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Anonymous wrote:Your elderly mom and dad will sleep until noon? You don’t think ANYONE will have a hard time sleeping on an unfamiliar mattress and be up early? I just cannot imagine telling 15 people “eat a bagel and survive until 4pm.”

Fair enough. They definitely will be up sooner. And DCUM has already convinced mw that I need more food. I’m doing the breakfast casserole. It’s an excellent idea. But why isn’t anyone commenting on how obnoxious my sister is for now refusing to bring bagels? It’s so like her. My anger at that was what prompted me to post. Should I be equally petty and tell her she can’t have any bagels or the casserole I make since she is being a bossy and obnoxious guest? 😅 As you can see I’m still pissed about that and that’s where I need people to talk me off the ledge. It’s one small thing she could do but whatever that’s her.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your elderly mom and dad will sleep until noon? You don’t think ANYONE will have a hard time sleeping on an unfamiliar mattress and be up early? I just cannot imagine telling 15 people “eat a bagel and survive until 4pm.”

Fair enough. They definitely will be up sooner. And DCUM has already convinced mw that I need more food. I’m doing the breakfast casserole. It’s an excellent idea. But why isn’t anyone commenting on how obnoxious my sister is for now refusing to bring bagels? It’s so like her. My anger at that was what prompted me to post. Should I be equally petty and tell her she can’t have any bagels or the casserole I make since she is being a bossy and obnoxious guest? 😅 As you can see I’m still pissed about that and that’s where I need people to talk me off the ledge. It’s one small thing she could do but whatever that’s her.

Your sister is being petty because you were being petty before her and pissed her off. It’s the obvious dynamic. No one is taking her side.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

We get it op. Everyone is zooming in on "boys" and "bagels"
They don't understand that you're trying to pull something off with a lot of unknowns, and your sister is doing the bare minimum to help but making a lot of demands. These are all adults. Most will be sleeping until noon. They can find food if they need to eat. Then they'll all sit their expectant a$$es down at 4 and want more food and then leave you to clean up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your elderly mom and dad will sleep until noon? You don’t think ANYONE will have a hard time sleeping on an unfamiliar mattress and be up early? I just cannot imagine telling 15 people “eat a bagel and survive until 4pm.”

Fair enough. They definitely will be up sooner. And DCUM has already convinced mw that I need more food. I’m doing the breakfast casserole. It’s an excellent idea. But why isn’t anyone commenting on how obnoxious my sister is for now refusing to bring bagels? It’s so like her. My anger at that was what prompted me to post. Should I be equally petty and tell her she can’t have any bagels or the casserole I make since she is being a bossy and obnoxious guest? 😅 As you can see I’m still pissed about that and that’s where I need people to talk me off the ledge. It’s one small thing she could do but whatever that’s her.

Anonymous wrote:Your elderly mom and dad will sleep until noon? You don’t think ANYONE will have a hard time sleeping on an unfamiliar mattress and be up early? I just cannot imagine telling 15 people “eat a bagel and survive until 4pm.”

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

You're not going to have all the burners going at 8am. Do a lot of your prep the day before. Just have you sister clean up after herself and give her a time that she has to be out of the kitchen. But if you're having houseguests, they need to eat so you need to plan for that. Keeping things simple doesn't mean ignore all the meals but one. If everyone is well fed they are more likely to stay out of your way in the kitchen. Otherwise they will be grazing for hours.

Honestly do you read? I know my family. We will be up late Wednesday night after I have a full catered meal for everyone Wednesday night. I expect everyone will be rolling out of bed around 11 am or noon. I’m serving dinner at 4. I will have an egg bake to keep my sister quiet and based on advice here. That makes sense. But we live in the city. There is literally a Starbucks, a pizzeria, two restaurants and two delis two blocks away. When I suggested to my sister her adult boys ( mid twenties) options if they aren’t pleased with my breakfast spread her answer was that they didn’t have money for coffee and now she’s refusing to bring the bagels out of spite. That’s what I’m upset at. Can you focus on that if you feel the need to criticize? Thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

We get it op. Everyone is zooming in on "boys" and "bagels"
They don't understand that you're trying to pull something off with a lot of unknowns, and your sister is doing the bare minimum to help but making a lot of demands. These are all adults. Most will be sleeping until noon. They can find food if they need to eat. Then they'll all sit their expectant a$$es down at 4 and want more food and then leave you to clean up.

No, PP. You’re wrong. OP couldn’t have made it more clear that her issues with her sister have nothing to do with Thanksgiving. She’s creating the drama here. Now we’re hearing for the first time that OP doesn’t like how her sister “babies” her adult sons. Etc.

The sister isn’t asking that OP make the guys breakfast. She’s offering to do it herself. So let her. And that everybody is going to sleep until noon is unadulterated bullshit. I’ve never known of a single family where all of the guests sleep in the host’s house until noon on Thanksgiving Day. It’s doesn’t happen. Either it’s an exaggeration or we’re talking about a family of weirdos of epic proportions, in which case the least of OP’s problem is that some of the guests want a hot breakfast.

OP is doing no one a favor by agreeing to have everyone at her house for Thanksgiving because it is centrally located and then stressing out about the entire process and taking it out on her guests. She needs to be more gracious and go with the flow. The dinner will be made. In one way or another.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

We get it op. Everyone is zooming in on "boys" and "bagels"
They don't understand that you're trying to pull something off with a lot of unknowns, and your sister is doing the bare minimum to help but making a lot of demands. These are all adults. Most will be sleeping until noon. They can find food if they need to eat. Then they'll all sit their expectant a$$es down at 4 and want more food and then leave you to clean up.

No, PP. You’re wrong. OP couldn’t have made it more clear that her issues with her sister have nothing to do with Thanksgiving. She’s creating the drama here. Now we’re hearing for the first time that OP doesn’t like how her sister “babies” her adult sons. Etc.

The sister isn’t asking that OP make the guys breakfast. She’s offering to do it herself. So let her. And that everybody is going to sleep until noon is unadulterated bullshit. I’ve never known of a single family where all of the guests sleep in the host’s house until noon on Thanksgiving Day. It’s doesn’t happen. Either it’s an exaggeration or we’re talking about a family of weirdos of epic proportions, in which case the least of OP’s problem is that some of the guests want a hot breakfast.

OP is doing no one a favor by agreeing to have everyone at her house for Thanksgiving because it is centrally located and then stressing out about the entire process and taking it out on her guests. She needs to be more gracious and go with the flow. The dinner will be made. In one way or another.

Or Op if there’s a time you don’t need the kitchen from day 9-10 or 8:30-930 apologize to your sister ask her and thank her for bringing the bagels and say the kitchen is free between this time if you’d like to make breakfast for everyone.

The fact that people on DCuM don’t seem to get the sister wants to make breakfast for her adult “boys.” What about everyone else? I find it rude to stay at someone’s house and only make food for your kids.

A family member did this Thanksgiving years ago. We went to their home and had sandwiches (not kidding) with old bread and deli meat! I brought a green salad and a quinoa salad thankfully but then the hosts daughters went into the fridge and took out Turkey and organic fruits and vegetables ti feed their grandkids but didn’t offer it to any other children or anyone else. I found it so rude! When my in laws host (everyone takes a turn) their either cook or cater a huge meal with many different options.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

You're not going to have all the burners going at 8am. Do a lot of your prep the day before. Just have you sister clean up after herself and give her a time that she has to be out of the kitchen. But if you're having houseguests, they need to eat so you need to plan for that. Keeping things simple doesn't mean ignore all the meals but one. If everyone is well fed they are more likely to stay out of your way in the kitchen. Otherwise they will be grazing for hours.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

We get it op. Everyone is zooming in on "boys" and "bagels"
They don't understand that you're trying to pull something off with a lot of unknowns, and your sister is doing the bare minimum to help but making a lot of demands. These are all adults. Most will be sleeping until noon. They can find food if they need to eat. Then they'll all sit their expectant a$$es down at 4 and want more food and then leave you to clean up.

No, PP. You’re wrong. OP couldn’t have made it more clear that her issues with her sister have nothing to do with Thanksgiving. She’s creating the drama here. Now we’re hearing for the first time that OP doesn’t like how her sister “babies” her adult sons. Etc.

The sister isn’t asking that OP make the guys breakfast. She’s offering to do it herself. So let her. And that everybody is going to sleep until noon is unadulterated bullshit. I’ve never known of a single family where all of the guests sleep in the host’s house until noon on Thanksgiving Day. It’s doesn’t happen. Either it’s an exaggeration or we’re talking about a family of weirdos of epic proportions, in which case the least of OP’s problem is that some of the guests want a hot breakfast.

OP is doing no one a favor by agreeing to have everyone at her house for Thanksgiving because it is centrally located and then stressing out about the entire process and taking it out on her guests. She needs to be more gracious and go with the flow. The dinner will be made. In one way or another.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.

We get it op. Everyone is zooming in on "boys" and "bagels"
They don't understand that you're trying to pull something off with a lot of unknowns, and your sister is doing the bare minimum to help but making a lot of demands. These are all adults. Most will be sleeping until noon. They can find food if they need to eat. Then they'll all sit their expectant a$$es down at 4 and want more food and then leave you to clean up.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day.