Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 19:41     Subject: I figured out what men want!
I figured out how to make avocado toast with just one hand. Glad to know we both had a productive day.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 16:45     Subject: I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:This is the “happy man stage.” He’s just started his career and is all potential, and he has just had his first child.

If your husband isn’t googley-eyes at you right after you had his first child, things do not bode well for your marriage.

+1 So true!
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 16:43     Subject: I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband wants me to be well educated about world news.


That’s all? That sets a pretty low bar!

He educates me about it. Everything I know is from him. It works very well in our marriage.


Do you live in an underground bunker? Is this a code/cry for help? Should we call the police to have you rescued?

OMG, hilarious.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 16:41     Subject: I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:Or at least, what some men want.

This one couple we are close friends with, to be, at least from observations in close interactions with them, very happy. The things that seem to get other couples in trouble seem to avoid them. At a recent get together, I asked what do they love about each other.

They are both in their early 30s.

Husband: Her kindness, her maternal instincts and her beauty
Wife: His drive for success, his character and his desire to constantly improve himself

The answers seem pretty gendered but they are parents of a newborn and still gaze at each other adoringly. its so sweet.

But there you have it ladies. These are the traits marriage-minded men look for.

We were like this in our early 30s with a newborn. 30+ years later? No. So much happens in life and you change and life throws lots at you. So none of that applies now, but that's okay because we both evolved and adapted to life.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 16:30     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.


You must be married to a low confidence loser who you treat like a five year old. Except for the in bed line, the others are what works with a five year old.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 16:12     Subject: I figured out what men want!
They want respect first and foremost. And yes that looks like appreciation, gratitude, not nagging, asking for and listening to their advice and opinion, not second guessing their decisions in things big or small and praising them a lot.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 15:44     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.


+1 Nailed it. This is actually what most men want. And if your DH is a good one, you should do this. Most cheaters I know have cheated for this kind of validation, not because AP is hot or anything.


Maybe you have a way of knowing what “most men want” but this doesn’t fit my experience at all. In our good marriage there’s none of this, and as far as I can tell in all our friends’ good marriages this isn’t the case either. Most of our friend group has very educated and high expectation women who don’t spend time transparently boosting their husband’s egos. I don’t think high value men depend on this kind of validation. They want an equal partner.


SIL, is that you?

I’ve known my brother since he was a little boy. He likes transparent ego boosts.








Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 15:39     Subject: I figured out what men want!
My DH wants me to be interested in a wide variety of music, movies, books, and ideas that we can discuss and enjoy together. And to make him laugh by singing songs and dancing in silly ways. He loves that.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 15:34     Subject: I figured out what men want!
So very strange you extrapolate "what men want" from one man's opinion about his wife.

May I ask why you think this particular couple is a kind of Ur-couple who reveal the universal secrets of male-female relationships?
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 15:34     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.



This. This is literally what they want.


I love my husband VERY much - but I was out at a county park today, and noticed the women walking with other women looked like they were having a better time than the women walking with men. The women walking with men mostly did look like they were trying to keep an overgrown child from devolving into a tantrum.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 15:31     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.



This. This is literally what they want.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 14:44     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.


+1 Nailed it. This is actually what most men want. And if your DH is a good one, you should do this. Most cheaters I know have cheated for this kind of validation, not because AP is hot or anything.


Maybe you have a way of knowing what “most men want” but this doesn’t fit my experience at all. In our good marriage there’s none of this, and as far as I can tell in all our friends’ good marriages this isn’t the case either. Most of our friend group has very educated and high expectation women who don’t spend time transparently boosting their husband’s egos. I don’t think high value men depend on this kind of validation. They want an equal partner.


Well you are wrong.

You get some attentive chick giving your H a bunch of pandering attention he’d love it.

Now he may not be stupid enough to risk 1/2 his money to go for it, but he will eat it up.

Of course he doesn’t want to admit it,

I dare you to do it for 2 weeks and see the change in his attitude towards you.

The problem is he’ll love it and you’ll lose your respect for him.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 14:07     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.


+1 Nailed it. This is actually what most men want. And if your DH is a good one, you should do this. Most cheaters I know have cheated for this kind of validation, not because AP is hot or anything.


Maybe you have a way of knowing what “most men want” but this doesn’t fit my experience at all. In our good marriage there’s none of this, and as far as I can tell in all our friends’ good marriages this isn’t the case either. Most of our friend group has very educated and high expectation women who don’t spend time transparently boosting their husband’s egos. I don’t think high value men depend on this kind of validation. They want an equal partner.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 08:25     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.


As a guy this is a pretty stupid response.
Anonymous
Post 01/01/2024 06:19     Subject: Re:I figured out what men want!
Anonymous wrote:Men just wanna be told they’re awesome all the time.

If they take their own plate to the sink, they want to be told good job!

In bed you must pretend they’re the most amazing lay you’ve ever had.

If they tell you something you already know, you have to pretend to be so thankful with all wonder in the world to be impart this knowledge from them.

I mean, it’s pretty simple.


+1 Nailed it. This is actually what most men want. And if your DH is a good one, you should do this. Most cheaters I know have cheated for this kind of validation, not because AP is hot or anything.