I hope you've told your daughter that she's not to be around this girl anymore, you and the mom being besties or not.

You don’t op

You go to the non emergency police number and you get advice

Telling her parents is stupid

You think those people with guns are not coming for your kid the narc?

This is not simple her parents are stupid she has a ton of cash they haven’t noticed give me a break

You call the police or you hav3 the school do it but do not call her parents!

And why on the world have you not noticed this friend is not a good kid. No one hides drug dealing that well. Your kid has shitty friends

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you everyone. My friends DD is purchasing drugs and is reselling them to other kids. There is a social media account where people contact the child and the girl has been hanging out with people who own guns. My DD also said that the child’s co dealer got jumped with a gun.

I need to tell my best friend and also protect my DD confidences.

If this is truly a part of the story, I would not be anxious to have my kid be known as the snitch.

Anonymous wrote:I definitely definitely would not tell the school. They have obligations to other students.

Tell the mom. The police will know soon if they don’t already (this is never kept quiet) and she could get arrested and ruin her life. This warrants telling the mom and I hope you daughter understands.

Awesome, let's aid and abet a teen ruining the lives of everyone around her, because she's... a pretty girl?

Don't the victims lives matter?

I definitely definitely would not tell the school. They have obligations to other students.

Tell the mom. The police will know soon if they don’t already (this is never kept quiet) and she could get arrested and ruin her life. This warrants telling the mom and I hope you daughter understands.

Do the school counselors go to the police or only tell the parents?

OP time is of the essence here. Did you email the school councilors or your friend directly?

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I love my best friend but I need to 100 percent make sure I'm protecting my DD too.

This involves drugs and possibly guns and minors. All illegal activities. There is no anonymous, even with a fake gmail. Don’t complicate the situation more with fake gmail addresses when the investigation happens.

Tell your daughter you will be telling the parents and then you can always say you found out by going through your daughter’s phone.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you so much everyone!

I definitely need to say something. I'm deciding between an anonymous email to the counselor or anonymous email to my friend. Which would you do?

Don't do either of those. Talk to your friend.

Bringing in the school means bringing int he police. It means this is her record. Is that what you want to have happen?

Are you a good enough actor that when your friend talks to you about the email, you'll keep a straight face? Or what if she DOESN'T talk about the email - then you're going to say, "Hey, get any interesting emails lately?"

Tell your daughter that you have to talk to your friend, adult to adult. You don't have to say you got this info from your daughter.

Drug dealers should get legal consequences

OP has to decide if that's how she feels about her best friend's daughter.

Anonymous wrote:If it's pregnancy, suicide, dropping out of school, anorexia, or a physically abusive relationship, blow up your childs world

If it’s suicide, anorexia (which I thought KimK ended for all women), abuse yes blow up your child’s world.

Buuuuut

If it’s pregnancy ask your friend if her daughter is putting on weight? Or say she has that teenage glow. Drop something slick

If dropping out of school suggest your friend get an air tag for her kid because you caught your precious DD skipping and you were shocked so she should even check her kid

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you so much everyone!

I definitely need to say something. I'm deciding between an anonymous email to the counselor or anonymous email to my friend. Which would you do?

Neither OP. Tell your friend directly. This is a community. I agree with a pp that a lot of people already know about it. A friend's kid was dealing drugs and it was common knowledge. A bunch of people told the kid's parents, including neighbors and friends. A bunch of our parents in our group have had to share bad news with other families. Some are more receptive than others, but we take the village approach. Be casual and factual, and express how much you like the girl and that it's hard for you to disclose this, but you would want to know the same.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you so much everyone!

I definitely need to say something. I'm deciding between an anonymous email to the counselor or anonymous email to my friend. Which would you do?

Don't do either of those. Talk to your friend.

Bringing in the school means bringing int he police. It means this is her record. Is that what you want to have happen?

Are you a good enough actor that when your friend talks to you about the email, you'll keep a straight face? Or what if she DOESN'T talk about the email - then you're going to say, "Hey, get any interesting emails lately?"

Tell your daughter that you have to talk to your friend, adult to adult. You don't have to say you got this info from your daughter.

Drug dealers should get legal consequences

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you everyone. My friends DD is purchasing drugs and is reselling them to other kids. There is a social media account where people contact the child and the girl has been hanging out with people who own guns. My DD also said that the child’s co dealer got jumped with a gun.

I need to tell my best friend and also protect my DD confidences.

If this is true then you need to tell the parent

You absolutely need to sit down and tell your friend.

Anonymous wrote:I would sit down with your daughter and explain why you think it is important to tell your friend. Tell your daughter that you know you were told in confidence but some things are too important to keep secret. Tell her that she is being a good friend by helping her friend get the help she needs. And then tell your friend.

+1

Tell your friend. Make sure to Highlight the fact that you are doing her a favor by keeping school and law enforcement out of it- and you wanted to tell her before someone else DOES let school and police know. Tell friend her DDs actions are common knowledge- many kids know- and to keep your DD OUT of it. She can tell her daughter she got an anonymous email or something.