Anonymous
Post 12/16/2025 09:58     Subject: Household manager?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I was a household manager for 12 years and have been recruiting, screening, and placing them with families for 6+ years through my agency.

It depends if this will be a nanny/household manager hybrid role or strictly household manager, but in general the duties encompass everything to keep the home running and organized outside of actual deep cleaning (which is housekeepers/cleaning lady duties). Typical duties includes:
Errands
Organizational tasks (cleaning out fridge, pantry, closets, storage)
Booking appointments
Managing routine home and car maintanence
Groceries/stocking household items
Meal prep
Planning and booking (vacations, kids activities, vendors, contractors, etc)
Seasonal tasks (Christmas cards, gift shopping, wrapping, decorating, making sure kids have seasonally appropriate gear)
Vets/grooming appts/feeding/walking pets
Sorting and donating clothes/toys
Managing family/school calendars
Packing lunches/laying out clothes for the next day
Generally putting things back in their places
Laundry


Interesting. I could not fathom outsourcing most of this. What I can outsource happily is:

Shopping and prepping food and cleaning it up after prepping - ANYTHING to do with the acquiring and prepping of food
Cleaning - daily and deep

But the calendaring, cleaning out, organizing, seasonal stuff, pet stuff, most errands, kids clothes, car stuff, vacations - no way


I on the other hand would kill for someone to do all of these things! Omg what a dream!
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2025 09:19     Subject: Household manager?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:are these real numbers? I pay our nanny 21/hour and was looking to see if it make sense to have her find another nanny job or to hire a household manager, if they are trulky 150k-300k a year I might just train her lol


That is appalling low. We pay our housekepers twice that! I'd def pay people more when it comes to childcare. You don't want an angry, disgruntled employee in charge of your kids.


we pay our housekeeper 300 a visist for 3-4 hours but they come very 2 weeks, not sure how that is relevant to a person who is working 8 hours a day .


No one here is talking about a bi monthly cleaning or deep clean.
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2025 09:18     Subject: Re:Household manager?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'll do this job for $100k or more a year. Where do you find these jobs?


I’m a SAHM and you’d have to pay me considerably more. It’s a grind.


You’re way less invested since it’s not you or your kids, and you chunk up your time. Plus you get to leave!!!

Family A errands and housework: 8am- noon.

Family B errands, kids and housework: 2pm-6pm
Anonymous
Post 12/16/2025 09:16     Subject: Household manager?

Anonymous wrote:I think I do 90% on this list (dh does errands, dishes and everyone does their own laundry), plus I work f/t and I make 145k—-after a PhD and 20 yrs in my field! Damn. I would love to have a “household manager” myself.

It also reminds me how much in our supposedly equal” marriage my spouse doesn’t do. Like, I’m getting everyone their Xmas presents right now (his family too); booked all the plane tickets, cars; air bnbs; etc. I manage all our finances, bills, home care and my own car care. I deal with insurance/medical bills and reimbursement; shopping for housebound goods; lawn care, taxes, most of the cooking, and weekly tidying of the entire house. I deal with all our mail, make all the vet/dental/seminal appointments. I am the only one who gets on the school websites to check grades and homework and email teachers. . I do all our entertaining. I work more hours at an office (he’s remote) and I’m so freaking tired.


Same.

Be proud though, you’re doing it and got your ssshit together well. Many other households, things fall through the cracks or they punch out entirely.
Anonymous
Post 12/15/2025 22:18     Subject: Household manager?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:are these real numbers? I pay our nanny 21/hour and was looking to see if it make sense to have her find another nanny job or to hire a household manager, if they are trulky 150k-300k a year I might just train her lol


That is appalling low. We pay our housekepers twice that! I'd def pay people more when it comes to childcare. You don't want an angry, disgruntled employee in charge of your kids.


we pay our housekeeper 300 a visist for 3-4 hours but they come very 2 weeks, not sure how that is relevant to a person who is working 8 hours a day .