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Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

No, the school does not need to frame shift. I'm assuming the student is signed up for a boatload of honors and AP courses. She is getting 4 hours of homework a night because that is what those courses require and or the student can't get the work done for such a rigorous set of courses in a shorter time frame. Parents should drop her down into "regular" level courses for at least 2, maybe 3 classes. Nothing wrong with that. I'm not being a jerk. My own child dropped from honors to regular physics junior year and dropped out of another AP into an honors course senior year. Parents cannot have their students signed up for super hard courses and then complain it's too hard or too time consuming.

What??No private school is enrolling freshman in AP classes. Many don’t even have them anymore.

You clearly don't know about all the private schools in the area.

Please enlighten me. Which private school allows freshman to take AP classes?

The 'W' schools do for sure. My freshman went to a private K-8 and is in AP classes this year as a freshman. It's great!

Aren’t the Ws public? Or has this been referencing a totally different set of schools than I realized? Which schools are the Ws?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

This exact thing is happening with our DD at SSSAS. Any chance this is your school too?

One thing I might gently approach kids with if they're doing hw 4-5 hours a night is whether they're using their time wisely or taking lots of social media/texting breaks. It can benefit kids when they set their "focus" during HW time and not feel the itch to read and reply to things. Even with the most committed kids (and adults!), these things can be a huge distraction, and just because they're older, bigger, and doing work we can't even remember how to do, doesn't mean they are pros at managing their attention spans.

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Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

I give lots of credit to the school- shows they are on top of things. I hope everything works out.

Thank you, I appreciate that. We had a talk last night about what could be going on. She made a varsity sport as a freshman and has already missed a few classes due to their games, she didn't totally understand that the classwork was still due on time. She has mild ADHD and sometimes forgets her text book or notebook to class, but is so friendly that someone always lets her borrow theirs and she didn't realize that the teachers were marking this down. I can't tell if her happy cluelessness will serve her well in some fields or will cause her to fail pretty quickly but I am glad she's in a school that is raising a red flag so we can sort things out.

Anonymous wrote:My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

I give lots of credit to the school- shows they are on top of things. I hope everything works out.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

No, the school does not need to frame shift. I'm assuming the student is signed up for a boatload of honors and AP courses. She is getting 4 hours of homework a night because that is what those courses require and or the student can't get the work done for such a rigorous set of courses in a shorter time frame. Parents should drop her down into "regular" level courses for at least 2, maybe 3 classes. Nothing wrong with that. I'm not being a jerk. My own child dropped from honors to regular physics junior year and dropped out of another AP into an honors course senior year. Parents cannot have their students signed up for super hard courses and then complain it's too hard or too time consuming.

What??No private school is enrolling freshman in AP classes. Many don’t even have them anymore.

You clearly don't know about all the private schools in the area.

Please enlighten me. Which private school allows freshman to take AP classes?

The 'W' schools do for sure. My freshman went to a private K-8 and is in AP classes this year as a freshman. It's great!

Well, think about things from the kids' perspective. They spent sixth and seventh grades doing remote learning. Those are the years when they learn how to manage a homework load between school and home, are doing a ton of growing socially, learning how to study, etc. All of that was severely muted. Now they are suddenly in high school, and being told how high the stakes are -- no failing allowed. But they never got the foundation put in before the house started being built.

And you wonder why they can't do it.

My child thinks that school started off well ans is going great, she’s very happy go lucky and has reported nothing but good news. On Friday we received an email from the school learning specialist that she’s gotten off to a very rough start and we need to have an in person meeting next week to talk about a plan forward. I’m mostly worried about her total lack of self awareness.

Parents, listen to me. 9th grade is a hard year. It’s a transitional year and it’s totally normal for your kid to not get off to a good start in the first semester. But just give it a chance. It will all iron out by January. Almost every ninth grader goes through this. It’s a big change from middle to high school and being a freshman. Chill out.

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

I am sorry to hear this. Encourage your daughter to speak to her advisor about her classes. She should not be having that much homework. There is a limit on the number of tests papers due in a day/week she should ask.

RE:friends encourage her to join other groups to meet new people.

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Anonymous wrote:PP, just choose an easier school for your kid.

Please leave this thread. It is for support for people having kids having a rough start. It is not for Aholes like you to judge that they should have chose differently. That ship is sailed.

I'm sorry if it seemed that way, but that PP went off topic talking about labor laws as if the schools are in the wrong for her child struggling. That is not helpful to any of us. I'm entirely supportive of kids like mine who got off to a rough start. Complaining about the curriculum you chose and expecting the school to change isn't the the answer, and isn't helpful to this thread. We need to support out kids through it or, yes, change schools. That ship has not sailed. Sometimes the tough reality is that a given school is not a good fit, and we do make the very difficult choice to move our kids. Acknowledging that isn't Aholery, even if it isn't what people want to hear. It's not useful to pretend a school is going to lighten the work load. It is useful to acknowledge that kids can and do change high schools. I can name 10 kids off the top of my head who did so with no regrets.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

No, the school does not need to frame shift. I'm assuming the student is signed up for a boatload of honors and AP courses. She is getting 4 hours of homework a night because that is what those courses require and or the student can't get the work done for such a rigorous set of courses in a shorter time frame. Parents should drop her down into "regular" level courses for at least 2, maybe 3 classes. Nothing wrong with that. I'm not being a jerk. My own child dropped from honors to regular physics junior year and dropped out of another AP into an honors course senior year. Parents cannot have their students signed up for super hard courses and then complain it's too hard or too time consuming.

What??No private school is enrolling freshman in AP classes. Many don’t even have them anymore.

You clearly don't know about all the private schools in the area.

Please enlighten me. Which private school allows freshman to take AP classes?

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Anonymous wrote:PP, just choose an easier school for your kid.

Please leave this thread. It is for support for people having kids having a rough start. It is not for Aholes like you to judge that they should have chose differently. That ship is sailed.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

No, the school does not need to frame shift. I'm assuming the student is signed up for a boatload of honors and AP courses. She is getting 4 hours of homework a night because that is what those courses require and or the student can't get the work done for such a rigorous set of courses in a shorter time frame. Parents should drop her down into "regular" level courses for at least 2, maybe 3 classes. Nothing wrong with that. I'm not being a jerk. My own child dropped from honors to regular physics junior year and dropped out of another AP into an honors course senior year. Parents cannot have their students signed up for super hard courses and then complain it's too hard or too time consuming.

What??No private school is enrolling freshman in AP classes. Many don’t even have them anymore.

You clearly don't know about all the private schools in the area.

Please enlighten me. Which private school allows freshman to take AP classes?

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St Anselm's. Not sure if that's what PP meant, but it's the only one I know.

They are a different model though. They don't just allow it; it is required.

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Anonymous wrote:Sad to hear…but isn’t that what your family signed up for?

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Anonymous wrote:So sorry, OP. Mine is being excluded and ignored.

Oh no - by old friends?

Yes. They have found a cooler crowd to hang with. The girls in this class are so cliquey and try so desperately to be cool, and kids like mine -- who are kind and smart and decidedly NOT cool -- are left out. It's toxic.

Same here.

And DC is questioning her class choices and wondering if she can handle them. Also almost to 4 to 5 hours of homework a night along with being on a varsity sport team and no time to be a kid or have fun. it’s so sad to watch.

NP. I’m sure they did not “sign up” for that. No one thinks their kid will have 4 hrs of homework. The school needs to frame shift dramatically.

No, the school does not need to frame shift. I'm assuming the student is signed up for a boatload of honors and AP courses. She is getting 4 hours of homework a night because that is what those courses require and or the student can't get the work done for such a rigorous set of courses in a shorter time frame. Parents should drop her down into "regular" level courses for at least 2, maybe 3 classes. Nothing wrong with that. I'm not being a jerk. My own child dropped from honors to regular physics junior year and dropped out of another AP into an honors course senior year. Parents cannot have their students signed up for super hard courses and then complain it's too hard or too time consuming.

What??No private school is enrolling freshman in AP classes. Many don’t even have them anymore.

You clearly don't know about all the private schools in the area.

Please enlighten me. Which private school allows freshman to take AP classes?

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St Anselm's. Not sure if that's what PP meant, but it's the only one I know.

The pp who is assuming OP’s daughter is overloaded with APs as a freshman must be thinking of another school, since St Anselm’s is a boys school.