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Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Please consider a nanny or at least a share.

OP again. What is really sad about this? I see from the responses that maybe I'm being a bit idealistic, and I'll totally accept that. But most of the moms I know did daycare got back in shape within a year of having a baby so I don't understand why I'm being crucified for asking about how to fit in a workout and saying I'm going to send my baby to daycare.

What’s sad is that you prioritize yourself to the extent that you are thinking about your workouts etc. but you don’t prioritize your baby enough to let them stay in the comfort of their home during their early years

Different poster. Um, not everyone can afford to stay at home with their baby. So how is that sad?

NP, but I could afford to stay home with my baby, and I chose not to because I prefer to work. And I prioritized my health which does include regular workouts. The PP is a nasty person. Moms deserve self-care and not being a SAHP is not a moral failing.

People in real life often cannot afford a nanny, because there just is not enough HHI. We simply could not afford one, even though we have an older non-fancy home in a tract development. And no, we do not have a fancy car or new car, we do not go on fancy vacations, we do not have investments beyond the 401(k), we do not have much savings, and we have kids in public schools.

Our situation is actually very very common, all across America, much more common than a few of the 1%ers posting here seem to grasp.

Plan on being sleep deprived for at least the first 2 years. Exercise will not have a firm schedule, but instead will have to be when-one-can.

Babies need to be 100% supervised, and this will not really change until maybe around age 5. Children under maybe age 7 or 8 do not understand that a parent they can see still needs to be able to work.

Each family is different, but many families have one parent handle drop off and the other parent picks up from day care. Often, not always, this also means shifting work schedules, so the drop-off parent starts work later and the pickup parent starts work earlier.

In many families, not all, it helps if DW creates a list of all the things which need to be done for the baby and for the house, then both DH and DW agree on who is responsible for which things and what days/times they need to be finished. This is NOT the time to micro-manage how each other gets things done; it is the time to delegate and let the other person do their tasks as they think best.

Once my baby was sleeping through the night, I would wake up at 5 and pump (it was too uncomfortable to work out without pumping first), work out, and be home by the time she woke up and needed to nurse at 6:30. I worked part time so our afternoons were different, but I prioritized working out in the mornings and was also able to have the mornings with her, and my DS. We were out the door just before 8 for preschool drop off for my son (DD had a nanny, but the nanny didn’t arrive until after I got home from preschool drop-off). You just need to wake up earlier!

Before she slept through the night I prioritized sleep.

I shower at night vs morning. I prep all bottles for daycare the night before.

I wake up at 6 and get baby. I feed him and then I eat. Then we go upstairs and he chills in his crib while I finish getting ready. Then I change him for daycare and go downstairs. I finish gathering everything and we are usually out the door by 7:30 the latest.

I avoid putting my top on until he is in his carseat cause spit up sucks.

You will find a schedule that works.

Anonymous wrote:LOL. Don’t worry about not having time to work out. You won’t have energy anyway.

This! 🤣

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Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Please consider a nanny or at least a share.

OP again. What is really sad about this? I see from the responses that maybe I'm being a bit idealistic, and I'll totally accept that. But most of the moms I know did daycare got back in shape within a year of having a baby so I don't understand why I'm being crucified for asking about how to fit in a workout and saying I'm going to send my baby to daycare.

What’s sad is that you prioritize yourself to the extent that you are thinking about your workouts etc. but you don’t prioritize your baby enough to let them stay in the comfort of their home during their early years

Different poster. Um, not everyone can afford to stay at home with their baby. So how is that sad?

LOL. Don’t worry about not having time to work out. You won’t have energy anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Please consider a nanny or at least a share.

OP again. What is really sad about this? I see from the responses that maybe I'm being a bit idealistic, and I'll totally accept that. But most of the moms I know did daycare got back in shape within a year of having a baby so I don't understand why I'm being crucified for asking about how to fit in a workout and saying I'm going to send my baby to daycare.

What’s sad is that you prioritize yourself to the extent that you are thinking about your workouts etc. but you don’t prioritize your baby enough to let them stay in the comfort of their home during their early years

Hey PP, could you spend some time reflecting on how to make the world a better place? Just doing that would be a big improvement over you spewing this toxic garbage here.

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Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Please consider a nanny or at least a share.

OP again. What is really sad about this? I see from the responses that maybe I'm being a bit idealistic, and I'll totally accept that. But most of the moms I know did daycare got back in shape within a year of having a baby so I don't understand why I'm being crucified for asking about how to fit in a workout and saying I'm going to send my baby to daycare.

What’s sad is that you prioritize yourself to the extent that you are thinking about your workouts etc. but you don’t prioritize your baby enough to let them stay in the comfort of their home during their early years

Ignore this poster, op

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Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Please consider a nanny or at least a share.

OP again. What is really sad about this? I see from the responses that maybe I'm being a bit idealistic, and I'll totally accept that. But most of the moms I know did daycare got back in shape within a year of having a baby so I don't understand why I'm being crucified for asking about how to fit in a workout and saying I'm going to send my baby to daycare.

What’s sad is that you prioritize yourself to the extent that you are thinking about your workouts etc. but you don’t prioritize your baby enough to let them stay in the comfort of their home during their early years

I work from home 3x a week and my husband works out of the home. I have 2 toddlers. When I work in the office I wake up at 6 to get myself ready and prepare some quick breakfast. I then wake up the kids, get them ready, drag them to the kitchen to eat breakfast. I drop them off daycare, which is 5 minutes away, by 7. My husband picks them up around 4:30-5. I get to work by 8:30 and usually get home between 6:30-7. On days I work from home I wake up at 7:15 to make breakfast, wake them up by 7:30 to get ready and eat and have them at daycare by 8ish. Husband will pick them up on way home.

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Anonymous wrote:This is really sad. Please consider a nanny or at least a share.

OP again. What is really sad about this? I see from the responses that maybe I'm being a bit idealistic, and I'll totally accept that. But most of the moms I know did daycare got back in shape within a year of having a baby so I don't understand why I'm being crucified for asking about how to fit in a workout and saying I'm going to send my baby to daycare.

Crucified??? Are you new here? The responses you have gotten have been very kind and practical except for just a few. You really need to toughen up a bit if you are going to ask for advice here.

OP, I apologize on behalf of the DCUM community. Please understand that there are a lot of people on these boards who literally spend their days bullying people online for fun. It's kind of sad.

It sounds like you've already figured out that having a baby and maintaining a regular workout routine will be hard. What it looks like for you is really dependent on a lot of factors including your baby's temperament, how fast they feed, whether you are breastfeeding, how well you and the baby sleep, etc. I think the best advice given here is to take it real slow after giving birth. Your body will have been through a lot and your priority should be to heal first. Beyond that, you'll figure it out. It is good you want to prioritize your wellness as a new mom. I didn't and it was rough. You're going to be a great mom. And daycare is awesome btw, ignore the insecure naysayers here.

OP here - thank you. I'm a planner and what I am taking away from this thread is that I can plan all I want but reality may look different, so I'll just need to see what life looks like when baby gets here and then figure out how I can fit in my own wellness wherever that may be.

Ooh parenthood is going to smack you hard in the face. No planning parenthood. I say this as a planner

Haha 😄

You are going to be late most days
So sleep deprived
Never have time to workout
Never see your friends
Have 0 sick leave left
Sick every 2 weeks

Congrats and welcome to parenthood!

DH and I worried about this too so we got a nanny. We kept her on even when DD was old enough to go to preschool in part because our lives are so much less rushed without the daycare commute, preparing a lunchbox, etc.