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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine how those kids behave at home? There are no consequences at home or school so they run wild.

Our school uses RJ, which works miracles with these kids. It's too bad they don't train everyone better in its practice.

It doesn't work miracles. It victimizes the victim and the bullies get away with it with no consequences.

This.

My bullied child was never in restorative justice circles with her bullies. Actually I would have preferred that. Instead her bullies were in restorative justice circles by themselves, and we were told it was none of our business.

The bullying did not stop.

No. It used to be a small minority of students were disregulated and there was a structure of fitting consequences. Now it's the majority and their are no behavior consequences. Now the teacher will be shamed and blamed for students having out of control behavior. I do not recommend this profession. There's no teacher support anymore.

The term "eloping" is used a lot in special education.



The first time I saw "eloping" in the context of school, on DCUM, I thought it was an autocorrect error.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine how those kids behave at home? There are no consequences at home or school so they run wild.

Our school uses RJ, which works miracles with these kids. It's too bad they don't train everyone better in its practice.

If RJ works, and that’s a big IF, it stops working at about third grade.

That's not true but I guess it won't work if people never give it a real chance.

There has been educational research done on this already. Good luck.

OP, I'm at a smaller MCPS elementary school, and I can tell you that NOT all schools are like the one you are at. In any given year, I can think of only a handful of students in my school who've displayed truly disruptive behavior. My advice is to talk to other staff members about the schools in which they have worked, what they've heard about other schools, etc. and it won't take long to find out which schools to avoid and which ones people have heard good things about. It can be difficult, though, to get hired at a school like the one I'm at, because those of us who are lucky enough to be at those schools never want to leave!!! Best of luck to you!

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine how those kids behave at home? There are no consequences at home or school so they run wild.

Our school uses RJ, which works miracles with these kids. It's too bad they don't train everyone better in its practice.

Restorative Justice does not work at the middle and high school level, for bullying (no one wants to be in a healing circle with their bully!), or behaviors that MCPS wants to keep out of the criminal justice system. Think the armed carjacking that BCC had before Christmas. Can you give examples of how it works in elementary?

My last school was huge on restorative practices. The preventative side was great with community circles and building a community in your classroom. However, it did nothing to curb kids physically fighting, eloping, cursing out teachers, hitting staff, etc. I taught third grade at this school and it was exhausting. RJ isn't the cure-all that people try and make it out to be in MCPS.

Oh well that's not so bad.

The first time I saw "eloping" in the context of school, on DCUM, I thought it was an autocorrect error.

Eloping is really bad because the kid is out in the community without adult supervision and could be injured or abducted. The school is still responsible so the police have to be called and a lot of staff end up with walkies searching the neighborhood. The parent has to be notified. Some kids do this on a regular basis.

The police officers in MoCo who terrorized a 6 year old were called because he eloped.

Yes, running off from school is bad. Calling it "eloping' is funny.

Eloping means running off, so...

For people who aren't in education, eloping means running off with a romantic partner to get married.

Exactly! And, at our ES there was an issue this year with kids pretending to get married at recess, so my initial thought was maybe OP was talking about our school.

How is pretending to get married an issue?

Anonymous wrote:Help. I’m a para at an MCPS elementary so I work with all grades, and I’ve just reached my limit dealing with totally disregulated kids. All day long I’m called on to deescalate children who are screaming, throwing, pushing, melting down. Even when they’re happy they’re screaming, roughhousing, running, wrestling. These are just regular mainstream classes, not SESES or autism or a special program. I am thinking of looking for a new school but wondering if others are any better? I’m just overwhelmed. I used to work in a preschool with toddlers and honestly I didn’t deal with this much tantrumming.

Thank you for the work that you do. You never know what another school will present, so if you change schools, it make not be much different. I know how little paras get paid and it's not worth it - it's not worth your peace of mind and health.

Make a plan and get out. God speed.

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Anonymous wrote:Help. I’m a para at an MCPS elementary so I work with all grades, and I’ve just reached my limit dealing with totally disregulated kids. All day long I’m called on to deescalate children who are screaming, throwing, pushing, melting down. Even when they’re happy they’re screaming, roughhousing, running, wrestling. These are just regular mainstream classes, not SESES or autism or a special program. I am thinking of looking for a new school but wondering if others are any better? I’m just overwhelmed. I used to work in a preschool with toddlers and honestly I didn’t deal with this much tantrumming.

This is why we went private. Some of our teachers are former MCPS. I think the teachers at our public were good but they were saddled with too much of what you describe and had to spend too much time managing all of that rather than teaching.

Yep, I'm at a very costly private and you would not believe the behaviors we have.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you imagine how those kids behave at home? There are no consequences at home or school so they run wild.

According to their parents, they are fine. Lol. I bet they are when you hand them a phone/tablet and let them have it whenever they want.

MCPS should have parents of misbehaving students attend classes with the kids for a week if they behave so much better for the parents.

I read an article about how a father of a teen boy sat in his class for a week because the boy kept misbehaving. The boy was super embarrassed, and stopped misbehaving.

Way to go, dad! We need more parents, especially dads, to get involved.

I don't want a random adult male in my son's class.

That’s a fellow parent with a child in your child’s class. How are they random?

Shh. Too much logic.