Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 23:29     Subject: 35, single, and ready to give up
Meet men traditional ways and get off line. Activities, sports, religious institutions, classes, friends of friends etc
Anonymous
Post 02/07/2024 22:47     Subject: 35, single, and ready to give up
Anonymous wrote:Because dating is exhausting. I am so immensely sick of continuously putting myself out there to go on boring dates and having things either just not connect, or each other's lives get in the way of building a real relationship, or finding out that men in their late 30s/40s are just as immature as men were in their 20s when it comes to ghosting and lovebombing and just lying. I also see that my problem is I want to focus on one guy at a time. When I meet someone and it seems like we click, I want to focus on dating that guy and hoping for the best, rather than hedging my bets with a stack of dates through the next two weeks. But it seems like everyone in this game is hedging their bets with other options, and then just chooses the other options instead of me, while I should have kept my options open instead of focusing on one guy at a time.... and so on.

I hate dating. Every time I waste 2-3 hours on dates that go nowhere I wish I was doing something else. I'm seriously thinking about just accepting my life as a perpetually single person and using the extra time to build skills and pursue hobbies that I just haven't found quite enough time to do. With more nights in, I could work on starting a business, or getting back to composing music like I used to do... or both. The thought of that is so much more appealing than the hamster wheel of dating.

Thoughts? Is this rational and healthy, or is this just "cope"?


How long have you been single OP?
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2024 12:02     Subject: 35, single, and ready to give up
He has been dating hot girls who are not marriage material. Then he complains how they don’t eat and it is annoying to eat out with them. Yes, if you date a girl with no body fat, she is not going out to eat meals the way you want.
Anonymous
Post 02/06/2024 12:01     Subject: 35, single, and ready to give up
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Pp here. He is looking for a unicorn. That is why he is still single. He himself is probably a 7 in looks, 10 in brains and 5 in personality. He is very selfish and arrogant in my opinion. I’m sure he thinks he is a 10 personality.


This! I dated someone like this although he was a 9 in looks and had a very nice personality. He broke up with me saying “something was off” then called me again months later after I had already started dating DH. Obviously we didn’t rekindle anything at that point. He stayed single for TEN MORE YEARS before he found his unicorn. I hope he is truly happy but …. How exhausting!


I wouldn’t be surprised if he never gets married or divorces if he does marry. BIL is picky and difficult. He is a big man child who makes a lot of money. Maybe some woman who fits his criteria will put up with him. The type of girl he wants was likely snatched up in college or grad school already.