Some of you people are horrible. Stop acting like she's purposefully lying. If any of you have ever been married to a narcissist, you know that they gaslight and manipulate you mercilously for YEARS. This causes the spouse to question their every thought. They have been told for so long that are stupid and know nothing that, even though they think the narcissist may be lying, in the end, they believe what the all-knowing, self-proclaimed master of the universe says. It sounds like she's in a living hell right now so perhaps its better let her know that she's simply been lied to (and that info is incorrect), without being nasty...she has enough of that to deal with already.

You sound like a good match for your husband

Ignoring that, you need a job. Plenty of SAHMs stay home for so long that they lose perspective. Not having a job means you have unlimited time to think about your divorce. It’s perfectly normal to have a job and kids. Hire an attorney and look forward job.

OP- understand your ex husband is a bad dude, but how does blowing up his career help you and your kids?

Just trying to understand what the goal is for you

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Anonymous wrote:200k salary is not a lot of money and influence to ‘throw around’ op. What is your grad degree in? You can probably get a job teaching in almost any school right now which would be a start. I’m sure he’s a jerk but you sound a bit paranoid. Just focus on getting yourself stable and maybe some therapy.

This. 200k is smoll beanz in NOVA. I take it OP is not from here originally.

Or has been sahm so long and is completely divorced from reality. Happened to my sibling. She has no idea how things work, or how the world functions.

Oh shut up.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:200k salary is not a lot of money and influence to ‘throw around’ op. What is your grad degree in? You can probably get a job teaching in almost any school right now which would be a start. I’m sure he’s a jerk but you sound a bit paranoid. Just focus on getting yourself stable and maybe some therapy.

This. 200k is smoll beanz in NOVA. I take it OP is not from here originally.

Or has been sahm so long and is completely divorced from reality. Happened to my sibling. She has no idea how things work, or how the world functions.