Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 08:56     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sweetheart, elementary school has this stuff too. And your child WILL be sad if mom and dad choose their high powered very important jobs over coming to donuts with dads or muffins with moms or the kindergarten thanksgiving feast or whatever. Trust me, they WILL be sad if they're one of three kids whose parents couldn't come.


In my experience as a teacher in the classroom, and also as a parent who couldn't make it to a lot of these things because I'm a teacher so my days off are chosen for me, I don't think that's totally true.

If you form relationships with other parents and ask one of them to check on your kid, and prep your kid in advance, kids can be resilient and handle not having a parent there, and it can really be fine. If you really don't have another parent in the class, or another relative you can ask, then you can also ask the teacher's help. Or, for events that happen outside the school day, you may just have to have your kid skip them. Something like Donuts for Dad, that often occurs before school starts, isn't some place you can send a kid without a parent.

But just not showing up, without prepping your kid at all, is going to make them cry.


Right. In order to prep her child though, OP would first have to be aware of what is going on.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 08:54     Subject: Re:Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you are so busy your kid needs to be in daycare, not preschool. Half day preschool is not intended to be full day childcare, it's enrichment.

But it's still CHILDCARE


Yes, but not the same as daycare. It sounds like OP actually needs nanny.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 08:44     Subject: Re:Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you are so busy your kid needs to be in daycare, not preschool. Half day preschool is not intended to be full day childcare, it's enrichment.

But it's still CHILDCARE


It's not designed as childcare though, it's designed as enrichment and so they assume parents are available to come to all this stuff.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 06:15     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:Hmm I guess you should start reading emails and looking at papers before you recycle them. This is 100% on you.


+1. I love people who are “too busy” to adequately read notices and then blame others for their failures.

Yes, a church program is not going to have the most sophisticated communications director and you might have to do a bit of extra work like replying and asking for more info. But presumably you and your husband picked the program because it’s cheap and local so you have to put in that extra work.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 00:08     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:Sweetheart, elementary school has this stuff too. And your child WILL be sad if mom and dad choose their high powered very important jobs over coming to donuts with dads or muffins with moms or the kindergarten thanksgiving feast or whatever. Trust me, they WILL be sad if they're one of three kids whose parents couldn't come.


In my experience as a teacher in the classroom, and also as a parent who couldn't make it to a lot of these things because I'm a teacher so my days off are chosen for me, I don't think that's totally true.

If you form relationships with other parents and ask one of them to check on your kid, and prep your kid in advance, kids can be resilient and handle not having a parent there, and it can really be fine. If you really don't have another parent in the class, or another relative you can ask, then you can also ask the teacher's help. Or, for events that happen outside the school day, you may just have to have your kid skip them. Something like Donuts for Dad, that often occurs before school starts, isn't some place you can send a kid without a parent.

But just not showing up, without prepping your kid at all, is going to make them cry.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2023 00:00     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Sweetheart, elementary school has this stuff too. And your child WILL be sad if mom and dad choose their high powered very important jobs over coming to donuts with dads or muffins with moms or the kindergarten thanksgiving feast or whatever. Trust me, they WILL be sad if they're one of three kids whose parents couldn't come.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2023 23:53     Subject: Re:Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you are so busy your kid needs to be in daycare, not preschool. Half day preschool is not intended to be full day childcare, it's enrichment.

But it's still CHILDCARE


They cared for the child, but these programs have a lot special events, holidays, breaks, etc. They assume a lot more family involvement than a day care.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2023 23:49     Subject: Re:Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:If you are so busy your kid needs to be in daycare, not preschool. Half day preschool is not intended to be full day childcare, it's enrichment.

But it's still CHILDCARE
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2023 23:13     Subject: Re:Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
If you are so busy your kid needs to be in daycare, not preschool. Half day preschool is not intended to be full day childcare, it's enrichment.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2023 22:59     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
I also dislike the expectation I will take time off work to come to daycare (my kids go to full day daycare not half day preschool; I can’t tell to which OP’s kid goes) for holiday celebrations. But it is your job to read communications from the school and be aware and prepared for all the random closures and last minute delays and sick kids and stuff. That’s how it is and they have to plenty of warning. My public school aftercare will randomly decide not to provide care right before holidays. Public school has so many teacher work days that I’m expected to work. That’s so much harder for me to manage than the odd hour early pick up at daycare.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2023 18:02     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, that does suck, but let it go, it's fine. And as others have posted, it only gets worse. It's my ongoing pet peeve that organizations that provide child care decide out of the blue to just summon parents to be there. For concerts, performances, holiday parties. I get that for some parents this is nice, but if I'm relying on this for childcare I just need ... less of this.


I don't think you can call a church preschool doing a Christmas event "out of the blue". Churches do things for Christmas. It's pretty well known.

I also don't think this is a childcare program. This sounds like a half day preschool.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2023 15:52     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
I belong to a church that has a preschool and there is zero communication about the preschool's schedule or activities as part of our "church" communications. And my kids went to a church preschool at a different church than the one where we belong and the members of that church had no more information about preschool activities than we non-church member parents did.

This sounds like an OP not paying attention problem, not a secret-church-preschool-communication-channel problem.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2023 14:44     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Anonymous wrote:2 weeks ago I was emailed some kind of invitation to this mandatory Christmas party which requires me to be there an hour early. It was an attachment I didn't open. We don't celebrate Xmas. This early pick-up wasn't on the school calendar and I work. I get a call specifically saying this lady is with him at the cookie reception because "you are not here". She didn't call my husband so it was all on me. How sexist! If they are deciding to have less preschool shouldn't they be better at notifying us? An email the day before or the morning of? That's what public schools would do and they would give us way more advance notice about picking up early from school. When I did arrive at school during the regular pick my son was sitting with his teachers and everyone else eating cookies. She mentioned she sent an email and sent home a note in his folder. I honestly throw most of those papers in the recycling. If I did see something at the party I probably assumed it was at night and we wouldn't go. I should be more careful and read all the papers I guess..i hope there aren't anymore early pick-ups until graduation. Of course, every kid has both their mom and dad attend the Xmas party and Thanksgiving one. We went to the Thanksgiving one but we can't take off in the middle of the day at 11:30 am to hear his class sing for 5 his and eat cookies.




The school did their job and it isn't their fault that you are too lazy to read what they send home with your child. You are. Terrible mother.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 18:12     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Hmm I guess you should start reading emails and looking at papers before you recycle them. This is 100% on you.
Anonymous
Post 12/18/2023 17:48     Subject: Feel bad late to early pick up at preschool because of xmas show
Sorry OP, that does suck, but let it go, it's fine. And as others have posted, it only gets worse. It's my ongoing pet peeve that organizations that provide child care decide out of the blue to just summon parents to be there. For concerts, performances, holiday parties. I get that for some parents this is nice, but if I'm relying on this for childcare I just need ... less of this.