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Anonymous wrote:Yes, but I live in California and it’s extremely common.

it's common here in t he DC area, too... too common.

I didn't allow it in MS, but she has now in HS. She told me that some girls in HS where nothing but a tube top.

I don't understand why admins don't enforce dress codes.

I’m the PP you’re responding to. Our middle school does actively dress code kids, but being dress coded is not particularly punitive. I don’t particularly mind if my daughter wears a cropped shirt. Tube top is different.

My other child is in high school and the Principal (male) does not want to wade in to the dress code debate. There is a policy on the books, but he takes a hands off approach to enforcing it - understandably so.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing but moms walking around in sports bras and stretch pants - all day.

but yes, girls showing their belly button is inappropriate. Way to teach girls it is their fault.

I’ve not seen one mom in a sports bra walking around anywhere that’s not a gym. do you live in a gym?

No I live in Bethesda and it’s all I see. Where do you live?

McLean. No mom sport bra sightings here as we walk daily life.

Bethesda Row 9am to 3pm it's all the rich moms are wearing lulu head to toe

A bunch of boomers up on this chat.

Girls - wear what you want and be confident in whatever you want. Fashion is fun and parents that try and diminish it and victimize you have their own deep-rooted issues.

And if your mom doesn't approve or wants you to wear turtlenecks just do what the others do. Borrow clothes and change in school, mall, etc...

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Anonymous wrote:I had to google Nike Pros. They look like volleyball shorts. I’d let my kid wear them to volleyball but that’s about it. Not to school.

The question I always ask is why anyone ever thought the ladies volleyball shorts were appropriate.

The problem is that athelesiure is the style of choice for kids now and makes can wear it all for school, sport, hanging out, and yet again we are policing this for females. I’m not saying we shouldn’t but this is what is causing the problem. We’re still trying to dress code girls.

I’m all in favor of dress-coding everyone. No crop tops or butts/underwear hanging out for girls and boys.

Ok grandma - calm down.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to google Nike Pros. They look like volleyball shorts. I’d let my kid wear them to volleyball but that’s about it. Not to school.

The question I always ask is why anyone ever thought the ladies volleyball shorts were appropriate.

The problem is that athelesiure is the style of choice for kids now and makes can wear it all for school, sport, hanging out, and yet again we are policing this for females. I’m not saying we shouldn’t but this is what is causing the problem. We’re still trying to dress code girls.

I’m all in favor of dress-coding everyone. No crop tops or butts/underwear hanging out for girls and boys.

I'm not local, but my dc's high school specifically says 'no bare midriffs' for all students.

I don't mind seeing crop shirts in summer. It's summer.

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Anonymous wrote:You can have this debate but I warn you, your kid might just wear a big sweatshirt with a crop top underneath

NP-I did this too but with short skirts. I just changed at school. But honestly, I think it's better to not cave and set a boundary even if you know it's likely that they will sneak around it. IF it's really a hill you want to die on, that is. You could also just not buy the crop tops at all or let her know that will be the consequence if she breaks the rule.

I have a couple of rules around leggings with my daughter and a couple around certain clothing items with my son as well (no, you cannot wear your favorite shirt with the giant hole in it to school). They don't like my rules but that's ok, they don't have to.

I supervise about 20 people and yesterday, one of the women came it wearing pants that seriously looked like they should be a bathing suit cover up. You could see her underwear perfectly. This is a public-facing position and I was so embarrassed for her and for our agency.

There is nothing wrong with boundaries and teaching what is appropriate/not appropriate in certain settings!

This is such a sticky line. Were you able to say anything? I'm sure it's an HR violation to address it in the moment. I'm not sure what I would do.

We have a dress code that states "business casual" but then gets very specific, so she was clearly violating it. She had to go home and change.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing but moms walking around in sports bras and stretch pants - all day.

but yes, girls showing their belly button is inappropriate. Way to teach girls it is their fault.

I’ve not seen one mom in a sports bra walking around anywhere that’s not a gym. do you live in a gym?

No I live in Bethesda and it’s all I see. Where do you live?

That’s so weird. I live in bethesda and have literally never seen this unless people are out jogging. Most women look like they just came from work so business casual, or if they are working from home maybe leggings with a nicer tee shirt on top. What part of bethesda is this where moms are walking around all the time in bras? I feel like we may be in paralleli universes.

My office is above Bethesda row and I've never seen it either. I'm out for lunch almost daily.
There are no moms walking around in sports bras.

What about during the weekend?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see nothing but moms walking around in sports bras and stretch pants - all day.

but yes, girls showing their belly button is inappropriate. Way to teach girls it is their fault.

I’ve not seen one mom in a sports bra walking around anywhere that’s not a gym. do you live in a gym?

No I live in Bethesda and it’s all I see. Where do you live?

That’s so weird. I live in bethesda and have literally never seen this unless people are out jogging. Most women look like they just came from work so business casual, or if they are working from home maybe leggings with a nicer tee shirt on top. What part of bethesda is this where moms are walking around all the time in bras? I feel like we may be in paralleli universes.

My office is above Bethesda row and I've never seen it either. I'm out for lunch almost daily.
There are no moms walking around in sports bras.

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Anonymous wrote:I see nothing but moms walking around in sports bras and stretch pants - all day.

but yes, girls showing their belly button is inappropriate. Way to teach girls it is their fault.

I’ve not seen one mom in a sports bra walking around anywhere that’s not a gym. do you live in a gym?

No I live in Bethesda and it’s all I see. Where do you live?

That’s so weird. I live in bethesda and have literally never seen this unless people are out jogging. Most women look like they just came from work so business casual, or if they are working from home maybe leggings with a nicer tee shirt on top. What part of bethesda is this where moms are walking around all the time in bras? I feel like we may be in paralleli universes.

Anonymous wrote:Nike pro shorts are either for athletics (volleyball, gymnastics, etc) or under short dresses. They aren't meant to be a stand alone item for everyday wear.

I wouldn't let my middle schooler wear crop tops to school. I would let my high schooler if it's not too revealing. MS kids don't need to be dressing like they are in HS. Save the Princess Polly for later.

Unfortunately my eyes know this isn't true because I was shocked when I saw a group of 10 girls at the library yesterday around 12-13yo wearing only these, some with crop tops too.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to google Nike Pros. They look like volleyball shorts. I’d let my kid wear them to volleyball but that’s about it. Not to school.

The question I always ask is why anyone ever thought the ladies volleyball shorts were appropriate.

The problem is that athelesiure is the style of choice for kids now and makes can wear it all for school, sport, hanging out, and yet again we are policing this for females. I’m not saying we shouldn’t but this is what is causing the problem. We’re still trying to dress code girls.

I’m all in favor of dress-coding everyone. No crop tops or butts/underwear hanging out for girls and boys.

Amen. Also, if no bare shoulders for girls, then same should apply for boys.

The wording on shirts that was banned - one they were having issues with - “I love Milfs.”

I’m the mom of girl who wants Nike pros (and doesn’t know they are sitting on my shelf).

Our MS has an annual gathering/talk about shorts, leggings, and also about inappropriate wording on shirts.

They never dress code anyone. It’s slightly annoying. They have a standard, but there’s zero chance they follow through (except for the inappropriate wording). I’ve heard DD, friends, girls in the clubs shes in, specifically say they know they will never get dress coded.

My dd and half the school love the look that is long shirt, tiny shorts, looks like you’re not wearing pants. We tease her, but let her wear it. Everyone around her is enabling, and freeing(?) her to make these choices. I got the Nike pros, and I can’t hand them over. If I knew she’d wear them for athletic stuff at home (her sport is cold)… but emulating other girls she would love to wear them for school.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to google Nike Pros. They look like volleyball shorts. I’d let my kid wear them to volleyball but that’s about it. Not to school.

The question I always ask is why anyone ever thought the ladies volleyball shorts were appropriate.

The problem is that athelesiure is the style of choice for kids now and makes can wear it all for school, sport, hanging out, and yet again we are policing this for females. I’m not saying we shouldn’t but this is what is causing the problem. We’re still trying to dress code girls.

I’m all in favor of dress-coding everyone. No crop tops or butts/underwear hanging out for girls and boys.

Anonymous wrote:I had to google Nike Pros. They look like volleyball shorts. I’d let my kid wear them to volleyball but that’s about it. Not to school.

The question I always ask is why anyone ever thought the ladies volleyball shorts were appropriate.

The problem is that athelesiure is the style of choice for kids now and makes can wear it all for school, sport, hanging out, and yet again we are policing this for females. I’m not saying we shouldn’t but this is what is causing the problem. We’re still trying to dress code girls.