Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 21:47     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:It's a fair point that a student should never be 1:1 with a teacher with a door closed.

And the student should be frequently reminded that no teacher is ever allowed to ask a child to keep a secret about anything, and any one who does is trying to hurt the student.

And students should report any teacher who breaks these rules with any students.

We've had rapes in school.


Is any of what you describe included in OP’s post? No. In fact, the counselor informed the parent of a situation the parent was not aware of. Sounds like this counselor is not what you are afraid of.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 21:39     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’d have a problem with the fact that the school psychologist introduced themselves as Ms. X.


Why?


Also why? If a school employee signed her email “Charlotte” or “Linda” and I said to my kid “Hey I got an email from Charlotte” my kid would respond “Charlotte who?”
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 21:25     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes I would be concerned. I am a mandated reporter myself and the rules are pretty stringent. Some people use their common sense and wisdom more than others; some might report the slightest thing. You will be fine unless you are truly abusing your child but you will be subjected to checks before they clear you. I have made it a point to try to never have my child 1:1 with mandated reporters unless necessary (like a teacher). Your DD won’t be there alone but still.

TL;DR: I am concerned about any fly on the wall situation with a mandated reporter. I’d have a talk with my kid to keep things about his parents and home life to himself and basically to never forget there is a teacher there and be on his best behavior (no dumb jokes etc).


You sound like you are hiding abuse Just so you know.


Thank you for your concern. I am just spooked by cancel culture and dumb people reporting. Hopefully you will never come across either.


"Cancels" happened about 1/10th as often a rapes.

I have a son and I am not concerned about him being “raped” by a female counselor when other kids are present (eyeroll)
But yeah this could be a concern in a different situation
Anyway my point is that school adults aren’t your friends unless you are lacking something at home.


Not a single person has indicated the staff member is a 'friend's to the student - a caring adult, yes, which a person can never have too many.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 21:05     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
This is more common than you think. My kid and their friends ate lunch everyday in the math teacher's room. Sometimes they were getting help with math, which was allowed during lunch, and sometimes they were just hanging out in the background playing math games while other kids got help. It was more peaceful than the lunchroom, and I'm assuming they all behaved themselves or else they would not have been allowed to keep coming back.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 20:07     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
I would be ok with it. No problem at all.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 19:12     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid eats in the band room every day. It has been the best thing for them that happened in middle school. Safe place with like-minded people and a trusted adult quietly in the background? So grateful to that teacher for allowing it.


Very different from a psychologist office imo


What's the difference? She's not providing therapy.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 18:33     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:I’d have a problem with the fact that the school psychologist introduced themselves as Ms. X.

Why?!
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 15:48     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
This was me as a kid. The cafeteria was loud and smelly. Two of my friends and I were always negotiating our way into special situations to eat our lunch in empty classrooms, the counselor’s office, the nurse’s office which had a side room like a mini conference room…we were the same kids volunteering to reshelve books in the library during recess too. We were teachers pets and enjoyed being helpful.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 15:42     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes I would be concerned. I am a mandated reporter myself and the rules are pretty stringent. Some people use their common sense and wisdom more than others; some might report the slightest thing. You will be fine unless you are truly abusing your child but you will be subjected to checks before they clear you. I have made it a point to try to never have my child 1:1 with mandated reporters unless necessary (like a teacher). Your DD won’t be there alone but still.

TL;DR: I am concerned about any fly on the wall situation with a mandated reporter. I’d have a talk with my kid to keep things about his parents and home life to himself and basically to never forget there is a teacher there and be on his best behavior (no dumb jokes etc).


You sound like you are hiding abuse Just so you know.


Thank you for your concern. I am just spooked by cancel culture and dumb people reporting. Hopefully you will never come across either.


"Cancels" happened about 1/10th as often a rapes.

I have a son and I am not concerned about him being “raped” by a female counselor when other kids are present (eyeroll)
But yeah this could be a concern in a different situation
Anyway my point is that school adults aren’t your friends unless you are lacking something at home.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 15:39     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes I would be concerned. I am a mandated reporter myself and the rules are pretty stringent. Some people use their common sense and wisdom more than others; some might report the slightest thing. You will be fine unless you are truly abusing your child but you will be subjected to checks before they clear you. I have made it a point to try to never have my child 1:1 with mandated reporters unless necessary (like a teacher). Your DD won’t be there alone but still.

TL;DR: I am concerned about any fly on the wall situation with a mandated reporter. I’d have a talk with my kid to keep things about his parents and home life to himself and basically to never forget there is a teacher there and be on his best behavior (no dumb jokes etc).


You sound like you are hiding abuse Just so you know.


Thank you for your concern. I am just spooked by cancel culture and dumb people reporting. Hopefully you will never come across either.


"Cancels" happened about 1/10th as often a rapes.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 15:38     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
It's a fair point that a student should never be 1:1 with a teacher with a door closed.

And the student should be frequently reminded that no teacher is ever allowed to ask a child to keep a secret about anything, and any one who does is trying to hurt the student.

And students should report any teacher who breaks these rules with any students.

We've had rapes in school.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 15:37     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
? Yeah sounds fine. Sounds like the psychologist emailed so you didn’t think your kid was there bc they were invited for some kind of therapy reason and would worry about it.

In high school groups of kids use all sorts of school spaces to eat at least at ours….cafeteria is not big enough and kids want more private spaces with friends.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 14:31     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Like…it’s Lunch Bunch in the guidance counselor’s office. It’s fine.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 14:30     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes I would be concerned. I am a mandated reporter myself and the rules are pretty stringent. Some people use their common sense and wisdom more than others; some might report the slightest thing. You will be fine unless you are truly abusing your child but you will be subjected to checks before they clear you. I have made it a point to try to never have my child 1:1 with mandated reporters unless necessary (like a teacher). Your DD won’t be there alone but still.

TL;DR: I am concerned about any fly on the wall situation with a mandated reporter. I’d have a talk with my kid to keep things about his parents and home life to himself and basically to never forget there is a teacher there and be on his best behavior (no dumb jokes etc).


You sound like you are hiding abuse Just so you know.


Thank you for your concern. I am just spooked by cancel culture and dumb people reporting. Hopefully you will never come across either.
Anonymous
Post 07/06/2023 14:28     Subject: Would you let your child eat lunch in the school psychologist's office?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes I would be concerned. I am a mandated reporter myself and the rules are pretty stringent. Some people use their common sense and wisdom more than others; some might report the slightest thing. You will be fine unless you are truly abusing your child but you will be subjected to checks before they clear you. I have made it a point to try to never have my child 1:1 with mandated reporters unless necessary (like a teacher). Your DD won’t be there alone but still.

TL;DR: I am concerned about any fly on the wall situation with a mandated reporter. I’d have a talk with my kid to keep things about his parents and home life to himself and basically to never forget there is a teacher there and be on his best behavior (no dumb jokes etc).




This is the only creepy thing I’ve read on this thread.

The three mandates of dysfunctional families: don't feel, don't trust, don't tell.


It’s up to you what you do. Just know that “our if abundance of caution” reporting is a thing. I hope you never come across it.
Also the society now is such that sensitive conversations are best kept to a small circle of friends. Cancel culture is no joke.