Anonymous
03/08/2025 15:59
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:I always add 3 years to my actual age. People think I am the most vibrant 50 year old ever.
You revived a 2 year old post for this?
Anonymous
03/08/2025 15:57
Subject: When people ask your age?
I hate when people ask my age. I think it's rude. So i lie and get away from the person asap. None of their effing business.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 14:14
Subject: When people ask your age?
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Of course it’s about shame. People only say it’s personal and hide their age when they get older. Every newly minted 18 year and 21 year old will be delighted to tell you their age. 30 year olds may start to feel shame but the vast majority aren’t going to hide their age and say it’s personal information. No, that response is the province of old ashamed people.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
It’s not a secret. It’s not about shame. It’s that it’s rude to ask personal questions — unless there’s an actual need to know the information. There’s a whole list of nosy questions that I probably would not respond to, and part of that is because some seemingly innocuous questions aren’t, and I don’t want the burden of having to gently handle other people’s responses to my circumstances.
So, I’m old enough to say : “Why do you ask?” And my response depends upon their answer. “Good” answers, by my standards, are things like: “I wonder if you remember Ida’s and the Kalorama Rink”. and “My brother went to Wilson too. You might know him.” “Bad”answers are more about curiosity and comparisons. You don’t need to know my age if what you really want to know is what cosmetics I use.
Of course it’s about shame. People only say it’s personal and hide their age when they get older. Every newly minted 18 year and 21 year old will be delighted to tell you their age. 30 year olds may start to feel shame but the vast majority aren’t going to hide their age and say it’s personal information. No, that response is the province of old ashamed people.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 14:10
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
Welcome to eart, alien. Here on earth women aren’t allowed to age. It’s a complex social stigma to be old and female. There are some women who ignore this requirement but they’re not the norm.
Women are as guilty of applying the complex social stigma. I get tired of pretending otherwise.
Yes women in our society internalize misogyny. I never argued that wasn’t the case above.
Internalize, please. We need to take more responsibility. We wield it.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 14:10
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:I always say I'm a decade older. Then people say i look really good
I used to add 5 years. Now I’m thinking of adding 10!
Anonymous
03/08/2025 13:39
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
Welcome to eart, alien. Here on earth women aren’t allowed to age. It’s a complex social stigma to be old and female. There are some women who ignore this requirement but they’re not the norm.
Women are as guilty of applying the complex social stigma. I get tired of pretending otherwise.
Yes women in our society internalize misogyny. I never argued that wasn’t the case above.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 13:09
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
It’s not a secret. It’s not about shame. It’s that it’s rude to ask personal questions — unless there’s an actual need to know the information. There’s a whole list of nosy questions that I probably would not respond to, and part of that is because some seemingly innocuous questions aren’t, and I don’t want the burden of having to gently handle other people’s responses to my circumstances.
So, I’m old enough to say : “Why do you ask?” And my response depends upon their answer. “Good” answers, by my standards, are things like: “I wonder if you remember Ida’s and the Kalorama Rink”. and “My brother went to Wilson too. You might know him.” “Bad”answers are more about curiosity and comparisons. You don’t need to know my age if what you really want to know is what cosmetics I use.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 11:51
Subject: When people ask your age?
I always say I'm a decade older. Then people say i look really good
Anonymous
03/08/2025 11:49
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
Welcome to eart, alien. Here on earth women aren’t allowed to age. It’s a complex social stigma to be old and female. There are some women who ignore this requirement but they’re not the norm.
Women are as guilty of applying the complex social stigma. I get tired of pretending otherwise.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 11:30
Subject: When people ask your age?
Usually asked if something comes up about our kids. We look young .. We get it. We gladly share. No big deal.
Recently moved 82 yo neighbor shared she thought we were “ rooomates”
Folks can be rude and weird too 😖
Anonymous
03/08/2025 08:45
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
Welcome to eart, alien. Here on earth women aren’t allowed to age. It’s a complex social stigma to be old and female. There are some women who ignore this requirement but they’re not the norm.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 08:43
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:I just tell them and move on. Nobody cares but the haters
This. My husband’s employee asked me at a corporate dinner. It was rude but he had been drinking.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 08:39
Subject: When people ask your age?
Why so secret about age?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
Why ashamed to be “old”?
Anonymous
03/08/2025 08:12
Subject: When people ask your age?
Anonymous wrote:I get asked this a lot because I have a baby face and look much younger.
I was volunteering the other week and another volunteer asked me which high school I attend. We volunteer with teens. I said I graduated from high school in the 1990s....
I also work with teens and young adults and they ask me as well at times because they are curious. They often say, you talk like you have so much work experience but you look like you are 25....
Same. People think I am in my early 30s. I'm in my late 40s. No work done, just aging well due to genetics and lifestyle.
Anonymous
03/08/2025 01:26
Subject: When people ask your age?
I get asked this a lot because I have a baby face and look much younger.
I was volunteering the other week and another volunteer asked me which high school I attend. We volunteer with teens. I said I graduated from high school in the 1990s....
I also work with teens and young adults and they ask me as well at times because they are curious. They often say, you talk like you have so much work experience but you look like you are 25....
I was volunteering the other week and another volunteer asked me which high school I attend. We volunteer with teens. I said I graduated from high school in the 1990s....
I also work with teens and young adults and they ask me as well at times because they are curious. They often say, you talk like you have so much work experience but you look like you are 25....