Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 19:06     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.


Racist.
. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?


Once and I vowed never again. I was shaking in the car.


Racist
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 19:06     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.


Racist.
. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?


Racist

Once and I vowed never again. I was shaking in the car.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 19:04     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.


Racist.
. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?


Once and I vowed never again. I was shaking in the car.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 17:39     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

I just googled most dangerous small towns and Wilmington, DE, tops the list.

Which is obvious, of course. America's armpit.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 17:04     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.


Racist.
. +1. When's the last time you were in Anacostia?
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:58     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't send your over. Invite the kid (and parent(s)) over to you, or neutral ground, twice as often. Treat your guests well, make it worth their while to commute (great food, gear for their activities, etc)

I'm sure the kid and parent know they are poor and don't love being poor. Let them think you are a priss, but balance that against your generosity and hospitality.

Never criticize their neighborhood. They know their neighborhood better than you do.



And drive their kid home so it’s not always the other parents doing the driving.

That can be iffy too - driving in dangerous neighborhoods. Sorry, I wouldn't do it.

I had a really nice car a long time ago, and got lost in a dangerous neighborhood. So many people came out looking at my car while I was driving around trying to find my way. It was pretty scary.


omg my grandmother is posting from the grave. the same thing happened to her in 1970 when she drove through a "colored" neighborhood.
grow up and get out more.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:51     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:27     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:Anacostia? Hell no.


Racist.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:21     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anacostia? Hell no.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:20     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Such an incredibly annoying post. Just tell us the name of the goddamn city already!

In every city in the United States, the overwhelming majority of folks manage to live through the day without getting murdered.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:17     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

You just say no. No one is allowed to insist on an explanation.

I'm 10 years younger than my brothers. I learned decades later that the reason one friend's parents always said, no, to our invitation was because of all the teens in our house. Ordinary teenage stuff and certainly way more chaotic than their household. They weren't comfortable. Aok.

Again, don't make this a big deal. It doesn't need to be.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:16     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't send your over. Invite the kid (and parent(s)) over to you, or neutral ground, twice as often. Treat your guests well, make it worth their while to commute (great food, gear for their activities, etc)

I'm sure the kid and parent know they are poor and don't love being poor. Let them think you are a priss, but balance that against your generosity and hospitality.

Never criticize their neighborhood. They know their neighborhood better than you do.



And drive their kid home so it’s not always the other parents doing the driving.

That can be iffy too - driving in dangerous neighborhoods. Sorry, I wouldn't do it.

I had a really nice car a long time ago, and got lost in a dangerous neighborhood. So many people came out looking at my car while I was driving around trying to find my way. It was pretty scary.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:14     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:Don't send your over. Invite the kid (and parent(s)) over to you, or neutral ground, twice as often. Treat your guests well, make it worth their while to commute (great food, gear for their activities, etc)

I'm sure the kid and parent know they are poor and don't love being poor. Let them think you are a priss, but balance that against your generosity and hospitality.

Never criticize their neighborhood. They know their neighborhood better than you do.



And drive their kid home so it’s not always the other parents doing the driving.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:12     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Don't send your over. Invite the kid (and parent(s)) over to you, or neutral ground, twice as often. Treat your guests well, make it worth their while to commute (great food, gear for their activities, etc)

I'm sure the kid and parent know they are poor and don't love being poor. Let them think you are a priss, but balance that against your generosity and hospitality.

Never criticize their neighborhood. They know their neighborhood better than you do.

Anonymous
Post 07/27/2023 15:09     Subject: DS friend lives in dangerous area wwyd?

Anonymous wrote:I’m not going to pretend there’s no where in the US I wouldn’t send my kid. So I’m not going weigh in on whether or not to send your kid.

But if you don’t want to, I would keep it really simple and say you prefer hosting, and be effusive about what a great kid the friend is. And then continue to offer to have him over regularly. At most I’d say its further than you realized. You don’t need to insult them!


+1 Also the fact that your house is in the school district area-- they must know and expect to travel to see friends. It's ok.