Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 20:48     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s not enough money to SAH comfortably. If it were double that, then maybe.


My husband makes less than that and I SAH with three school age kids. We’re quite comfortable, actually.


Where do you live and how much was your house…


Fairfax county and about 500K. Like OP, I worked before quitting to stay home once we had our third, and my DH and I made similar salaries. So I have some retirement savings continuing to grow, we had a good start on college savings, and of course we bought when interest rates were low.

It’s not “savings” exactly but do keep in mind that a family with only one income earner making around 150K will pay significantly less in taxes than they were when there were two earners (and fewer dependents). It certainly allows for some breathing room, anyway.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 19:17     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:You know this will all blow up on you when you have the 3rd DD rather than the DS you DH is obsessed about.


+1 show him the stats that once you have two of one gender you're more likely to have a third of the same.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 19:03     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
You know this will all blow up on you when you have the 3rd DD rather than the DS you DH is obsessed about.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 19:02     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s not enough money to SAH comfortably. If it were double that, then maybe.


My husband makes less than that and I SAH with three school age kids. We’re quite comfortable, actually.


Where do you live and how much was your house…
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 19:01     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:You have baby fever. Your DH wants a third. You should go for it. I’m not sure you can afford to be a SAHM forever but you should be able to make it work for a few years and go back to work. Part time work may also be an option to keep your skills fresh and not have a large gap in your resume.

I was in a somewhat similar situation but DH earned 800k. 3 kids is a lot of work.


$800k vs $200k is NOT similar.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 18:56     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Read The Feminine Mistake before quitting your job because your DH wants a third - https://www.publishersweekly.com/9781401303068
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 17:49     Subject: Re:Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
your husband is much more likely to share in parenting if you still work. he is not going to be the breadwinner and also carry an equal load at home. that just doesn't make any sense.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 17:48     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you quit your job to care for the 3 kids, rather than just have the 3rd and have the nanny care for all 3 (or put them in daycare)? The former sounds much harder.


+1
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 17:36     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s not enough money to SAH comfortably. If it were double that, then maybe.


My husband makes less than that and I SAH with three school age kids. We’re quite comfortable, actually.


People have different definitions of comfort.


Exactly, that was my point.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 16:44     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Why on earth would you quit your job to care for the 3 kids, rather than just have the 3rd and have the nanny care for all 3 (or put them in daycare)? The former sounds much harder.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 16:26     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That’s not enough money to SAH comfortably. If it were double that, then maybe.


My husband makes less than that and I SAH with three school age kids. We’re quite comfortable, actually.


People have different definitions of comfort.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 16:23     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
There is no way your husband is going to live up to what he says he will... I mean he might have good intentions and want to and try. But there is no way on God's green earth that any of that is going to happen in real life for a sustained period of time.... Then you are going to be on here posting how you have all of these sports and activities and a job and a commute and a husband who's not pulling his fair share.... And likely a lower paying job than what you have now
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 16:17     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:That’s not enough money to SAH comfortably. If it were double that, then maybe.


My husband makes less than that and I SAH with three school age kids. We’re quite comfortable, actually.
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 16:14     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
Anonymous wrote:I would never have kids with a man who refers to parenting as "babysitting." And if he doesn't clean or cook now, he's not going to do it well or consistently after you crank out a third baby.


This!
Anonymous
Post 11/14/2023 15:19     Subject: Will this make juggling 3 kids easier?
OP still hasn't answered if she has two girls.