Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:52     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:Looped in as did 30 minute joint session, then continued the other 20 mins with regular spouse. Other 2 times the full 50 mins was w the regular spouse

Who gaf and what does this have to do with op's case?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:52     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is there to coordinate, though? Marriage therapy uses a different muscle, and has a different focus, than individual therapy. I wouldn’t necessarily think to have a marriage counselor consult with my individual therapist. I imagine you have specific circumstances that makes it more of a necessity?


Interdisciplinary healthcare is standard of practice. I don’t even consider couples therapy and individual therapy different disciplines, so this example is even more egregious; imagine if, say, someone’s PCP refused to talk to their ophthalmologist because it’s their “policy.” This situation is no different. As a therapist (I’m the psychologist PP), you’re darn right I want information from other healthcare professionals treating my patients, if there’s consent. It only improves my care - I’m one person and I only see this person in one context. When I worked inpatient, we had interdisciplinary rounds daily and at every single one of those, someone in one discipline, e.g., occupational therapy, shared information that a healthcare provider in a different discipline, e.g., psychiatry, hadn’t known about the patient and which was *relevant to their care*. Refusing to talk to any other healthcare professionals about anything is unethical care.


They may not be different disciplines, but they are different patients, difference focus and objectives. You didn't actually respond with what information you need from individual therapy to assist with marriage counseling.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:51     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your husband is the driver here, not his therapist. If *he* wants her to talk to another healthcare professional who provides care for him, she should do so. I’d argue that not doing so is unethical. That said, her resistance is bizarre and unprofessional - it would make me suspect he’s hiding something huge, frankly.


OP here. This does concern me. I agree - he is totally the driver. He doesn’t seem to get that he is the customer here. (Or client.)


I know he signed it because it was submitted on our account online. Our therapist wouldn’t have reached out to his without it.

Also you only know. What he’s telling you - you don’t know that he actually signed the consent.

And she might think that it would be harmful to him to talk with your marriage therapist
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:51     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:We only saw individual therapists who every 3rd time looped in the spouse.

Otherwise there is no accountability and a total waste of time and big money.

This is especially needed when mental disorders and maladaptive coping mechanisms are on display by unhealthy person.

What are you talking about? When an adult participates in *individual* therapy, they don't have to account to their spouse, neither does the therapist. We're not talking about a child, we are discussing an adult who can protect themselves and decide what they share with who.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:50     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Saying this falls under healthcare doesn't cover it. I've always understood that the individual is the patient in therapy but that in marriage the focus is on the marriage. Seems like different patients to me.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:48     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Looped in as did 30 minute joint session, then continued the other 20 mins with regular spouse. Other 2 times the full 50 mins was w the regular spouse
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:47     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

We only saw individual therapists who every 3rd time looped in the spouse.

Otherwise there is no accountability and a total waste of time and big money.

This is especially needed when mental disorders and maladaptive coping mechanisms are on display by unhealthy person.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:46     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is there to coordinate, though? Marriage therapy uses a different muscle, and has a different focus, than individual therapy. I wouldn’t necessarily think to have a marriage counselor consult with my individual therapist. I imagine you have specific circumstances that makes it more of a necessity?


Interdisciplinary healthcare is standard of practice. I don’t even consider couples therapy and individual therapy different disciplines, so this example is even more egregious; imagine if, say, someone’s PCP refused to talk to their ophthalmologist because it’s their “policy.” This situation is no different. As a therapist (I’m the psychologist PP), you’re darn right I want information from other healthcare professionals treating my patients, if there’s consent. It only improves my care - I’m one person and I only see this person in one context. When I worked inpatient, we had interdisciplinary rounds daily and at every single one of those, someone in one discipline, e.g., occupational therapy, shared information that a healthcare provider in a different discipline, e.g., psychiatry, hadn’t known about the patient and which was *relevant to their care*. Refusing to talk to any other healthcare professionals about anything is unethical care.


And what would you do if your long-time client cane to you with a consent to discuss his treatment with a marriage counselor, but told you that he signed it to placate his wife and he really didn't want you to have any discussions with the counselor?


Generally, I think it’s helpful in those cases to (1) examine why someone doesn’t want information shared and (2) see if we can come to an agreement on sharing some information. Some people seem to have a misunderstanding about what this kind of information sharing looks like. No one’s handing over audio recordings of any session or even progress notes from every session. It’s about two healthcare professionals having a phone/video call to discuss general issues of relevance, e.g., differential diagnosis, areas of treatment focus, etc.

To the PP who appreciated my earlier post about therapy being healthcare: thank you for your response. I’m glad you understood the point I was trying to make.

To the PP who thinks therapy isn’t healthcare: you’re wrong. Mental health is health. Licensed therapists are healthcare professionals just as much as are physicians, nurses, physical therapists, occupational therapists, audiologists, speech therapists, etc. Societal stigma around mental illness is problematic, but it doesn’t dictate, legally, what healthcare is, thank goodness.


Way to duck the question. If your patient was adamant about not speaking with or disclosing any information to the marriage therapist, would you insist on doing so? Would you tell the therapist that even though your patient signed the consent, he orally told you that he didn't want you to speak with the therapist? I doubt it. Or would you, perhaps, duck the therapist's calls, and only when she gets you on the phone inadvertently would you say that you have a policy of not discussing patients with anyone?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:45     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

OP, how long ago did he cheat?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:39     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is there to coordinate, though? Marriage therapy uses a different muscle, and has a different focus, than individual therapy. I wouldn’t necessarily think to have a marriage counselor consult with my individual therapist. I imagine you have specific circumstances that makes it more of a necessity?


Interdisciplinary healthcare is standard of practice. I don’t even consider couples therapy and individual therapy different disciplines, so this example is even more egregious; imagine if, say, someone’s PCP refused to talk to their ophthalmologist because it’s their “policy.” This situation is no different. As a therapist (I’m the psychologist PP), you’re darn right I want information from other healthcare professionals treating my patients, if there’s consent. It only improves my care - I’m one person and I only see this person in one context. When I worked inpatient, we had interdisciplinary rounds daily and at every single one of those, someone in one discipline, e.g., occupational therapy, shared information that a healthcare provider in a different discipline, e.g., psychiatry, hadn’t known about the patient and which was *relevant to their care*. Refusing to talk to any other healthcare professionals about anything is unethical care.


And what would you do if your long-time client cane to you with a consent to discuss his treatment with a marriage counselor, but told you that he signed it to placate his wife and he really didn't want you to have any discussions with the counselor?


Generally, I think it’s helpful in those cases to (1) examine why someone doesn’t want information shared and (2) see if we can come to an agreement on sharing some information. Some people seem to have a misunderstanding about what this kind of information sharing looks like. No one’s handing over audio recordings of any session or even progress notes from every session. It’s about two healthcare professionals having a phone/video call to discuss general issues of relevance, e.g., differential diagnosis, areas of treatment focus, etc.

To the PP who appreciated my earlier post about therapy being healthcare: thank you for your response. I’m glad you understood the point I was trying to make.

To the PP who thinks therapy isn’t healthcare: you’re wrong. Mental health is health. Licensed therapists are healthcare professionals just as much as are physicians, nurses, physical therapists, occupational therapists, audiologists, speech therapists, etc. Societal stigma around mental illness is problematic, but it doesn’t dictate, legally, what healthcare is, thank goodness.


Pressuring your client to share when they ask you not to also seems pretty unethical. I’d fire you on the spot if I didn’t think you were interested in keeping our therapy sessions confidential.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:37     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is there to coordinate, though? Marriage therapy uses a different muscle, and has a different focus, than individual therapy. I wouldn’t necessarily think to have a marriage counselor consult with my individual therapist. I imagine you have specific circumstances that makes it more of a necessity?


Interdisciplinary healthcare is standard of practice. I don’t even consider couples therapy and individual therapy different disciplines, so this example is even more egregious; imagine if, say, someone’s PCP refused to talk to their ophthalmologist because it’s their “policy.” This situation is no different. As a therapist (I’m the psychologist PP), you’re darn right I want information from other healthcare professionals treating my patients, if there’s consent. It only improves my care - I’m one person and I only see this person in one context. When I worked inpatient, we had interdisciplinary rounds daily and at every single one of those, someone in one discipline, e.g., occupational therapy, shared information that a healthcare provider in a different discipline, e.g., psychiatry, hadn’t known about the patient and which was *relevant to their care*. Refusing to talk to any other healthcare professionals about anything is unethical care.


And what would you do if your long-time client cane to you with a consent to discuss his treatment with a marriage counselor, but told you that he signed it to placate his wife and he really didn't want you to have any discussions with the counselor?


Generally, I think it’s helpful in those cases to (1) examine why someone doesn’t want information shared and (2) see if we can come to an agreement on sharing some information. Some people seem to have a misunderstanding about what this kind of information sharing looks like. No one’s handing over audio recordings of any session or even progress notes from every session. It’s about two healthcare professionals having a phone/video call to discuss general issues of relevance, e.g., differential diagnosis, areas of treatment focus, etc.

To the PP who appreciated my earlier post about therapy being healthcare: thank you for your response. I’m glad you understood the point I was trying to make.

To the PP who thinks therapy isn’t healthcare: you’re wrong. Mental health is health. Licensed therapists are healthcare professionals just as much as are physicians, nurses, physical therapists, occupational therapists, audiologists, speech therapists, etc. Societal stigma around mental illness is problematic, but it doesn’t dictate, legally, what healthcare is, thank goodness.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:30     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:Yes he signed a release.

Are you sure? He could have told you he did but asked his therapist to take the fall.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:28     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is there to coordinate, though? Marriage therapy uses a different muscle, and has a different focus, than individual therapy. I wouldn’t necessarily think to have a marriage counselor consult with my individual therapist. I imagine you have specific circumstances that makes it more of a necessity?


Interdisciplinary healthcare is standard of practice. I don’t even consider couples therapy and individual therapy different disciplines, so this example is even more egregious; imagine if, say, someone’s PCP refused to talk to their ophthalmologist because it’s their “policy.” This situation is no different. As a therapist (I’m the psychologist PP), you’re darn right I want information from other healthcare professionals treating my patients, if there’s consent. It only improves my care - I’m one person and I only see this person in one context. When I worked inpatient, we had interdisciplinary rounds daily and at every single one of those, someone in one discipline, e.g., occupational therapy, shared information that a healthcare provider in a different discipline, e.g., psychiatry, hadn’t known about the patient and which was *relevant to their care*. Refusing to talk to any other healthcare professionals about anything is unethical care.


And what would you do if your long-time client cane to you with a consent to discuss his treatment with a marriage counselor, but told you that he signed it to placate his wife and he really didn't want you to have any discussions with the counselor?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:09     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

I would assume he told her that he doesn't want her to talk to the marriage therapist and she's covering for him. I think its a little bit concerning you are so in the weeds on making sure this happens.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 14:07     Subject: DH’s therapist refused to talk to our marriage therapist

He's been in therapy for 6 years. What this tells me is that e has a lot of sh1t to work through and likely took a bit of time to establish trust and confidence with his therapist. Op, if you truly love him, let him have this safe place and person.