Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:49
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think if it were my kid, I'd put deposits down on multiple schools-- so if rescinded from one, you still have your backup option.
Oh sure! Yet another example of unethical behavior.
How is this unethical? if OP's kid wasn't in this situation, I'd be inclined to agree with you, but he's truly at risk of having an offer rescinded. It would be idiotic to not prepare for that possibility.
If an offer is rescinded, there is a reason.
I never said there wasn't. The question is, should OP just put down one deposit and risk that one school rescinding the offer?
Aren't we all operating under the assumption that the admit is safe if you put down a deposit and not so if you don't? Is that a valid assumption?
Not a valid assumption. Schools rescind every year for various reasons, even if deposit was paid.
I don't think it's unethical to put down multiple deposits even if the situation was different. People do it all the time. In fact, there's probably no school in any given year where 100% of expected kids show up for orientation. There's even a word for it ("melt"= people who put down a deposit and then either dropped out after the deposit or simply didn't show up the first day). It's a pain for colleges, yes, but it's literally part of their planning process.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:46
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think you'd have to contact the schools and explain what happened. You'd probably need to do that anyway so they can get the transcripts etc. I'd just say unforeseen circumstances led to the change and being out of country, it was difficult to facilitate. He did not get kicked out so that is not on his record, which is good, but I think you'll need to explain the situation with the gap.
This. All you need to go is explain that there was a gap due. Since you withdrew you don’t need to say more. Don’t over share.
Since kid was admitted based on the application saying they'd graduate from School X, I'm pretty sure the college will ask for more explanation. And PPs are correct that it's unlikely kid could get exactly the courses that were promised in the application, so on that alone the school will want to know more.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:42
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:I think you'd have to contact the schools and explain what happened. You'd probably need to do that anyway so they can get the transcripts etc. I'd just say unforeseen circumstances led to the change and being out of country, it was difficult to facilitate. He did not get kicked out so that is not on his record, which is good, but I think you'll need to explain the situation with the gap.
This. All you need to go is explain that there was a gap due. Since you withdrew you don’t need to say more. Don’t over share.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:41
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think if it were my kid, I'd put deposits down on multiple schools-- so if rescinded from one, you still have your backup option.
Oh sure! Yet another example of unethical behavior.
How is this unethical? if OP's kid wasn't in this situation, I'd be inclined to agree with you, but he's truly at risk of having an offer rescinded. It would be idiotic to not prepare for that possibility.
If an offer is rescinded, there is a reason.
I never said there wasn't. The question is, should OP just put down one deposit and risk that one school rescinding the offer?
Aren't we all operating under the assumption that the admit is safe if you put down a deposit and not so if you don't? Is that a valid assumption?
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:35
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think if it were my kid, I'd put deposits down on multiple schools-- so if rescinded from one, you still have your backup option.
Oh sure! Yet another example of unethical behavior.
How is this unethical? if OP's kid wasn't in this situation, I'd be inclined to agree with you, but he's truly at risk of having an offer rescinded. It would be idiotic to not prepare for that possibility.
If an offer is rescinded, there is a reason.
I never said there wasn't. The question is, should OP just put down one deposit and risk that one school rescinding the offer?
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:34
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think if it were my kid, I'd put deposits down on multiple schools-- so if rescinded from one, you still have your backup option.
Oh sure! Yet another example of unethical behavior.
How is this unethical? if OP's kid wasn't in this situation, I'd be inclined to agree with you, but he's truly at risk of having an offer rescinded. It would be idiotic to not prepare for that possibility.
If an offer is rescinded, there is a reason.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:29
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
OP. If the future college has no way of finding out what really happened, make up a story about him needing to be close to you due to a family emergency, whatever, ask for a deferral by a semester and get him treated in the meantime. A semester is not that big a deal, still the same cohort. Schools will take you at face value unless they are able to find a different story through a cursory search so make sure that's not the case. Also make sure the private school counselor is not tight with the school you pick. They have a lot of relationships going there and you don't want the college to hear a different story through the grapevine.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:27
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think if it were my kid, I'd put deposits down on multiple schools-- so if rescinded from one, you still have your backup option.
Oh sure! Yet another example of unethical behavior.
How is this unethical? if OP's kid wasn't in this situation, I'd be inclined to agree with you, but he's truly at risk of having an offer rescinded. It would be idiotic to not prepare for that possibility.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:16
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
it doesn’t really matter what he did. It’s still a scary situation for OP.Anonymous wrote:Wow, Iam so curious about what he did.
For what it's worth, sometimes schools overseas close, or have different cultural or other standards and people know this
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:08
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:I think if it were my kid, I'd put deposits down on multiple schools-- so if rescinded from one, you still have your backup option.
Oh sure! Yet another example of unethical behavior.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 17:00
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
I think if it were my kid, I'd put deposits down on multiple schools-- so if rescinded from one, you still have your backup option.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 16:59
Subject: Re:Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:
OP, you've already gotten a lot of advice so I'll just add one other aspect here: Your DC had better hope that none of the other students involved in the incident (or just students at the school who weren't involved) have posted about it on social media, shared any names, shared any photos, named the school, complained about being asked to "withdraw" if they were asked, etc.
Colleges increasingly look at students' social media accounts. Even if your own DC has no accounts or didn't post on ones he does have, well, there is always the chance, however slim it seems, that social media posts about an incident serious enough to get students expelled-but-not-expelled could end up on colleges' radar somehow. Some here will scoff, I know!, but you need to consider this aspect. If this was about vaping (earlier example someone gave) that's less of an issue but if this involved, say, vandalism or a public disturbance or whatever--that could end up being talked about online. Sure, it's not very likely these EA colleges which have already said yes will go look at social media. But it's amazing, how kids and parents don't realize what seeps online.
Interesting point. Colleges don't have time to look at *everyone's* socia media presence. But if something like this came up with a vague description of circumstances, I bet they would.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 16:48
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He will most likely be fine. The schools want transcripts and won't be asking too many questions beyond that.
This.
This is my gut feeling. He changed schools. His parents are overseas. Stuff happens for all sorts of reasons.
I would have a serious heart-to-heart with yourself about whether or not he's ready for college, though.
Clearly he doesn't do well with little supervision.
Anonymous
02/05/2024 16:44
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
OP needs to look at rules where offers are received/plans to attend.
UVA, e.g., makes clear that offers can be rescinded for students who demonstrate material decline in grades after application, as well as "students who commit a disciplinary infraction, in or outside of school." On their website, from December 2023. I know I've seen this for other schools, too, as DC built his chart of application tasks (because have to send final transcript).
UVA, e.g., makes clear that offers can be rescinded for students who demonstrate material decline in grades after application, as well as "students who commit a disciplinary infraction, in or outside of school." On their website, from December 2023. I know I've seen this for other schools, too, as DC built his chart of application tasks (because have to send final transcript).
Anonymous
02/05/2024 16:33
Subject: Will DC get rescinded?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He will most likely be fine. The schools want transcripts and won't be asking too many questions beyond that.
This.
This is my gut feeling. He changed schools. His parents are overseas. Stuff happens for all sorts of reasons.
I would have a serious heart-to-heart with yourself about whether or not he's ready for college, though.