Anonymous
10/08/2023 08:53
Subject: Sleeping in separate bedrooms
DH’s nighttime crap is killing me. The CPAP noise, the constant coughing, the up and down. I wish I could just go to another room.
Anonymous
10/08/2023 08:51
Subject: Sleeping in separate bedrooms
Anonymous wrote:I am very tired. I do not want to sleep with my husband anymore as that makes it a lot worse, this will hopefully be temporary. There is no good solution other than to remove what is making me tired or to remove myself from the room. He thinks if I don't sleep with him, then the marriage is on its way to being over. Can any happy couples who don't sleep together chime in?
This is how my divorce started. We lied to ourselves about how it was because of snoring etc for several years. But it killed the intimacy.
Anonymous
10/08/2023 08:47
Subject: Sleeping in separate bedrooms
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:PP here - I think when one person is miserable and the other is trying to stop them from feeling better the marriage is already one or more steps towards being over.
I agree. The person who said their "feelings were hurt" by their partner trying to get a restful night sleep is a walking red flag. Sleep is an essential part of health. That's like saying "he ate a salad and it hurt my feelings".
Not necessarily. Some people just want to save their marriage as they hear too many stories of couples slowly drifting apart.
The drifting apart thing is a myth.
There are usually clear indicators that one party was difficult to live with- work addict, disorders, abuse/ adultery/ addiction, neglect& self centeredness, extended family issues, financial abuse or serious issues- and outwardly they say they “drifted apart.”