can to fight against that slight tinge of jealousy and encourage this relationship. Both ways. Build him up in her eyes. Praise your husband verbally for how he connects with her. Take note of your tone if you mention to him these behaviors you shared in your post. These are GOOD things. Shelve your envy and embrace the wonderful news that is the daddy/daughter bond that is shared by the two people you love most. In short, this isn’t about you. It just isn’t. Tell that to yourself and repeat. You are not in competition for your only child’s love. It’s an “and” kind of love…not a zero sum game. Your relationship with each of them stands on its own.