Anonymous
10/27/2023 20:45
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
You need to stop being so controlling.
Anonymous
10/27/2023 20:43
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Halloween=candy. They may not be aware that you are sticking to your usual no candy rule for the holiday so I don’t see this as some personal affront or attack on your sugar free parenting style. Anything beyond a thank you is rude and unnecessary
Anonymous
10/27/2023 18:36
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Omg it's just a symbolic gesture. Halloween = candy. It's meant to build a memory. Grandma sent candy. Candy goes with Halloween
It's really weird how people are over interpreting this. No one is trying to make your kid eat candy.
It's really weird how people are over interpreting this. No one is trying to make your kid eat candy.
Anonymous
10/27/2023 18:34
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
What do you mean expensive? Is it possibly healthier dye free organic natural candy, that maybe they thought you might tolerate?
Anonymous
10/27/2023 18:31
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think we need context too. If they are lovely people who are kind and considerate then I might do a thank you, but no photo and if they inquire about it, just say you donated it, but appreciated that they thought of her. Gently remind about candy, but also say how much you appreciate that she has such wonderful grandparents.
If they have memory issues and genuinely might have forgotten the boundary, let it go.
If they are chronic boundary violators and tend to be passive aggressive then no need to text thank you. If they inquire same thing let them know the boundary.
How does one donate a box of candy...like put it in the Goodwill Bin? I mean brought it in to work, regifted OK but even in a food drive it would melt.
The food bank where I sometimes volunteer has a ton of chocolates donated once Christmas and Valentine's are over. You see a lot of that stuff in break-rooms at work too.
Anonymous
10/27/2023 18:10
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Now you have us all curious what this candy is. Gourmet chocolates? Williams-Sonoma witches fingers?
Anonymous
10/27/2023 18:07
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Say thank you and then take it to the office or your nearest fire station.
Anonymous
10/27/2023 18:02
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Anonymous wrote:I think we need context too. If they are lovely people who are kind and considerate then I might do a thank you, but no photo and if they inquire about it, just say you donated it, but appreciated that they thought of her. Gently remind about candy, but also say how much you appreciate that she has such wonderful grandparents.
If they have memory issues and genuinely might have forgotten the boundary, let it go.
If they are chronic boundary violators and tend to be passive aggressive then no need to text thank you. If they inquire same thing let them know the boundary.
How does one donate a box of candy...like put it in the Goodwill Bin? I mean brought it in to work, regifted OK but even in a food drive it would melt.
Anonymous
10/27/2023 17:56
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Anonymous wrote:OMG op. Please screenshot your post, mark your calendar for 14 years from now and come back when your kid is 16 and tell us how silly you were being. This is really OTT.
I had surgery. It was supposed to be a quick outpatient thing. My mom took my then 1 yo to BURGER KING cause it ran long!!! The horror LOL. I look back now and laugh at how I felt. You will too. unclench
+1
If they’re good grandparent do not make this your hill to die on. It’s just candy.
Anonymous
10/27/2023 17:56
Subject: Re:Unwelcome gift from grandparents
My kid is 11 now, but when he was age 2-5 both my MIL and my parents bought him stupid shit. Nothing big or expensive, but small toys or candy or another stuffie. I'd get slightly annoyed at the time but just say thank you and let it go. My parents no longer really buy him anything since they are on a very limited income, and my MIL will still buy him random books he has no interest in, but we still say thank you and move on. I'm not sure this is the hill you want to die on when your child is age 2. Say thank you and move on. Happy Halloween!
Anonymous
10/27/2023 17:55
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
[/b]Anonymous[b wrote:]OMG op. Please screenshot your post, mark your calendar for 14 years from now and come back when your kid is 16 and tell us how silly you were being. This is really OTT.
I had surgery. It was supposed to be a quick outpatient thing. My mom took my then 1 yo to BURGER KING cause it ran long!!! The horror LOL. I look back now and laugh at how I felt. You will too. unclench
+1. Be grateful your kids even have grandparents. OP is just nasty
Anonymous
10/27/2023 17:47
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
When people give you gifts you don't want or won't use do you set "boundaries" with them or do you just say thank you because it was a thoughtful gesture?
Anonymous
10/27/2023 17:46
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed by the amount of posters here saying to hand out loose, unwrapped chocolates to trick or treaters
Obviously,you either let kid choose one piece of candy or you wrap in colored Satan wrap.
Satan wrap is the obvious choice for Halloween
Anonymous
10/27/2023 17:46
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
Anonymous wrote:I'd tell them "thank you, but do you want us to return it because as you know we don't give Larla candy. She loves books and puzzles."
It's okay for them to get upset. They may act like they're upset with you but it's displaced anger - they will be upset with themselves.
This, and if they don't want it returned, give it out for Halloween.
Anonymous
10/27/2023 17:45
Subject: Unwelcome gift from grandparents
OMG op. Please screenshot your post, mark your calendar for 14 years from now and come back when your kid is 16 and tell us how silly you were being. This is really OTT.
I had surgery. It was supposed to be a quick outpatient thing. My mom took my then 1 yo to BURGER KING cause it ran long!!! The horror LOL. I look back now and laugh at how I felt. You will too. unclench
I had surgery. It was supposed to be a quick outpatient thing. My mom took my then 1 yo to BURGER KING cause it ran long!!! The horror LOL. I look back now and laugh at how I felt. You will too. unclench