Anonymous
12/15/2023 21:22
Subject: Re:Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
Anonymous wrote:OP here - I have always been worried it would be subtlety used against me in terms of getting promotions. I mommy tracked myself for a decade before going for management. I am now a director, so it did not hinder me thankfully. But our HHI is closer to $700,000 whereas my boss and bosses boss HHI is probably more like $300-$400K. Obviously all very high HHI but I sometimes feel awkward when people learn what my husband does for a living. Like we were 30 and bought an expensive house and my work colleagues were surprised we could afford a house so young, etc.
Identical situation here. We're now mid 40s. Some people, usually peers that get to know us, are jealous. I learned the hard way not to befriend my work colleagues, so now there are no jealousy issues. No one who will get jealous knows where we live and our kids attend private school. Everyone i work with can afford private, unless they have like 5 kids, so that's no indicator of wealth, but more a reflection of values. My bosses never seem to care. They all have SAHWs and older children, some attended public, some private.
Anonymous
12/15/2023 17:50
Subject: Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
I’m trying to move up the corporate ladder so I’m very private about not sharing that we own a second home. In fact, I rarely mention it even to friends unless it’s a friend who also owns properties and we’re discussing it. I don’t consider us HHI for this area. So many have lots of wealth in the DC area. I work at a place where the leadership is swimming in money but acts very low key/under the radar about it all.
Anonymous
12/12/2023 16:13
Subject: Re:Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, DH very successful.
I am very careful to not talk about our large house, try not to mention that my kids are in private school, deliberately drive a Honda and not a luxury car (and never drive DH’s car to the office), and never invite my colleagues to my house. I think all of those things would reflect that we have significantly more income than my boss and my coworkers and would make me feel awkward to show them.
Or just be an adult and drive whatever car you want. This is just bizarre.
+1. Is your work wardrobe like a ripped t-shirt and a skirt made out of reusable target bags?
I love you.
PP is ridiculous! I am wealthy and invite my colleagues over to my house. Fortunately they look past my large house and enjoy themselves and continue to treat me well.
Anonymous
12/12/2023 16:11
Subject: Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I downplay what my husband does and make no mention of my finances. I occasionally get a look when someone asks what HS my kids will be going to (public but in a known "good" area so it reveals where we live). But I am very careful to not flaunt a thing. They don't need to know so I don't have to feel weird.
Your coworkers don't know.... where you live?
+1. Also, nobody is jealous of a public school family. Even if (especially if?) they live in Greenwich.
Anonymous
12/12/2023 16:07
Subject: Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
Yes, but no I don't feel bad about it. I don't see why I would?
Anonymous
12/12/2023 15:51
Subject: Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
My HHI is then my boss’ due to my husbands salary. Same for my previous boss. I don’t think about it though. We have three kids including one in daycare, a car payment etc so they’re probably coming out ahead (different phases of life/life circumstances).
Anonymous
12/12/2023 15:35
Subject: Re:Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, DH very successful.
I am very careful to not talk about our large house, try not to mention that my kids are in private school, deliberately drive a Honda and not a luxury car (and never drive DH’s car to the office), and never invite my colleagues to my house. I think all of those things would reflect that we have significantly more income than my boss and my coworkers and would make me feel awkward to show them.
Or just be an adult and drive whatever car you want. This is just bizarre.
+1. Is your work wardrobe like a ripped t-shirt and a skirt made out of reusable target bags?
I love you.
Anonymous
12/12/2023 15:32
Subject: Is your HHI higher than your bosses?
Anonymous wrote:I downplay what my husband does and make no mention of my finances. I occasionally get a look when someone asks what HS my kids will be going to (public but in a known "good" area so it reveals where we live). But I am very careful to not flaunt a thing. They don't need to know so I don't have to feel weird.
Your coworkers don't know.... where you live?