Anonymous wrote:OP this is your problem.
You are literally making a mountain out of nothing.
Stop.
Get some parenting classes.
Your kid now has a complex that you made.

Anonymous wrote:Op - yes she is on her normal growth curve. Below the 50%. I think the problem is all her friends are so much bigger than her both height and weight. She feels like she “will never get bigger”. Also the real kicker is her 7 year old sister will be larger than her soon. That seems demoralizing to her.

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, what is the problem here?

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Anonymous wrote:9 year old daughter is 54” and 62 pounds. She is feeling really down on herself because all of her friends are so much bigger than her. Her own sister (19 months younger) is only 2” shorter and 4 pounds lighter than her. Her brother is 3 years old and 45” and 45 pounds.

What can I say to help her? She actually eats the best out of my 3 kids. I just think genetics aren’t on her side. She takes after the women on DHs side and they are all very short. DH is 5’10” and I am 5’7”. The other two kids take after my side of the family height wise and will most likely be much taller than oldest child.

That's about the size of my 10 yo / 5th grader. I'm actually not sure if she's hit 54" yet, but she's close. It does stink that she's short, especially in sports like basketball and swimming. I'm crossing my fingers that she spurts soon, as many girls do in 5th grade.

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Anonymous wrote:She cares because someone has insinuated that she should care. Was it you?

This.

I’m a PP with a 9 year old who was 52 inches at her well visit and I’m disgusted by the perspective of OP and of that self-hating spitoon-souled woman here making being shorter - especially when it just means shorter FOR NOW since these kids are 9. I hate you both, for real. My kid is currently smaller than others, but thank god my husband and I aren’t idiots and are blessed to have her, healthy and happy and bright. Mine at least is showing zero signs of puberty, and both of our mothers were relatively late (and taller than average) bloomers.

We cannot control our height. Why - WHY - would a parent contribute to a still very young child’s anxiety about being shorter or the insane, and utterly false idea, that taller is always better? I just don’t understand it at all.

Op here - you seem very triggered by this post. I have never said anything to her about her height. She mentioned it to me in passing since she has two eyes and can see her younger sister is just about the same height as her and her younger brother by 5 years is getting closer to her height every day.

I want to make sure I say the right thing to give her confidence.

She mentioned in passing that she’s smaller for her age relative to her siblings, which is an objective fact. You’re the one who is ascribing a negative implication to it.

Many/most young girls would prefer to be of average height for their age (which she is) rather than abnormally tall.

OP is a liar. Look at the actual opening post.

Op - how am I a liar? I said my daughter is feeling down because she is noticing how much smaller she is than her friends and her siblings.

Anonymous wrote:She might always be small. I can think of worse things. Like being tall.

Anonymous wrote:She might always be small. I can think of worse things. Like being tall.

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Anonymous wrote:She cares because someone has insinuated that she should care. Was it you?

This.

I’m a PP with a 9 year old who was 52 inches at her well visit and I’m disgusted by the perspective of OP and of that self-hating spitoon-souled woman here making being shorter - especially when it just means shorter FOR NOW since these kids are 9. I hate you both, for real. My kid is currently smaller than others, but thank god my husband and I aren’t idiots and are blessed to have her, healthy and happy and bright. Mine at least is showing zero signs of puberty, and both of our mothers were relatively late (and taller than average) bloomers.

We cannot control our height. Why - WHY - would a parent contribute to a still very young child’s anxiety about being shorter or the insane, and utterly false idea, that taller is always better? I just don’t understand it at all.

Op here - you seem very triggered by this post. I have never said anything to her about her height. She mentioned it to me in passing since she has two eyes and can see her younger sister is just about the same height as her and her younger brother by 5 years is getting closer to her height every day.

I want to make sure I say the right thing to give her confidence.

She mentioned in passing that she’s smaller for her age relative to her siblings, which is an objective fact. You’re the one who is ascribing a negative implication to it.

Many/most young girls would prefer to be of average height for their age (which she is) rather than abnormally tall.

OP is a liar. Look at the actual opening post.

Op - how am I a liar? I said my daughter is feeling down because she is noticing how much smaller she is than her friends and her siblings.

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Anonymous wrote:She cares because someone has insinuated that she should care. Was it you?

This.

I’m a PP with a 9 year old who was 52 inches at her well visit and I’m disgusted by the perspective of OP and of that self-hating spitoon-souled woman here making being shorter - especially when it just means shorter FOR NOW since these kids are 9. I hate you both, for real. My kid is currently smaller than others, but thank god my husband and I aren’t idiots and are blessed to have her, healthy and happy and bright. Mine at least is showing zero signs of puberty, and both of our mothers were relatively late (and taller than average) bloomers.

We cannot control our height. Why - WHY - would a parent contribute to a still very young child’s anxiety about being shorter or the insane, and utterly false idea, that taller is always better? I just don’t understand it at all.

Op here - you seem very triggered by this post. I have never said anything to her about her height. She mentioned it to me in passing since she has two eyes and can see her younger sister is just about the same height as her and her younger brother by 5 years is getting closer to her height every day.

I want to make sure I say the right thing to give her confidence.

She mentioned in passing that she’s smaller for her age relative to her siblings, which is an objective fact. You’re the one who is ascribing a negative implication to it.

Many/most young girls would prefer to be of average height for their age (which she is) rather than abnormally tall.

OP is a liar. Look at the actual opening post.

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Anonymous wrote:She cares because someone has insinuated that she should care. Was it you?

This.

I’m a PP with a 9 year old who was 52 inches at her well visit and I’m disgusted by the perspective of OP and of that self-hating spitoon-souled woman here making being shorter - especially when it just means shorter FOR NOW since these kids are 9. I hate you both, for real. My kid is currently smaller than others, but thank god my husband and I aren’t idiots and are blessed to have her, healthy and happy and bright. Mine at least is showing zero signs of puberty, and both of our mothers were relatively late (and taller than average) bloomers.

We cannot control our height. Why - WHY - would a parent contribute to a still very young child’s anxiety about being shorter or the insane, and utterly false idea, that taller is always better? I just don’t understand it at all.

Op here - you seem very triggered by this post. I have never said anything to her about her height. She mentioned it to me in passing since she has two eyes and can see her younger sister is just about the same height as her and her younger brother by 5 years is getting closer to her height every day.

I want to make sure I say the right thing to give her confidence.

She mentioned in passing that she’s smaller for her age relative to her siblings, which is an objective fact. You’re the one who is ascribing a negative implication to it.

Many/most young girls would prefer to be of average height for their age (which she is) rather than abnormally tall.