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Anonymous wrote:Mom of many thriving, independent college kids here. Back in my day, my college had an infirmary to take care of you when you were this sick. My kids's schools having nothing like this.

I would get in my car and at least get my kid set up in his dorm room with the supplies he needs and lay my own eyes on him.

People who are saying they wouldn't do it were likely raised by neglectful boomers. Supporting your 20 year old when he is at the hospital is not babying him.

I suspect there are a lot of posters on this thread who don't have college-aged kids (or even teens).

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

I don’t think OP is a worrier with anxiety.

She was up all night by her own admission, and now is posting on Dcum as an outlet. If course she has anxiety.

Anonymous wrote:Mom of many thriving, independent college kids here. Back in my day, my college had an infirmary to take care of you when you were this sick. My kids's schools having nothing like this.

I would get in my car and at least get my kid set up in his dorm room with the supplies he needs and lay my own eyes on him.

People who are saying they wouldn't do it were likely raised by neglectful boomers. Supporting your 20 year old when he is at the hospital is not babying him.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

I don’t think OP is a worrier with anxiety.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is an worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

But presumably then you did not text her in the middle of the night to tell her you were at the ER. It's fair to assume DS wouldn't have done this if he felt like you do. Also fair to assume that OP isn't like your mother, since she was posting from her home and not from his bedside which she had rushed to in her anxiety.

Does anybody actually read the threads they are commenting on?

She's posting here, isn't she? So she certainly has anxiety that manifests in unhelpful ways.

Anonymous wrote:Mom of many thriving, independent college kids here. Back in my day, my college had an infirmary to take care of you when you were this sick. My kids's schools having nothing like this.

I would get in my car and at least get my kid set up in his dorm room with the supplies he needs and lay my own eyes on him.

People who are saying they wouldn't do it were likely raised by neglectful boomers. Supporting your 20 year old when he is at the hospital is not babying him.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is a worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is an worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

But presumably then you did not text her in the middle of the night to tell her you were at the ER. It's fair to assume DS wouldn't have done this if he felt like you do. Also fair to assume that OP isn't like your mother, since she was posting from her home and not from his bedside which she had rushed to in her anxiety.

Does anybody actually read the threads they are commenting on?

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Anonymous wrote:I must be in the minority because aint no way i am driving to the doctor 2.5 hours away for my adult child that has strep. What are you going to do that the doctors cant do? Let that boy thrive. He is at the doctors and given medicine…. Problem is being solved. I wish i raised my three boys to call me about some BS.

Most people wouldn't, but Dcum attracts a unique crowd of hysterical posters.

I'm not a hovering mother, but this is a young adult in the ER being treated for an apparent throat infection that has caused swelling in the throat such that he has difficulty breathing. They are treating him for cardiac symptoms. He will likely be there for many hours. He or someone called his mother to tell her about it, suggesting that he or someone thinks this is worthy of her attention. His roommates, also sick according to OP and who have been up all night, will want to go home to bed. But sure, let's think about this as nothing more than a trip to the doc for a sore throat lol.

Where did she say he's having trouble breathing? I think you were reading a post from a DP.

Also, saying he's being treated for "cardiac symptoms" is a gross overstatement. He's getting fluids for dehydration, which should decrease his heart rate.

From page 1 of this thread, OP writes:

He woke up around 1am and his throat was so inflamed, he couldn't swallow. Roommates just took him to ER. The ER doc didn’t bother doing another swab since he was very sure it was a severe case of strep. So he’s still there hooked up. Plus meds to lower heart rate.

Sorry, I did misread swallow for breathing, but inability to swallow can also be a medical emergency (symptom of epiglottitis).

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Depends. My mom is an worrier with anxiety. I pretty much hid being sick from her because she made it so much worse. When I wound up in the hospital in college I was so glad I was a flight away and could use that as a reason for her not to come.

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Anonymous wrote:Go to him, OP. Immediately. This is one of those times that he will remember whether his parents showed up for him or not. You’re only 2.5 hours away. Please go.

Right. He will remember. And if you go, he's going to be much less likely to tell you things in the future. I guarantee it.

The son did not say "DO NO COME MOM". he felt bad about her driving down that's all. Unless I am misreading it. If he said "absolutely do not come mom, you're being annoying", then yes I'd stay home.