Anonymous wrote:It’s odd that there are so many INTJs on DCUM! I think female INTJs are only like 1% of the population?!

Because the E’s are out there socializing, not on their phones!

ENFJ checking in. I'm the person that brings the fun and the party, always dressed to impress.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

Nope. I hate grocery shopping so I want to get in and get out asap.

Anonymous wrote:INTJ. The most introverted of introverts.

Same here.

I am also a teacher and get most of my social interaction need (plus more!) at school. I crave quiet. I just want to get in my car and not hear my name repeatedly or have anyone touching me/pulling on my clothes. Luckily, my one child is in college now so I can actually come home to mostly quiet. I tested as an ISTJ years ago when I took the test in HS. My HS teacher said I must have taken the test wrong since very few people are introverts. I love my alone time so much so I don't think it's incorrect. My dream is to spend time in a convent where there is a vow of silence. Lol. Or maybe work in a Quaker school where they go to meeting and sit in silence.

Female ESTJ.
Very extroverted, but the pandemic and being a Xennial (meaning I’m early 40s) have tamped down the need for me to be around other people tremendously.

Quite happy just being home, on the couch, with the dogs these days.

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Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

Research shows that human connection is beneficial for everyone. You are an outlier.

Personally I find the loudest self-proclaimed introverts are the most self centered. They don’t like people because they like themselves better. I know a few absolutely lovely introverts that don’t make it their identity. They are the ones who are enjoyable to be around when they do socialize.

Just because we are different than you, doesn't mean you are right and we are wrong. You are the kind of judgmental extroverts, we introverts are trying to avoid. And don't tell me what's beneficial to me.

This is comical because up until this point the comments to the extroverted posted have been quite judgmental (pathetic dweeb). If extroversion is not your cup of tea, then so be it, but lets not pretend that judgement is the exclusive tool of the extroverts….

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Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

Research shows that human connection is beneficial for everyone. You are an outlier.

Personally I find the loudest self-proclaimed introverts are the most self centered. They don’t like people because they like themselves better. I know a few absolutely lovely introverts that don’t make it their identity. They are the ones who are enjoyable to be around when they do socialize.

“Everyone”? Really? It would be helpful if you would cite the relevant research. I’m curious about how the researchers categorized people in ways that would allow them to confidently apply a finding to “everyone “ — since that’s not something you see a lot in personality research. I’m also curious about the percentage of introverts in their samples. I’m also curious re: how they operationalized “human connection “ — since, obviously, not all types of human connections are “beneficial. TIA

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Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

Research shows that human connection is beneficial for everyone. You are an outlier.

Personally I find the loudest self-proclaimed introverts are the most self centered. They don’t like people because they like themselves better. I know a few absolutely lovely introverts that don’t make it their identity. They are the ones who are enjoyable to be around when they do socialize.

How is wanting to be left alone and minding our own business self centered?

I always test as an introvert. I've always been shy, but I love being around people and going to parties. The problem is, I don't get invited much.

I love being around extroverts though.

That's interesting. I've never seen that chart before but I'm not sure I totally believe it. I've taken tests that say I'm 100% introverted. I'm either an ISTJ or ISFJ. I am close to family and like to stay in touch. I have one friend I've known for years who I don't see often. After a social event, I need intense alone time for hours. I'm pretty good at keeping myself entertained by myself. I usually only like about 3% of people.

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Anonymous wrote:As introverted as it gets. I need about a week’s recovery for every two hours of social interaction. One hour if it’s a romantic connection. Ideally, I see friends four or five times per year.

Weird

I think it’s weird to want to be around people all the time. To each their own.

Research shows that human connection is beneficial for everyone. You are an outlier.

Personally I find the loudest self-proclaimed introverts are the most self centered. They don’t like people because they like themselves better. I know a few absolutely lovely introverts that don’t make it their identity. They are the ones who are enjoyable to be around when they do socialize.

I do like myself more than most people!
I wouldn't say I'm a loud introvert who makes it my identity though, as I rarely talk to anyone.

InFJ here. You’ll see me eating alone, bowling alone, dancing, or traveling alone. I made it a third of the year with the goal to be more social/outgoing and quickly wore myself out. My mom would say I didn’t play with other kids— but played in parallel to them. I have dear friends and family but I may not have the emotional capacity in general.

Anonymous wrote:It’s odd that there are so many INTJs on DCUM! I think female INTJs are only like 1% of the population?!

A bunch of lawyers are INTJs, and we have a lawyer heavy population here.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an ENTP who is super extroverted. My mom says that even as a child I wanted to “bring a friend” everywhere. As an adult I don’t even go grocery shopping alone, I take my neighbor with me every week and we have fun.

That will kill me for sure

Why? Aren’t boring errands more fun with friends? Like instead of driving alone you can laugh about your day and hers, and you feel happy that you have a friend to do chores with.

I don’t think anything is as fun as when I do it myself. Except sex. Sometimes.

When I’m having a beautiful experience, like attending a wonderful concert or exploring a new city or swimming in the ocean, I often feel sorry for people who are there with others. I don’t think you can truly experience something unless you’re by yourself.

I deeply dislike most people, but I have to disagree with this. If you are experiencing the events with someone you are connected to, the experiences are pure magic. Connections are hard to find, but when you find them, they magnify experiences.