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Anonymous wrote:All the girls that rush want the top 3 houses (the actual top sororities will vary by school). Yes, they go through the instagrams to figure out if you were popular in high school, which private school you went to, sleepaway camp, etc. Also to see how you dress, your HHI, etc. This 100% happens at every school.

You're wrong, not everyone wants the top 3. My DD went in knowing she wouldn't fit with those girls and knew she'd be dropped, which she of course she was. She did say they were very nice and she was pleasantly surprised by them. But it is absolutely about wealth and connections in those sororities and at UVA those girls come from boarding schools in the Northeast. If you are not already known to them before rush, you're probably not getting in, even if you're a legacy.

UVA is slowly changing. While Greek life will be somewhat important, it won't be as important as it once was. UVA is getting kids from different backgrounds even out of state kids.

LOL. Just because UVA is trying to rewrite its extensive history, doesn't mean it is succeeding at doing so. Greek Life will always be synonymous with UVA.

Bitter? UVA is only 26% Greek. The vast majority of UVA kids don't even pledge. Mine didn't.

It’s weird that you are so dismissive of an activity that literally involves a quarter of the school. Can you name one other that has that much involvement?

This thread is giving me revenge of the nerds vibes…

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Anonymous wrote:The smartest kids of all are those who don't rush in the first place and find other things to do with their time.

+100

Dorks don’t rush.

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Anonymous wrote:The smartest kids of all are those who don't rush in the first place and find other things to do with their time.

Sorry you didn’t get a bid.

Considering I chose a school deliberately with no Greek system, that's a-ok with me! My own kid is smart enough not to bother with rush at their school. Sorry yours isn't.

No
No one is impressed with your lame bragging. Tearing down others isn’t nice. Or weren’t you taught that? No one here is saying you and your child are weird, losers are they? Be better.

When I was at UVA, everyone knew which were the top houses, middle and bottom. The question is whether or not you cared about it. Lots of strivers and climbers, legacies, and girls from parts of the country where Greek life is big will be focused on getting into the best house.

There are still plenty of girls, however, who just want to make friends and meet people, take part in the activities and opportunities that sororities offer (sisterhood, leadership, philanthropy, intramurals, parties, etc) and these girls are usually able to find a house where they feel welcome and may be less focused on the rank.

I did not intend to join a sorority but gave it a shot and met a bunch of girls who I am still friends with 25 years later. We were not a top house but we had a lot of fun together (then and now!)

Anonymous wrote:The smartest kids of all are those who don't rush in the first place and find other things to do with their time.

+100

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I think a lot of people are unfamiliar with Greek life and are not aware that it’s relatively small at UVA compared to at other flagships.

It’s a time-consuming , anxiety-filled, wild experience everywhere, but UVA sororities don’t came close to the the ones at southern schools.

Look up Bama Rush immediately. It’s so ridiculous that Netflix made a documentary about it.

This. Actually GO and look before judging.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi is anyone with a kid at UVA following the parent posts on FB? I’m shocked that parents use terms like “top tier” frat and how they can’t believe their kid did not get into a top frat. It reminds me of when I was in high school 30 years ago and there were the popular kids. Anyway I just want to tell them that my kid who never had many friends is loving rush and when I asked him about these top tier frats his response is that the top tier is the one that’s right for you.

I’m in that FB group and know which post you are referring to and think that you are seriously misreading what that mom wrote.

How do you read it?

OF course they are. This is a post bashing on UVA. Of course they are exaggerating and making things up and all of you are falling for it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the girls that rush want the top 3 houses (the actual top sororities will vary by school). Yes, they go through the instagrams to figure out if you were popular in high school, which private school you went to, sleepaway camp, etc. Also to see how you dress, your HHI, etc. This 100% happens at every school.

You're wrong, not everyone wants the top 3. My DD went in knowing she wouldn't fit with those girls and knew she'd be dropped, which she of course she was. She did say they were very nice and she was pleasantly surprised by them. But it is absolutely about wealth and connections in those sororities and at UVA those girls come from boarding schools in the Northeast. If you are not already known to them before rush, you're probably not getting in, even if you're a legacy.

UVA is slowly changing. While Greek life will be somewhat important, it won't be as important as it once was. UVA is getting kids from different backgrounds even out of state kids.

LOL. Just because UVA is trying to rewrite its extensive history, doesn't mean it is succeeding at doing so. Greek Life will always be synonymous with UVA.

Bitter? UVA is only 26% Greek. The vast majority of UVA kids don't even pledge. Mine didn't.

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Anonymous wrote:All the girls that rush want the top 3 houses (the actual top sororities will vary by school). Yes, they go through the instagrams to figure out if you were popular in high school, which private school you went to, sleepaway camp, etc. Also to see how you dress, your HHI, etc. This 100% happens at every school.

What if a girl has her Instagram set to private?

If you were playing the game “right” you’d have a public feed with content curated to highlight all of the info above. Not saying this is a good thing, just how it is.

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Anonymous wrote:The smartest kids of all are those who don't rush in the first place and find other things to do with their time.

Sorry you didn’t get a bid.

Considering I chose a school deliberately with no Greek system, that's a-ok with me! My own kid is smart enough not to bother with rush at their school. Sorry yours isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:OOS kids don’t want greek?? Lol

According to the FB post that started this thread, no one from out of state/country gets into any fraternities or sororities at UVA.

OOS students are far more into Greek life than Virginians, so . . .

Under 10 percent of students are rushing right now as it is. UVa isn’t half the party school even Vanderbilt continues to be. Pretty lame in that regard.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid says a some of the “top” sororities are filled with NE boarding school students. If that is true, I guess my kid will not ne accepted by that one for sure. She is a URM from a lower ranked fcps high school. Looks like elitism is alive and well at UVA. Yeah, I shouldn’t really be surprised. It’s just sad my kid has to face this is how things still work in certain circles. I tried to warn her, so would temper her expectations. I still hope she can either match with a house she likes or drop the whole thing, and just move on with college life.

I think one of her major concerns is not being able to attend some of the frat parties. Oh well, she will be just fine! Maybe she will finally listen to me and try out for the ultimate frisbee team!

Trust me, those "higher tier" frats are not places you want her! I may be an old curmudgeon but the amount of drug use I hear about in the greek system, especially those houses, would make you want her to stay far, far away. and I'm not talking about weed, which is everywhere.

UVA specifically or just the Greek system in general?

UVA Greek system. I’m generally a fan and was Greek but it’s bad, really bad.

It’s only 26 percent participation (Wash and Lee is over 85 percent participation). Just don’t participate! Stop
Judging. My kid did UVA and never once stepped in a house. Your kid can make that choice, too

+100

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Anonymous wrote:Hi is anyone with a kid at UVA following the parent posts on FB? I’m shocked that parents use terms like “top tier” frat and how they can’t believe their kid did not get into a top frat. It reminds me of when I was in high school 30 years ago and there were the popular kids. Anyway I just want to tell them that my kid who never had many friends is loving rush and when I asked him about these top tier frats his response is that the top tier is the one that’s right for you.

I’m in that FB group and know which post you are referring to and think that you are seriously misreading what that mom wrote.

How do you read it?

Anonymous wrote:All the girls that rush want the top 3 houses (the actual top sororities will vary by school). Yes, they go through the instagrams to figure out if you were popular in high school, which private school you went to, sleepaway camp, etc. Also to see how you dress, your HHI, etc. This 100% happens at every school.

What if a girl has her Instagram set to private?