Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.
Racist.
Once and I vowed never again. I was shaking in the car.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.
Racist.
Racist
Once and I vowed never again. I was shaking in the car.
Anonymous wrote:. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.
Racist.
. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.
Racist.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't send your over. Invite the kid (and parent(s)) over to you, or neutral ground, twice as often. Treat your guests well, make it worth their while to commute (great food, gear for their activities, etc)
I'm sure the kid and parent know they are poor and don't love being poor. Let them think you are a priss, but balance that against your generosity and hospitality.
Never criticize their neighborhood. They know their neighborhood better than you do.
And drive their kid home so it’s not always the other parents doing the driving.
That can be iffy too - driving in dangerous neighborhoods. Sorry, I wouldn't do it.
I had a really nice car a long time ago, and got lost in a dangerous neighborhood. So many people came out looking at my car while I was driving around trying to find my way. It was pretty scary.
Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't send your over. Invite the kid (and parent(s)) over to you, or neutral ground, twice as often. Treat your guests well, make it worth their while to commute (great food, gear for their activities, etc)
I'm sure the kid and parent know they are poor and don't love being poor. Let them think you are a priss, but balance that against your generosity and hospitality.
Never criticize their neighborhood. They know their neighborhood better than you do.
And drive their kid home so it’s not always the other parents doing the driving.
Anonymous wrote:Don't send your over. Invite the kid (and parent(s)) over to you, or neutral ground, twice as often. Treat your guests well, make it worth their while to commute (great food, gear for their activities, etc)
I'm sure the kid and parent know they are poor and don't love being poor. Let them think you are a priss, but balance that against your generosity and hospitality.
Never criticize their neighborhood. They know their neighborhood better than you do.
Anonymous wrote:I’m not going to pretend there’s no where in the US I wouldn’t send my kid. So I’m not going weigh in on whether or not to send your kid.
But if you don’t want to, I would keep it really simple and say you prefer hosting, and be effusive about what a great kid the friend is. And then continue to offer to have him over regularly. At most I’d say its further than you realized. You don’t need to insult them!