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Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that there stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

Wow... you seem like a pleasant well-adjusted individual.

I'm very adjusted. DC is just so damn basic - so much more than it used to be.

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Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that there stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

Wow... you seem like a pleasant well-adjusted individual.

Do you want an upgrade? I have the same size and DH also offered an upgrade a couple years ago for our 10th, but I have sentimental attachment to my engagement ring. I opted for different jewelry.

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Anonymous wrote:DH andI are celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary and he offered to upgrade the stone in my engagement ring (1.25 ct) to a 2.5 ct. I thought it was a really sweet gesture, though I haven't ever been dissatisfied with my current stone. I'm not much a jewelry person and it made me wonder what's a standard size stone? I'm not sure if this changes a lot with age and income. I'm 40 and out HHI is $850K if it matters.

But then it’s not your engagement ring anymore?

My engagement ring is vintage - a mine cut in a Deco setting. It’s 1 carat. We can afford to upgrade, but then the symbolic and purely sentimental value would be less. Ymmv, of course.

I’d ask for something new - a special piece for special occasions. Or something thing to wear daily that doesn’t replace the original ring.

I'm totally with you on this. I love my engagement ring for the thought that DH put into it, for what it symbolizes about our early days together and the life we envisioned, and also just for the beauty of it as a ring. It's not big and fancy, but it's special for so many reasons. We can afford to "upgrade" but the idea of upgrading an engagement ring is not appealing to me at all. Why not get a new piece of jewelry to honor the anniversary?

+2. My engagement ring is among the “cheaper” jewelry I wear thanks to being engaged young and both going on to successful careers. I have never thought of replacing it, but rather have bought other pieces for different milestones (gold Cartier watch, other rings to wear on my other hand, tennis necklace, etc).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that there stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

Sometimes I just wear my band, and my ring is 2.5 ct. The size is precisely why I sometimes just wear a band…

And the older you get, the less you care. I’ve been married a long time now and I rarely wear my rings at all.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! I’m going to think about other jewelry I might want to have. I’d like to be responsive to DH since he never takes initiative to think of such things. I want him to know I appreciate it. What are some other jewelry items others have received for a big anniversary?

I'm not into engagement rings. Mine is lovely but sits in a box in the closet. It hasn't been worn in a decade.

I do, however, have a lovely gold pendant (unique culturally and framed with diamonds) and chain that was passed down to me by my mother. It was made for her by a jeweler in the 70s and she gave it to me when I turned 40. I LOVE IT. I mention this because having or creating heirloom items is a special treat and, in some ways, can mean more. Just a suggestion if you want jewerly

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Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that their stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

Lol. Yeah mine is so small it doesn’t exist. I actively abhor the tradition of engagement rings and insisted DH not buy me one. Three of my five closest friends also opted out of this weird, commercial, fabricated tradition. Most women I know don’t wear a honkin’ diamond daily. It’s a weird piece of jewelry to wear with everyday clothing.

Well. That's an extreme overreaction. Reminds me of how my mother would say things like this because she was insecure because her third husband wouldn't buy her one. She went around claiming she'd said she didn't want one. She was desperate for one, lol.

Kinda like the poster who “started it” by saying she assumes everyone who doesn’t wear an engagement ring is ashamed of their too small diamond 🙄.

-NP, who also doesn’t wear an engagement ring

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that their stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

Lol. Yeah mine is so small it doesn’t exist. I actively abhor the tradition of engagement rings and insisted DH not buy me one. Three of my five closest friends also opted out of this weird, commercial, fabricated tradition. Most women I know don’t wear a honkin’ diamond daily. It’s a weird piece of jewelry to wear with everyday clothing.

Well. That's an extreme overreaction. Reminds me of how my mother would say things like this because she was insecure because her third husband wouldn't buy her one. She went around claiming she'd said she didn't want one. She was desperate for one, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that there stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

Sometimes I just wear my band, and my ring is 2.5 ct. The size is precisely why I sometimes just wear a band…

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! I’m going to think about other jewelry I might want to have. I’d like to be responsive to DH since he never takes initiative to think of such things. I want him to know I appreciate it. What are some other jewelry items others have received for a big anniversary?

A donation somewhere that would significantly change someone’s life.

With that sort of HHI, they can do both. And I bet they do already.

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Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that there stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

I used to wear just the band because it didn’t get in my way as much as the engagement ring and I felt bad not wearing anything, but then I confirmed with my husband that he doesn’t care and I stopped wearing either of them unless I’m dressed up. Like, if I’m wearing lipstick, I’m probably wearing my rings. But I don’t wear lipstick very often.

Anonymous wrote:DH andI are celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary and he offered to upgrade the stone in my engagement ring (1.25 ct) to a 2.5 ct. I thought it was a really sweet gesture, though I haven't ever been dissatisfied with my current stone. I'm not much a jewelry person and it made me wonder what's a standard size stone? I'm not sure if this changes a lot with age and income. I'm 40 and out HHI is $850K if it matters.

Why not do something else, if jewelry is not your thing? Like a bucket list trip for instance?

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! I’m going to think about other jewelry I might want to have. I’d like to be responsive to DH since he never takes initiative to think of such things. I want him to know I appreciate it. What are some other jewelry items others have received for a big anniversary?

I am one of the posters who rarely wears her engagement ring day to day. I do wear my modestly sized diamond studs every day so if you don’t own those that is one idea (or pearl studs if that is more your style). I also think a nice watch can get a lifetime of use.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone! I’m going to think about other jewelry I might want to have. I’d like to be responsive to DH since he never takes initiative to think of such things. I want him to know I appreciate it. What are some other jewelry items others have received for a big anniversary?

A donation somewhere that would significantly change someone’s life.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one will notice or care. Seriously. When was the last time you noticed someone’s engagement ring?

No one wears them anymore. There was a thread about this I haven't worn mine in at least a decade.

I rarely see people with just bands. When I do, I assume that their stone is so small, they don't wear it, unless it's a diamond eternity band.

Lol. Yeah mine is so small it doesn’t exist. I actively abhor the tradition of engagement rings and insisted DH not buy me one. Three of my five closest friends also opted out of this weird, commercial, fabricated tradition. Most women I know don’t wear a honkin’ diamond daily. It’s a weird piece of jewelry to wear with everyday clothing.