Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Describe the aggression.

My dog is aggressive with larger dogs, not smaller or same sized dogs. I've been able to foster a multitude of dogs, all smaller than he is.

LOL. Big teeth, big mouth, biting, attacking other dogs/people...

She didn't say people

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be crazy and unfair to your 3yo dog. You owe your ex's dog nothing. I'm sorry your ex passed away, and I'm sorry the ex's 10yo dog is unadoptable, but I would not try to rehome it with you or anyone else.

The dog is 10! you have no heart. I would get a trainer and introduce the senior dog to your dog. If you do it correctly they most likely can live together.

Anonymous wrote:This dog belonged to my ex, and he died.

I believe she is very unlikely to be adopted if she goes back to the Fx Co shelter, which is where he acquired her. She is animal aggressive, and has to be the only animal in the home. She is a pit mix. She is 10 years old.

Our daughter is very upset about the whole situation. She just signed a 12 mo lease at a place with breed restrictions.

Any ideas on rehoming her? Would it be crazy to bring her home with me to see if her animal aggression has waned in her sundown years? I have a 3 year old dog.

Why do you have to rehome her? Just stay away from dog parks and cross the street when you see another dog?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have either of you looked into the lease breaking option? The penalty is usually one month's rent, check your lease. Can she sublet to somebody else and move to a place where she can keep the dog? Or keep your dog?
Or is this not really about the lease, and actually she's not set up to have a dog at all? (which is normal and fine)
Would a friend or rescue take the dog if it came with a large donation? If so, would that be a good result, or actually not because of the connection to her dad?

I posted upthread that I think the kindest thing for the dog is euthanasia. I still think that. But IME it can be clarifying to say, "pretend I have money to fix this, what is the fix that I want?"

You should read all the responses before posting. This was posted on page 3.

Op here again. She has been trying to work with shelters and rescues. I think they know she isn’t adoptable, because no one wants to take her. She has an appt with the county shelter on Sunday.

My daughter turned 21 this past summer. She would lose a lot of money she doesn’t really have to spare if she breaks the lease. I do not have the money to do it for her.

My dog is a 75 lb pit mix. My ex’s dog is roughly 45 lbs.

Yes, I read it. "She would lose a lot of money she cannot afford" could mean she really can't afford one month's rent under any circumstances ... or (more frequently, IME) it could mean that breaking a lease and moving seems like a big deal but nobody's done the math, or called the leasing office to ask for a bereavement exception.

As I said in my post, it can be helpful to say "Let's assume I could afford this: would this solve the problem?" Because often the money isn't actually the problem, it's a disguise we put on the real problem.

I think it's very likely that OP's daughter doesn't want to take in the dog, or any dog (which is fine and I support). But focusing on the lease prevents her from recognizing the truth and moving on to the next step in this logic chain.

Also, because this logic chain likely ends in euthanizing the dog, it may be helpful to thoroughly explore all options and know there weren't other realistic ones.

What is the dog’s current living situation? What is happening to your ex’s estate?

I would put it down honestly. It's not an inhumane procedure. This dog is unadoptable.

OP again. I carry liability insurance because I have a pit. I’m aware of the liability risk.

OP here. I had to work for a bit. Things have taken a dramatic turn here.

She chomped down on an ear at the vet once. Ex pried open her mouth to get the other dog free. She’s killed baby gophers and other such creatures in the yard.

She has been around children before. She’s been around a lot of people before. Her aggression with other animals seems to be some sort of fear or anxiety when they’re around. She isn’t the brightest crayon in the box, so training has been an uphill battle over the years.

I am not worried she will kill my dog. He is much bigger and stronger. What I don’t want is my dog getting tagged aggressive if he reacts to her coming after him, and hurts her.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No pit bulls in your home. They’re only safe until they’re not.

This one has never been known to be safe.

It has attacked other animals at the vet while being handled by a full grown man. How is a young girl going to manage the safety and legal risks? It has KILLED animals. It cannot be assumed to be safe around people, especially children. Moving into multifamily housing with this dog is WHY there are breed restrictions.

Your ex did your kid NO favors. The jury was out on this dog a long time ago. A grown man had to lay on it to prevent it from killing your puppy and possibly attacking you. HOW is DD going to be strong enough to control the dog? How is she going to find a vet willing to treat it?

It has killed vermin outside - pitts are terriers and are bred for that. That's quite different than aggression towards a person.

I am not a fan of pitties but I'm also not going to overstate things.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No pit bulls in your home. They’re only safe until they’re not.

This one has never been known to be safe.

It has attacked other animals at the vet while being handled by a full grown man. How is a young girl going to manage the safety and legal risks? It has KILLED animals. It cannot be assumed to be safe around people, especially children. Moving into multifamily housing with this dog is WHY there are breed restrictions.

Your ex did your kid NO favors. The jury was out on this dog a long time ago. A grown man had to lay on it to prevent it from killing your puppy and possibly attacking you. HOW is DD going to be strong enough to control the dog? How is she going to find a vet willing to treat it?

+100. This dog should have been put down for behavior years ago. Don't put it in a shelter to either languish or be laundered around through multiple homes where it has the opportunity to kill more animals or people. It has a strong drive to attack (through no fault of it's own, it was bred for that) which is not acceptable in society. Do it and everyone around you a favor and put it down.

If that dog attacks in any way, that young woman's life will be ruined. She will be sued by multiple parties. And in certain instances criminal charges can be filed.

Imagine the dog going for a baby or young child. With this bite/kill history.

Anonymous wrote:No pit bulls in your home. They’re only safe until they’re not.

This one has never been known to be safe.

It has attacked other animals at the vet while being handled by a full grown man. How is a young girl going to manage the safety and legal risks? It has KILLED animals. It cannot be assumed to be safe around people, especially children. Moving into multifamily housing with this dog is WHY there are breed restrictions.

Your ex did your kid NO favors. The jury was out on this dog a long time ago. A grown man had to lay on it to prevent it from killing your puppy and possibly attacking you. HOW is DD going to be strong enough to control the dog? How is she going to find a vet willing to treat it?

Anonymous wrote:Have either of you looked into the lease breaking option? The penalty is usually one month's rent, check your lease. Can she sublet to somebody else and move to a place where she can keep the dog? Or keep your dog?
Or is this not really about the lease, and actually she's not set up to have a dog at all? (which is normal and fine)
Would a friend or rescue take the dog if it came with a large donation? If so, would that be a good result, or actually not because of the connection to her dad?

I posted upthread that I think the kindest thing for the dog is euthanasia. I still think that. But IME it can be clarifying to say, "pretend I have money to fix this, what is the fix that I want?"

You should read all the responses before posting. This was posted on page 3.

Op here again. She has been trying to work with shelters and rescues. I think they know she isn’t adoptable, because no one wants to take her. She has an appt with the county shelter on Sunday.

My daughter turned 21 this past summer. She would lose a lot of money she doesn’t really have to spare if she breaks the lease. I do not have the money to do it for her.

My dog is a 75 lb pit mix. My ex’s dog is roughly 45 lbs.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The dog should be euthanized. Scatter the dog’s ashes at your ex’s gravesite or wherever he was scattered.

That is not a should. The dog is rehomable. Or OP could take the dog and make it work. Or the DD could take the dog without informing the apartment management. There are solutions.

Wow. This is horrible advice with an aggressive dog. If that dog attacks in any way, that young woman's life will be ruined. She will be sued by multiple parties. And in certain instances criminal charges can be filed.

Anonymous wrote:No pit bulls in your home. They’re only safe until they’re not.

OP's dog is a pit, and bigger than the aggressive dog.