Sad. When will Greek life and Miss America pageants go away?

My nephew went to one of the SEC schools several years back. He was on the baseball team. He met a girl during new student orientation and they started seeing each other. About two or three months into the relationship they broke up. She was totally obsessed about rushing and the whole Greek culture. It was a life or death situation for her to join the sorority she was targeting.

We received the following advice from a paid sorority consultant. I hope that this is helpful to some people, and will help to avoid having to pay $3000, as we did:

1. Social media is essential. As soon as you register for recruitment (aka rush), "the girls in the sorority will immediately go to your Instagram account" to learn about you.

2. On Instagram, you need to look "classy and put together."

3. On Instagram, the sorority does not want to see a girl with a ton of separate photos with boys. Maybe a few photos with one boy (suggesting that is a boyfriend), but not multiple boys in photos.

3. On Instagram, it's ideal to have photos with lots of girl friends, which shows that you are a nice person and have a lot of friends.

4. On Instagram, only post a photo of yourself in a swimsuit if you are on vacation.

5. On Instagram, you want to portray yourself as fun, but not too much of a partier.

6. If rush is in the spring semester (instead of the fall semester), take the easiest possible classes to maximize your GPA. The sorority cares about the GPA. They would rather see someone take very easy classes and get a 4.0, than take really difficult classes and have a 2.75.

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Anonymous wrote:The are real, but IMO they don't help get into the 'good' sororities. That is all connections. If you don't have them (right camps, right schools, family friends, vacation spots, etc) then consultants can't fix that.

Ok I know it sounds crazy, but if your kid ends even a school like Michigan or other Big 10/SEC schools, AND you do vacation in the right spots/go to private school/have a somewhat fancy life make sure they have “some” social media presence showing their “lifestyle”…esp if kids /you are more low key….and if your family name isn’t googleable…

Our kids are super low key - bc we’ve taught them to be and not post anything showcasing our life; but that’s not helpful for rush…..for Rush it’s important to have some of this stuff on social media (save as destinations to stories section on IG)….start early in high school…

Trust me.
Btdt.
Will give your kid more house options out of the gate.

This kind of stuff is so sad.

Not sad, funny.

But the jokes on the OP. The only people who will be impressed by your daughter's middling state school sorority is the hiring manager at Walmart. Enjoy the discount, while the geeks from MIT, U of C, and LSE enjoy the 1%.

You do realize that Walmart CEO went to University if Arkansas and also CEOs tend to come from state school background. Stop being so snooty.

I rank rush consultants just ahead of DEI consultants and just behind ISO 9000 consultants.

Anonymous wrote:What colleges have old-school normal sororities where family privilege and/or consultants are not part of the process??!

Every school. There is an unofficial tier and this does not happen for low-tier frats, and I assume isn’t as bad for low-tier sororities. Okay, maybe not for Alabama, but at normal state schools—like Big-10. 😉

Kids want/need to find friends. Being in Greek life facilitates that. Yes, there are strivers. But there’s also a ton of kids who want to belong. One kid told my son he’d never had friends before joining the fraternity because he’d been at a small HS.

Anonymous wrote:What colleges have old-school normal sororities where family privilege and/or consultants are not part of the process??!

You think privilege is not part of old-school sororities?

What’s next, hiring friend groups for photo ops and cool roommates?

What colleges have old-school normal sororities where family privilege and/or consultants are not part of the process??!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The are real, but IMO they don't help get into the 'good' sororities. That is all connections. If you don't have them (right camps, right schools, family friends, vacation spots, etc) then consultants can't fix that.

Ok I know it sounds crazy, but if your kid ends even a school like Michigan or other Big 10/SEC schools, AND you do vacation in the right spots/go to private school/have a somewhat fancy life make sure they have “some” social media presence showing their “lifestyle”…esp if kids /you are more low key….and if your family name isn’t googleable…

Our kids are super low key - bc we’ve taught them to be and not post anything showcasing our life; but that’s not helpful for rush…..for Rush it’s important to have some of this stuff on social media (save as destinations to stories section on IG)….start early in high school…

Trust me.
Btdt.
Will give your kid more house options out of the gate.

This kind of stuff is so sad.

Not sad, funny.

But the jokes on the OP. The only people who will be impressed by your daughter's middling state school sorority is the hiring manager at Walmart. Enjoy the discount, while the geeks from MIT, U of C, and LSE enjoy the 1%.

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Anonymous wrote:Hiking in Heels: https://getintoasorority.com/about-us/

Why do I feel this thread was started as product placement like when movie stars drink a Pepsi- they are getting paid and not just by chance?

Nope I’m the OP…this has derailed….but need to click that link!

Anonymous wrote:Hiking in Heels: https://getintoasorority.com/about-us/

Why do I feel this thread was started as product placement like when movie stars drink a Pepsi- they are getting paid and not just by chance?

Hiking in Heels: https://getintoasorority.com/about-us/

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The are real, but IMO they don't help get into the 'good' sororities. That is all connections. If you don't have them (right camps, right schools, family friends, vacation spots, etc) then consultants can't fix that.

Ok I know it sounds crazy, but if your kid ends even a school like Michigan or other Big 10/SEC schools, AND you do vacation in the right spots/go to private school/have a somewhat fancy life make sure they have “some” social media presence showing their “lifestyle”…esp if kids /you are more low key….and if your family name isn’t googleable…

Our kids are super low key - bc we’ve taught them to be and not post anything showcasing our life; but that’s not helpful for rush…..for Rush it’s important to have some of this stuff on social media (save as destinations to stories section on IG)….start early in high school…

Trust me.
Btdt.
Will give your kid more house options out of the gate.

Is this true for boys too? My son is pretty cool but doesn't post on insta.

Sadly, it's true. My kids in HS and MS judge other people their age based on their Instagram accounts and number of followers. It apparently looks bad if you follow more people than the number of people who follow you. I'm not saying I agree with it but this is the reality.

My son has lots of followers. And follows a lot. But doesn’t post.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The are real, but IMO they don't help get into the 'good' sororities. That is all connections. If you don't have them (right camps, right schools, family friends, vacation spots, etc) then consultants can't fix that.

Ok I know it sounds crazy, but if your kid ends even a school like Michigan or other Big 10/SEC schools, AND you do vacation in the right spots/go to private school/have a somewhat fancy life make sure they have “some” social media presence showing their “lifestyle”…esp if kids /you are more low key….and if your family name isn’t googleable…

Our kids are super low key - bc we’ve taught them to be and not post anything showcasing our life; but that’s not helpful for rush…..for Rush it’s important to have some of this stuff on social media (save as destinations to stories section on IG)….start early in high school…

Trust me.
Btdt.
Will give your kid more house options out of the gate.

Is this true for boys too? My son is pretty cool but doesn't post on insta.

Much, much less so for boys. They should not have more than 3-5 posts on their insta either.

You are responding to me. Exactly. Uncool to have too many posts. lol.