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Anonymous wrote:I'd confirm with the director that she will lose her spot if she isn't there. If they say yes, I'd give her a cough drop and send her. I wouldn't mask because that makes her look suspicious. If other people get sick, blame the policy

+1
The no forgiveness for illnesses is a real problem. I wouldn't mask her, but I would definitely mask the symptoms, i.e., dayquil or the equivalent.

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Anonymous wrote:1-2 TB ACV in a bottle of water every 3 hours. Add a drop of iodine if you have the edible kind (not the drug store kind, that’s poisonous).

Ice pack on back of neck, Can even stuff one in her bra during the concert if she’s really feeling terrible.

Eating ice chips Can help too, maybe a convenience store slushie right before the concert.

Sudafed or something with Sudafed in it for nasal drip. Give a 12 hour dose asap as it might make her sleepy at first.

Get some sugar and caffeine in her before the concert. Can also try excedrin migraine for headache, it has caffeine.

Hot tea with honey.

Thank you. This was actually helpful and I appreciate it. -OP

Stuffing ice packs in a bra because of a fever is insane. If she needs all of those remedies to cope, she is too sick to be out.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously? You'd send a kid with a fever out? Unreal.

People go to school and work with fevers every day. It isn’t 2020-21.

At some point it becomes necessary. Last year my DD missed 10 days of school (two different weeks) due to fevers. School freaked out about attendance even though she was complying with their fever policy. She was applying to schools and it had to be put in her applications. Her main extracurricular was in jeopardy, too.

There were obviously kids going in to school and activities who were way more sick than she was and who she caught it from. It’s fine to play by the rules in preschool but the stakes get higher for older kids and it backs families into tough corners.

No, you just valued her extracurriculars more than your daughter's health and the health of everyone around her.

This! And I would do the same thing. My kids and their success is more important to me than random strangers health. Now, if these things weren't in contradiction, one could value both.

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Anonymous wrote:This happened to my kid. She had a major role (not the lead, but a key role with a solo) in a play for which there was no understudy. If she didn’t go, they would have either cancelled or had a random person do it on book and without performing the songs; it would have totally wrecked the show. There was no opportunity to reschedule because it was in a borrowed/fully scheduled venue. She performed, Zofraned up, while vomiting backstage twice. Everyone knew; we were totally upfront about it. There was not a single suggestion that she shouldn’t perform. Obviously she did not want to ruin 6 months of everyone’s hard work. Things happen, OP, I totally get it and would not force my DD to stay home if she didn’t want to in your position.

That sounds like absolute hell. I’ll say openly what was said behind your back at the time: she should not have performed.

NP and if this was anything short of recreational children's theater, I'm guessing that people actually didn't say something behind her back but rather lauded her for embodying the spirit of "the show must go on." The mores of DCUM are irrelevant to the theater world.

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Anonymous wrote:This happened to my kid. She had a major role (not the lead, but a key role with a solo) in a play for which there was no understudy. If she didn’t go, they would have either cancelled or had a random person do it on book and without performing the songs; it would have totally wrecked the show. There was no opportunity to reschedule because it was in a borrowed/fully scheduled venue. She performed, Zofraned up, while vomiting backstage twice. Everyone knew; we were totally upfront about it. There was not a single suggestion that she shouldn’t perform. Obviously she did not want to ruin 6 months of everyone’s hard work. Things happen, OP, I totally get it and would not force my DD to stay home if she didn’t want to in your position.

That sounds like absolute hell. I’ll say openly what was said behind your back at the time: she should not have performed.

Anonymous wrote:This happened to my kid. She had a major role (not the lead, but a key role with a solo) in a play for which there was no understudy. If she didn’t go, they would have either cancelled or had a random person do it on book and without performing the songs; it would have totally wrecked the show. There was no opportunity to reschedule because it was in a borrowed/fully scheduled venue. She performed, Zofraned up, while vomiting backstage twice. Everyone knew; we were totally upfront about it. There was not a single suggestion that she shouldn’t perform. Obviously she did not want to ruin 6 months of everyone’s hard work. Things happen, OP, I totally get it and would not force my DD to stay home if she didn’t want to in your position.