Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 20:31     Subject: Re:Suspect house cleaner is stealing
The iPad thing is the giveaway that this whole post is fake. OP could easily locate the iPad. And it’s not useful to steal any more than a iPhone is. Although I guess it wouldn’t be any stupider than stealing a shirt.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 20:24     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Another former nanny---I used to get late night or day off texts asking where stuff is. Most of the time I knew because either I saw it at some point during the day or I put it there because I got tired of the big pile of crap on the kitchen counter when I needed to prep dinner. Until the last family I worked for it hadn't occurred to me they may have thought I stole it--I figured they just knew I spent more time in their house than they did was more likely to know.

The last mom I worked for texted me regularly about this stupid pair of lounge pants. Their house wasn't very big but it was packed full of stuff---borderline hoarder level. It was insane, and then her boyfriend moved in and brought all his crap too. Eventually, months later, those pants randomly turned up in her closet.

Nine times out of ten the stuff you're looking for is right under your nose, but you can't see the forest for the trees. OP Are you sure that dress isn't at the cleaners or hanging in a guest closet? Are you SURE you didn't take that iPad to a coffee shop, on vacation, wherever and leave it there?


OP here - these are good questions. The dress isn't at the cleaners and I've scoured the guest closet. I've looked under beds and in every dresser. The iPad has never left the house.
Gonna look more tomorrow.


Just ask the cleaner! What’s wrong with you?
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 20:19     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband does this. Literally accused the housecleaners (to me, not to them) of taking his eyeglasses. Why. Would. They. Want. His. Old. Frames. It literally makes no sense. Now he's accusing them of taking a tee shirt. Right. A bunch of young women want your random, XL tee shirt you wear to the gym.

I said fine, I'll get rid of them, but you have to find a new group to come, and do all the cleaning until we do find them.


Think about what you just wrote. “I’ll get rid of them.” Like they aren’t people who work to pay their bills, feed their families. You’ll “get rid” of people like they are trash because your creepy husband thinks someone stole his old man glasses.


Can it. I’ll fire them, is that better?
I paid them for an entire 8 months during Covid so they could make their own decisions on their comfort level on coming back into people’s homes so suck it with your fake concern.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:48     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:Do you have teenagers?


no. we've been empty nesters for 10 years.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:46     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:Another former nanny---I used to get late night or day off texts asking where stuff is. Most of the time I knew because either I saw it at some point during the day or I put it there because I got tired of the big pile of crap on the kitchen counter when I needed to prep dinner. Until the last family I worked for it hadn't occurred to me they may have thought I stole it--I figured they just knew I spent more time in their house than they did was more likely to know.

The last mom I worked for texted me regularly about this stupid pair of lounge pants. Their house wasn't very big but it was packed full of stuff---borderline hoarder level. It was insane, and then her boyfriend moved in and brought all his crap too. Eventually, months later, those pants randomly turned up in her closet.

Nine times out of ten the stuff you're looking for is right under your nose, but you can't see the forest for the trees. OP Are you sure that dress isn't at the cleaners or hanging in a guest closet? Are you SURE you didn't take that iPad to a coffee shop, on vacation, wherever and leave it there?


OP here - these are good questions. The dress isn't at the cleaners and I've scoured the guest closet. I've looked under beds and in every dresser. The iPad has never left the house.
Gonna look more tomorrow.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:35     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would trust your instincts. There is probably something about your interactions with her that lead you to feel this way.

I personally only hire cleaning companies who are bonded and insured. I ask for their insurance company’s contact information and let them know during the interview that I have filed claims in the past. I also tell them that we have cameras and that I have a zero-tolerance policy towards stealing.

I would never hire an individual to clean. Too much paperwork with taxes and too much risk.


Haha! OP doesn't pay taxes for her housekeeper. It's all under the table, I'm sure. Since her housekeeper is cool with that and understands OP is too, I'm sure housekeeper has no moral problem taking what she can from OP.


Guys you don’t need to pay employer taxes for your weekly or biweekly housecleaner. Relax.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:30     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would trust your instincts. There is probably something about your interactions with her that lead you to feel this way.

I personally only hire cleaning companies who are bonded and insured. I ask for their insurance company’s contact information and let them know during the interview that I have filed claims in the past. I also tell them that we have cameras and that I have a zero-tolerance policy towards stealing.

I would never hire an individual to clean. Too much paperwork with taxes and too much risk.


Haha! OP doesn't pay taxes for her housekeeper. It's all under the table, I'm sure. Since her housekeeper is cool with that and understands OP is too, I'm sure housekeeper has no moral problem taking what she can from OP.



It's not a "haha!" if you hire a cleaning company, the cleaning company files the necessary taxes. We've done it for years. Much easier than paying our CPA to run the paperwork
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:18     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:I would question the cleaner lady and demand it back.


Why question if you know the answer?
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:17     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
I would question the cleaner lady and demand it back.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:05     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
My mother let a housekeeper go because she thought she took a ring. She found it months later in a dish or something.

I filed a claim with a dry cleaner because they lost a jacket. It was a prolonged issue. I found the jacket in my closet months later.

I went back to Target about a year ago after a long day and an evening trip to Target because I forgot a whole bag of stuff. I was so tired a got a refund and was just going to get the stuff later. I found the bag the second I got home.

People make mistakes. People steal. In these types of situations, it's almost always the former.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:02     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
My cleaner is the master of putting things in random places. It’s like a little treasure hunt every time she leaves. The best was the TV remote in an unused cabinet drawer.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 18:01     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:Ha! Someone with a big house and lots of clothes and so many belongings they can’t even keep track of an iPad. And don’t bother to learn how, no doubt because the expense of a new one is so inconsequential.

So, so spoiled.


I guess we found a thief!
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 17:58     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:“If it's her, she must be selling them because she's about 5 sizes bigger than I am.”


I loved this particular detail.
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 17:46     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My mother gave our cleaning lady “hand-me-downs” to deter stealing.


That's insulting.


Whatever. We do that too!
Anonymous
Post 09/08/2023 16:59     Subject: Suspect house cleaner is stealing
Do you have teenagers?